Mom's the word !!!!

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Posted: 16 years ago
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Friends......... this topic has nothing to do with MRD .......... But I dont know where else to post it and I badly want all of you to read it.....

Jo, ......... plz let it stay for a day or two ..... then it can be removed .....

So here goes .....

I think I mentioned that I'm in-charge of my house for the past 3 weeks now ...... Mom is away staying with my maasi whose in post-operative care .......

And I want to say something to all the Moms world over ............

MOM ......... U R THE GREATEST !!!!!!!!

I never imagined what I was letting myself in for, when I blithely assured Mom she could go without a care and I would take charge of the house ....

So off Mom went ..... And I smiled and waved without the slightest hint of what was going to happen ..... This was the first time Mom was leaving me, solely in-charge ..... ( My married big sister was always around before .....)
My day starts at 6.30 am ....... collect the milk .... boil it ...... colllect the papers .... put it on the teapoy ......
Turn on the geyser ...... start planning for the breakfast .... and make tea in the meantime ..... ( I swear, I sometimes brush my teeth after putting the milk on the stove )
Dad wakes up at 5.30 or so and goes for his morning constitutional .......
When he returns .... he goes straight to the sit-out and pulls out the paper ....
That is a clue that the tea is to be served there - piping hot !!!!
And can you believe it, like Kranti, I was carrying on a romance with the WPB !!!!!!
The garbage collector comes at 7.00 am ....... in the middle of all my morning chores....
I have to remember to put the WPB out ..... else it'll sit there, overflowing with trash, and smile at me tauntingly .......... for the rest of the day ......
I've even got out of bed with a jump imagining I missed the garbage van .......
I swear I'm awake before my alarm can go off ..........
Big brother wakes up at 7.30 and does not come out of his room till he is finished with pushing and pulling every single muscle in his body ......... ( I frankly dont know, why they put up with him) ....
First thing he does is, pat me on the head and say "All done kid?" ...... with a very patronising smile ..........
I give him a look that should burn him on the spot ......... but surprisingly he doesn't seem too bothered .......
If he was not older to me by 7 years / heavier to me by 20 odd kgs / taller than me by a foot ..........
the story would have been diff ..........
But as it is, I give him tea with a martyred look ........ totally lost on him .......
and he has the gall to wonder why there is a thin brown film on the surface of the tea, "Didn't you make it now, fresh ???" ......... I did contemplate emptying the tea cup over his head ......... But then .... I couldn't reach ............
And I have to be in office by 9.30 am and return home by 1.00 pm to start lunch ........ even as I'm sweating in the kitchen I start fretting about tomorrow's breakfast menu ............ I dread the "Dosas today also ???" question / comment ........
Rolling out a perfectly round chapathi and roasting another simultaneously is nothing short of a magic trick .......One that I am yet to master ...... But I'm learning..... and I have burnt fingers and bruised toes ( when the rolling pin rolled off the kitchen counter ) to prove it ....... And boy ....... have I learnt to swear !!!!!!!!
My Mom retired a year back ............. but her routine has not changed a bit for the past 30 years.......... the same old household chores that need to be done ....
Ever wonder ........ Who sets the newspaper in order, after we've all done fighting with it ?? Mom does ..........
Who cleans the yard in front of the house and draws the rangoli every single day ...........Mom does
Who remembers to turn on the geyser 365 days a year, so we all get hot water in time ...... Mom does ......
Who take out the trash can, so there's never old rotting / stinking over-flowing trash in the house ....Mom does .......
Who remembers to re-stock vegetables / fruits / cereal / anything and everything .........Mom does .......
Who remembers birthdays / festivals / anniversaries / school days / college gatherings / project deadline ......... Mom does ......... And acts accordingly ....
making sweets / arranging for the pooja / reminding us to carry our project stuff ........
Who gives you the towel, when you forget to carry one while having a bath ........Mom does
Who collects all the empty water bottles ..... refills them and puts it in the fridge ......
so that we lazy bums have cool water when we are back home .......... Mom does
Who remembers that someone does not like curry leaves and someone else does not like to chewing pieces of ginger in the curry .....Mom does .........
She serves my brother after picking out curry leaves and for my Dad's sake she grates the ginger ......
Who runs the washing machine every day, so we never run out of fresh clothes ..... Mom does
Now things are diff .........after the first 2 weeks I put my foot down .........
Now Daddy dear, is in-charge of the trash can ..........
Big bro is to collect & boil milk and make tea while I clean up the yard and house ......
Everyone is to do their own washing ........
Dad will clear old news papers and magazines and spruce up the living room .......
And no one will talk of curry leaves or ginger or anything that remotely sounds like a whine or complaint ........ Dad has learnt to roast the chapathis while I roll them out .........
I'm cracking the proverbial whip .........
Dad and big bro are not daring to cross my path now ......
I heard brother plead with Mom to come home soon ........
But I've decided ...... I'm backing Mom to the hilt now , after she returns .......
All the members of the house will jolly well do their own stuff .......
And .... if I ever hear that deprecating "She's only a housewife" comment anywhere .......... I swear I'll strangle that person ..........
So .........I've posted this as a tribute to Moms all over ........
Whew ............ that felt good ......... letting off all the steam ............
Sorry once again for posting something out of the subject ...........
Edited by Dawn Idol - 16 years ago

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morningdew thumbnail
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Sweetheart... 👏 this is for you.. 🤗
What you wrote, is so, so true.. and straight from the heart.. I read it once, twice, and then again..
Nothing comes up to the kind of sacrifice our mothers do, have done, and will continue to do..without expecting anything in return. ( Well, one small expectation, love, and respect. )
There is no relationship which is purer than this, no sentiment which is as selfless, and no love greater.
The sad part, we take it for granted, till either, she goes away (even if for a short while), or till we ourselves become parents.
A salute to motherhood, a salute to Mothers.. NO amount of thanks can start to compensate for what they do for us, unfailingly, day on day, thruout their lives.
Mom is indeed the greatest !!
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Dawn,

I read this and went to help my Ma and came back to reply. 😊 Mothers are beautiful... and complaining is not the word to be found in their dictionary.

Thank you Dawn for sharing... 😃
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Posted: 16 years ago
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DI !!!!!!! 👍🏼 👍🏼 👍🏼

I feel very angry when people lightly😡 😡 ..comment...My mom/Wife is a home maker ....

all u r statements..very true and real 😆 😆
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Posted: 16 years ago
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You may have noticed, but I have remained silent for the past 1-2 days. I am hardly visiting the forum and have begged Joey to give me time to reply to her queries. Today I decided to do some 5 minutes reading here when I noticed D_I's long post. I don't know what prompted me to read it.

How should I start and what should I speak

This past week has been pretty bleak

It was this same week many years ago

That my face lost its shine and my eyes their glow.

The love my mother gave me was so sublime

She'd wipe from my face every little trace of grime

Through joy and pain, she'd hold me all the time

Or treat me to ice creams or soda and lime.

The sea and the sky were blue no more

It rained and thundered like never before

Fate's dagger struck my heart to the core

Tears flowed out till my eyes were sore.

I pleaded in a whisper, and cried, "Don't go away",

But God took her and wouldn't let her stay

Nobody seemed to listen to what I had to say

Will happiness ever again come my way?

There'll always be a longing for you that I crave

For all the things you did and all the things you gave

Though over the years I've learnt to be brave

Here now I kneel silently, in tears by your grave.

It was Shakespeare I think who said, the world's not a place for the melacholy. So I was debating whether to write this here in the forum or PM it to you.

Even if I haven't been so lucky, I sincerely wish that all of you have your mothers right beside you for a long long time.
Edited by skeptical - 16 years ago
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Dawn how could u even think that I will remove such a beautiful post from here👏...U really made me emotional today ...and this topic truely touched my heart😳
For me life without my mother was next to impossible till I shifted my base in my Sasural and I could feel that all of a sudden I became all alone and that safe hand which always used to remain on top of my head 24/7 is not there anymore😭...Today I could actually realize her importance in my life...Mayb a Woman is said to b incomplete thats why ..till she becomes a mother herself😳
U know I hv some beautiful collections of poems on importance of mother in a child's life written by Joanna Fuchs...one of them is my personal favourite..thought of putting it here😳
Mom, I look at you
and see a walking miracle.
Your unfailing love without limit,
your ability to soothe my every hurt,
the way you are on duty, unselfishly,
every hour, every day,
makes me so grateful
that I am yours, and you are mine.
With open arms and open heart,
with enduring patience and inner strength,
you gave so much for me,
sometimes at your expense.
You are my teacher,
my comforter, my encourager,
appreciating all, forgiving all.
Sometimes I took you for granted, Mom,
but I don't now, and I never will again.
I know that everything I am today
relates to you and your loving care.
I gaze in wonder
as I watch you being you'
my miracle, my mother.
Its a beautiful poem and can actually explain our inner feelings very well in words😳
PS.:Skepti I m coming to u via pm😃
Edited by jyoti06 - 16 years ago
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Posted: 16 years ago
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aww what a sweet post true we dont learn their importance till we actually become mothers ...or they go away.. i want to quote a punjabi poem here.... will translate the poem here.
i cant see more dense green tree than mother
god made heaven by taking its shade on loan..
all the trees or world loose their freshness when root dires of..
this tree only dries when ..flowers..r gone😭
poem in punjabi was really beautiful cant do jsutice in english but thats what it means ..
skepy..amazing poem..and very touching god bless u
also friends am bit less active these days will eb back soon hopefully next week see u all .....thansk for such sweet powerfull and friendly forum
jyo isnt this forum like shady tree today...😳
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Posted: 16 years ago
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dawn it was so nice

I felt the same whem my mom went to my maasi's house last year just for five days. thanks for sharing
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Prof!! the world is a place for melancholy 🤢
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Dawn you have touched a chord here. When I was with my mon I didnt know how the house use to be always organised, and squeaky clean. How come we always had ht meals on our tables all the time, how come our clothes were so well organised, how come my dads all whites (he is in legal profession) use to be so white and I got my answer now hard way though after being married and now a mom I struggle with all the things which I took forgranted while I was staying with mom.
However such is life and you have done the best thing of doing a job division in your house. It will surely help her a lot.

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