Dear Agony Aunt: making new friends

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Posted: 16 years ago

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Dear Agony Aunt

Help me!!

I am not so good at making new friends. I will soon be leaving my current school and going onto a bigger school - and im worried about making new friends.

How do i make new friends? What can i do to approach people as im quite shy in nature.

Please help me...

Thanks

xox

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As a Agony Aunt what advice would you give this girl?

So lets try and give advice here😉

And so later we can create a factfile of different problems which are common, so next time you have a problem of a similar kind you can turn to these threads anonymously if you do not feel like posting your problem yourself.😳

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Posted: 16 years ago

well normally i didnt go out of my way to make frnds, you will get one frnd in day 1 , or may be two, with whom you wud share classes and all, stick to them. later as time will pass, your exams grades come up, you start participating in schoola activities you will meet up frnds,

i was and am a very shy person and it takes me almost a year to get friends whom i can truly say FRIENDS.

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Sonal

@swt.smileee

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Posted: 16 years ago

umm...making new friends..?

well..usually the first day you would meet sumone wid whom u just becum friends with...

either sumone sitting beside you.or sumone you asked help frm..or sumthin..

n as tym passes...u make more friends..

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Jessi

@mz.jess

Sparkler

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Posted: 16 years ago

Dear Me in need of help,

These kinds of situations need patience and belief in yourself. The key point to remember is your going into a new place, with new people. You may have been shy in your previous school, but don't bring that timidness with you to your new school. Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong in being shy, however confidence within a person is healthy and presentable among people. So try talking to your family and your old friends and ask them on ways they think you can improveyour people speaking skills, because they know you the best and for the longest period of time. Overall, try doing new things that you wouldn't have done before. Try to enhance yourself does not mean changing who you are, it means taking chances to make yourself feel better about you!

In result of all of this, people will want to be your friends! WIth your confidence, people will see you for who you are! :)

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Aishwarya

@-Aishwarya-

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Posted: 16 years ago

LOL, I have put this into a letter- lets imagine the person that wrote in is named Sarthak.

My reply 😛

Dear Sarthak,

First of all thanks for writing in and trusting me to help with your problem. You sound very worried but im sure if not all some of my advice will definately help you.

Now to tackle this situation. You are going to be new and so many people will not know you so why not join in some clubs to make friends! Also the others already have friends so they think that it is ok to be rude to the newbie (in this case you). If someone does that to you and leaves you out then stay cool. Explain that you are a loyal, caring, trustworthy friend and that you will never let them down.

If you tried talking to your mum and she said ''dont worry, you will soon make friends'' then dont panic, thats a common issue! Instead of talking about this with her you should have a conversation with with a school councillor or with your friend from yor current school. Never fear school though no matter what.

Remember Sarthak, there is light at the end of every tunnel. Wait for a while and you will be looded with allys! I hope my advice will help you.

Hoping to help,

Amazing Agony Aunt Aishwarya 😳

Hope you liked it guys, it isnt all that because I quickly wrote it.

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Arun - <--haa ji meri tasveer hai

@AsliiGuy

Dazzler

Posted: 16 years ago

I would tell her;

Dear AA,

How are you doing? (e-hug)

best advice - Be your self...let ppl like you for who you are. Who knows, there are many ppl out there who have the same likes.

Also Try to be more talkative in class (in a good way) like presentations etc.. Also be nice to every1, who knows who will be ur next BFF?

Well hope i helped, bc I need new friends too :'(

Arun,

PS: Keep smiling, some1 might like it and be like "Wow ur smile is just like mine, always going up!" (ok that was dumb :P )

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Posted: 16 years ago

Dear Agonized,

If you could open up yourself to speak about your problem (even anonymously) you should have no trouble in starting a cordial, formal chat with the person beside you. Since you're entering a new school keep in mind that your classmates would actually be interested and excited to welcome a new person to their group. Being shy should be in no way an excuse to develop amity.

Suppose you're visiting your cousins. Don't you put yourself in an amiable manner and have fun with 'em? Take your parents and your day-to-day interactions with them. Don't you shed your shyness and talk with 'em? Remember the shop owner in the next street. Doesn't he smile and always converse with you and enjoy your presence? These are but few instances you should keep in your mind and try not to get nervous while talking to new students.

Nevertheless if you still feel doubtful pick a paper and write out your hesitations. Shred it off and throw it away. I promise you though it sounds simple and a little less practical you will feel a great burden removed off your shoulders. Stand in front of the mirror and start an imaginary conversation. Try for a few days and you'll pick it up. Keep up a confident face and believe in yourself.

With all these remember that you are a student and your concentration should be mainly focused on acquiring knowledge. You could try your hands at extra-curricular activities and be active during the classes. Feel free to clear your doubts and help others. In a short period of time you will have no trouble in making friends!

I hope to see you successful in this matter. All the best!

Yours lovingly,

Agony Aunt

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petticoat

@petticoat

Stunner

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Posted: 16 years ago

Dear,
you are not alone in this problem. Most people face it even if they may try to hide it under false cheer.

The most important thing is "SMile". Keep a smile always on your face. It will make people smile back at you. SMile is always infectious. You are going to be new in the school. DOnt be shy to ask for help and when you get help thank them properly and make a small introduction but dont over do it.

The best place to start a proper conversation is either the cafeteria or your class room. The best person you can talk to as a start is the person sitting next to you! SMile! you dont even have to make small talk. as a newbie you are going to have a lot of questions, just ask 1 or 2.

Smile your way through the world and it will do wonders for you :)

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sonu

@sonur15

Rocker

Posted: 16 years ago

Dear,

Thanks for trusting me.Dont worry dear u are not the only one who is facing this problem so just relax.Whats important is your confidence and your smile...thats all..sooner or later people will be your friend.

First try to talk to that person whom u think is best person around u or whom u think u can talk to.There is nothing wrong in being shy Im sure there are many people around u who'll be your friend after knowing u .

Be nice to everyone and keep smiling.Dont panic....

your lovingly

Sonu

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