Conservative Thoughts V/S Modern thinking-Ur Take

Jo Ishq Ki Marzi Woh Rab Ki Marzi started on Sahara One from Monday March 9. In few words the show is all about 2 familes whose values and ethics supersede the love between their kids especially when the seeds of love were imbibed in them by their own families initially, and now the same love has become the wall of hatred in their love.

Instead of looking at it as a regular love story the show goes centuries back. But even today Indian culture holds clear demarcations and definitions when it comes to love between young adults. So could we compare the pre british era with today's 21st century parents and kids?? Here are a few questions that we have come with'

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Q1.Have parents become more liberal with their kids over time

- Have parents now become more liberal as compared to earlier?

- Are kids taking undue advantage of modern day parents?

Q2. Issues of caste and class in love relationships

- Are intercast marriages accepted openly in India?

- Is caste, creed, religion differ our love relationship?

Q3. Where should parents draw a line with respect to modernization

- Is modernization spoiling the youth?

- In this modernization age, have our children lost family values?

Q4 Culture: east vs. west

- To what extent Public display of affection between couples accepted in India?

- Have we openly accepted the western culture?

Q5. Are Kids allowed to take their own decisions

- How far do you think parents influence children's decisions?

Q1.Have parents become more liberal with their kids over time

- Have parents now become more liberal as compared to earlier?

- Are kids taking undue advantage of modern day parents?

Q2. Issues of caste and class in love relationships

- Are intercast marriages accepted openly in India?

- Is caste, creed, religion differ our love relationship?

- Is modernization spoiling the youth?

- In this modernization age, have our children lost family values?

Q4 Culture: east vs. west

- To what extent Public display of affection between couples accepted in India?

- Have we openly accepted the western culture?

Q5. Are Kids allowed to take their own decisions

- How far do you think parents influence children's decisions?

Q1.Have parents become more liberal with their kids over time

- Have parents now become more liberal as compared to earlier?

- Are kids taking undue advantage of modern day parents?

Q2. Issues of caste and class in love relationships

- Are intercast marriages accepted openly in India?

- Is caste, creed, religion differ our love relationship?

Q3. Where should parents draw a line with respect to modernization

- Is modernization spoiling the youth?

- In this modernization age, have our children lost family values?

Q4 Culture: east vs. west

- To what extent Public display of affection between couples accepted in India?

- Have we openly accepted the western culture?

Q5. Are Kids allowed to take their own decisions

- How far do you think parents influence children's decisions?

Q1.Have parents become more liberal with their kids over time

- Have parents now become more liberal as compared to earlier?

No, not my family. I didn't have a cell phone until a year ago, my internet use was restricted and I'd be closely watched where I go and stuff. I hate all that and I hate to be under scrutiny 24/7 but I do realize that they want the best for me. And by all means they want me to be protected and cared for.

- Are kids taking undue advantage of modern day parents?

Yep some parents have more liberal than needed and that's only doing harm to their kids. Young teens go out and drink and smoke and do drugs and they end up hurting their lives. I think all parents should give their kids liberty and personal space but at the same time make sure they aren't getting into serious trouble.

Q2. Issues of caste and class in love relationships

- Are intercast marriages accepted openly in India?

I am not sure about India since I live in the US.

- Is caste, creed, religion differ our love relationship?

You mean is it important in our love relationship? No I don't think so, When you fall in love these things hardly matter or should hardly matter since I can't say anything from experience. I haven't been in love yet.

Q3. Where should parents draw a line with respect to modernization

- Is modernization spoiling the youth?

No I don't think so. All of us need to go step ahead with time otherwise we'll be left too far behind. But what kind of modernization we are talking about does matter as well. I would say we've been modernized in a sense that we no longer accept slavery. We think that girls have an equal right to education and all the luxuries of life. So that's modernization as well but a good one and a needed one. But if modernization means wearing inappropriate clothes, doing drugs, drinking and rejecting your culture then yes it is spoiling the youth and ruining their future.

- In this modernization age, have our children lost family values?

I sure hope to think no. I can account for myself at least. I don't drink not because I fear getting grounded by because I really do think that it's wrong to drink because essentially you're poisoning your body. I understand my values and I will never compromise with them. Not because I am afraid my family will be angry, but because I genuinely believe in them. But I also do know some teens who would do anything to fit in and be 'modern.'

Q4 Culture: east vs. west

- To what extent Public display of affection between couples accepted in India?

I think public display of affection is not really necessary. Kissing and all that is your private matter and it should be kept private, why make a public spectacle out of it? But as far as holding hands is concerned or maybe hugging once in a while, I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

- Have we openly accepted the western culture?

My family hasn't, but from the movies I see, it seems like the media is portraying that a lot of people have.

Q5. Are Kids allowed to take their own decisions

- How far do you think parents influence children's decisions?

When children are younger, then the parents have a lot of direct influence on their decisions - whether or not they will go to that camp, which classes they will take and everything but as they grow older, they like to be independent and make their own decisions. But I do believe that if they have been brought up well then their parents ideologies will stay with them forever and they will always respect their opinions.

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Q1.Have parents become more liberal with their kids over time

- Have parents now become more liberal as compared to earlier?

- Are kids taking undue advantage of modern day parents?

It depends on the society and the way parents think of it. I've seen parents who have been quiet liberal and some are way to strict with children. I personally believe that parents must understand thier kids and not force them for each and everything. Thay definately do have a right to decide at their children's future but they must also have a work with thier children on this ..... they must not always think that their child can never take correct decisions as this Opinion often leads to children take wrong steps.

Q2. Issues of caste and class in love relationships

- Are intercast marriages accepted openly in India?

- Is caste, creed, religion differ our love relationship?

I think in India ppl are still not in a state of accepting intercaste marriages. They actually term and judge it as per Society. Parents often feel that if thier son or daugter get married in some other caste or lower caste this might hamper thier status in the socitey and amongst the family. And the end result is always something that leads to heart breaks

Q3. Where should parents draw a line with respect to modernization

- Is modernization spoiling the youth?

- In this modernization age, have our children lost family values?

Modernizations can be seen in 2 different ways ..... one's to give so much of freedom to children is that that the parents themselves dont know where thier children are and where the children's future lies in and other one would be though parents give Freedom to thier children but they keep a track of thier children's day to day life and also the children keep updating parents abt thier where abouts.

I wont say modernization has spolied the generation or lost family value. Its upto the childrens as to how they use thier freedom given by thier parents. And also upto parents as to how much freedom they give thier children.

Even in the age of Modernization we have many families where the children do follow values and tradations

Q4 Culture: east vs. west

- To what extent Public display of affection between couples accepted in India?

- Have we openly accepted the western culture?

Here we can have a mixed reactions. Though we see that couples are allowed to go out and meet each other b'fore marriage but some still feel that its against customs and tradation that we follow since years.

But am sure we would have ppl accept this very soon😳

Q5. Are Kids allowed to take their own decisions

- How far do you think parents influence children's decisions?

Q1.Have parents become more liberal with their kids over time

- Have parents now become more liberal as compared to earlier?

As far as I know, yes! I'm not too sure about India because i live in the US other than the few families of cousins and such. But i definitely thing that parents are def. more liberal and i am glad too. And i think that this change is a good thing.

- Are kids taking undue advantage of modern day parents?

Yes, some kids are taking undue advantage but its same across the board whether the parents are liberal or conservative. And in my experience, it is the kids of the conservative that end up being the wildest cuz they want to try what their parents are forbidding for them.

Q2. Issues of caste and class in love relationships

- Are intercast marriages accepted openly in India?

Def. more in the urban, educated population.

- Is caste, creed, religion differ our love relationship?

No, as long as the two people are compatible and like/love each other and understand each other, it doesn't matter. Again, since living in the US i can't comment much on inter-caste relationships but i have def. seen many inter-racial and inter-religion relationships and they work just as well. I don't think caste, religion, race matter in this day and age where everything is so globalized.

Q3. Where should parents draw a line with respect to modernization

- Is modernization spoiling the youth?

I don't think modernization spoils anyone or anything, it only helps us, makes life easier for us. But the decisions and choices one makes is what can be bad for or be good for youth.

- In this modernization age, have our children lost family values?

No, for the most part the morals and values stay. I am very "modern" as people would say - i make my own decisions, am independent, etc. but i still have all my values and morals and so do most of my friends. But, some old-school values just don't work nowadays. I remember, when i was younger it was stressed over and over that don't talk back to elders no matter what they say, I think that def. doesn't work anymore in a day and age where kids know more about certain things than elders and def. should have a say about their opinion.

Q4 Culture: east vs. west

- To what extent Public display of affection between couples accepted in India?

In India, I think maybe hand holding is the most people do. Here in the US, everything goes. Personally, I think hand holding, cuddling and even a bit of kissing is okay as long as you aren't making anyone uncomfotable.

- Have we openly accepted the western culture?

I def. agree with Mahi - the media sure seems to have accepted it. But i think some aspects we have def. accepted and others depend more from person to person or family to family.

Q5. Are Kids allowed to take their own decisions

- How far do you think parents influence children's decisions?

There is def. an influence, more so in some decisions than in others - it just depends on the decision. Like, the clothes I wear aren't influenced by my parents but when I selected my college I def. kept them in mind when making my decision.