Weekly Discussion- Love or Self Respect

Dear fellow KAians,

Here are my thoughts specifically that rushed out when i rewatched KA's heartbreaking anniversary episode where they accuse each other and break away up in front of everyone.

Love is very important, an emotion that brings us much in our life. However self respect for some strange reason is given the same importance It defines our dignity as a person and to lose that means to fall in our own eyes, to battle one's own conciense. To have love and self respect competeing with each other in your heart would be a tough decision to make. Would you sacrifice your love for your self respect, to make a point. Or would you be able to live with and want your love at the cost of your self respect.

This thought stems from KA's episode but really post your views by putting yourself in Anjali's shoes. Think of anyone for the other end, one you love dearly as in friend, husband, parents even.

Please post your views.

lovely discussion di 😊 i will post my views in a awhile, still dabbing dry my eyes 😭

Uzi huni, let your emotions flow like that water which breaks its shackles from the flood gates 😆

nice topic 👏 !! what u said is true. sometimes it does happen in life where u have to choose between your love and self respect. as for anjali she chose her self respect because at that time her love was not by her side and she needed justice. many a times anji was insulted but yet she stayed with kavya that is she chose her love and kavya was her weakness. but the wedding anniversary showed us how anji's self respect overcame her love because kavya insulted her infront of everyone and on top of that disowned his child.

but now circumstances have changed and anjali is no more the same i mean she accepted to work with kavya. the old anji wouldnt have done so. even she chose her self respect but the baby was a part of kavya(her love)and now after losing the baby maybe thats what is making her coming closer to kavya. now her love is overcoming her self respect.

"self-respect is not a matter of what you are doing in life,
but rather of how you are doing it.
it requires that you bring good quality and
virtue into each action,
whatever that action may be."

Originally posted by: 3 angels

"self-respect is not a matter of what you are doing in life,
but rather of how you are doing it.
it requires that you bring good quality and
virtue into each action,
whatever that action may be."

Very true Khyatee. But what would you have done if you were Anjali, would you have worked with the situation differently or exaclty the same that Anjali has done/is doing?

" let your tears come, let them water your soul"😳

ok i will take ur advice di😳😆

umm ok, these are my entirely my take on things so i will understand if others disagree😊...

I think it's very easy to "lose" everything when in love. You can become so consumed and lost in that person that nothing else matters. To tell you the truth i see no problem in this, the problems only arise as they have in K~A when one party injures another (Gosh that sounds like a personal injury suit😆) Anjali has been hurt so much so much so that i find it hard to fathom. I dont want to get into the whole "debate" as to who was to blame.. the truth is there that there has been a breakdown in their relationship. I hesitate to even call it a "break down" because there is so much more to it then just a relation "breaking" or ceasing to be on paper.

To be broken, to fall to such depths that you really cant see where and how to rebuild your life.. that is exactly what happened with anjali but she always the "sahaara" of carrying her child. She was able to reason with the situation that Yes she lost her self-esteem and self respect, she didnt once retort when kavya lamented and threw those ferocious monologues at her~ but she compromised, because in a unique way she still "had" her love in the form of her baby.. what happens now who know's but as yug said anjali and kavya share a "dhurd kar rishta" such a relation will always bring them close together, no matter how far the distance or the differences..

Ok am done for now.. those tears are coming again😆 will add to my post later😳

👏 Exceptional concept Rindam di, so much so i'm struggling to synthesise my thgts into logic!😆

I have experienced people doing whatever they feel is right to uphold thier self-respect but never in balance with true love weighing down on them. So i feel i wont be able to do justice to this post but i will try.

I quite agree with Khyatee's sentiments and in some respects Uzi di, as love is unique for all who experience it. Each love is defined, by the people involved, so i say it depends on the type of person you are. If you are one to take a stand and oppose the wrongs in the world i.e. Anji then when injustice, in the form of false accusations upon ur unborn child are presented, you will choose self-respect.

I can understand self-respect ,everyone has it in varied intensities but not all are blessed to know love. Especially, the kind of love KA share.
So when the situation called for her to compromise her self-respect, in order to maintain her love, she did so, but thier anniversary was the last straw, and self-respect reigned. I dare touch upon the 'blame' debate, but any ordinary human being would not have stayed quiet and endured such harsh words, and Anji is all about her principles, so it was to be expected. After all, for how long would she sacrifice her self-respect for a guy who did not appeciate her love.

Now circumstances have changed and her self-respect has faded into the background once more, with her love being revived by her 'dhurd kar rishta' with K!😃 She needs K more than anyone right now, as only time and his understanding can heal the wounds left on her soul by her child's 'death'.

Ideally, people should make love important always, but sometimes love is not enough, self-respect make us loves ourselves, if we lose that, how do we love others. Or is it society, that socialises us into the illusions that self-respect moulds our dignity, which must be upheld at all times?😕

Sum up: Love should rule in any situation, but fact is it dont due to our hierarchy of needs....some need more to feel complete!😳
Ok i'm gonna stop now, coz i feel i'm making no sense at all! Plus i'm over writing..doubt anyone can be bothered to read this nonsense!😆

Aw Uzi, That essay was sooooo uzi like. You are in form again. Will add some of my thoughts too after lunch, or Ill die of hunger before anything. 😆

every wife wants that her husband trust her and stand by her side in every difficult moments. if i was in anjali's place i would have chosen my self respect i mean after the wedding anniversary scene. whats the use to prove myself innocent infront of strangers when the one who is dear to my heart and whom i love the most is insulting me and accusing me of infidelity. this love becomes weak and self respect overcomes it.

but now as situations have changed and time also has flown by, after the baby is no more and sharing my grief with my husband, maybe i would take a step towards him as a normal human being i mean share our pain. only the real parents know what it is to lose a baby maybe then love would overcome self respect.

Originally posted by: Rindam

Aw Uzi, That essay was sooooo uzi like. You are in form again. Will add some of my thoughts too after lunch, or Ill die of hunger before anything. 😆

😆 enjoy lunch! thnks di, and again your perception of matters is spot on! Uzi is indeed back after a long time and this time to stay..😳

and she's raring to go..😆😃

desi huni what you called "nonsense" i call a well thought out and balanced arguement. Your views on self-love and the social pressures that one may face are truly applaudble😳👏👏

It really made me think, a nice change from my usual "eijoo thoughts"😆