Originally posted by: Zubi2008
Put urself in Tanya's shoes. the girl has no voice to begin with. She was always been the quiet person. and there is nothing wrong with that. she couldn't even save herself from kanaiyah when the sun is out and bright how is she suppose go through something that horrible. And when u r raped, rape victims dont come seek family help. family realizes something is wrong and goes to help instead.
then comes the sindoor. according to them as soon as u put the sindoor u r married. as soon as its off u are not married. now it maybe ur opinion that it doesnt matter but to them it did and raj married her on the spot. I don believe in sindoors i am not even hindu but i respect it. she tried to wipe it off yuvraj stopped it. kudos to her for trying. the marriage blame goes to yuvraj not tanya.
and did i miss a episode? I think i did? was trishna drugged into marrying Rajdeep the innocent guy? was she dragged? was she beaten into marrying him? maybe she was hypnotized? or blackmailed?? if ur answer is anything like family pressure or she was still in a shock or it happened to fast. Then people let me tell u rape's shock is worst. it beats heartbreak. tanya also was under family pressure and etc etc.
if trish's marriage breaks and she ends up suffering the blame is all hers. Yuvraj tried to fix her up with Rajdeep but atleast he had a noble cause in mind. The fact that it didnt work out is out of his control. So the blame is all Trishnas.
Tanyas marriage already happened the second he put the sindoor on. again u might not belive thats how weddings happen but in the show according to them they are married as soon as the maang is filled. So being the good quiet follower she is, she decided not to say anything. But she tried. her sis wouldn't listen to her. Raj and kul told her not to. she saw her sis in pain but atleast she knows she is settled well.
only 2 things bother me in this show and how people are seeing it
1.
ever had a heartbreak? ever thought u couldnt live w/o someone but they turned out to be someone else and broke ur heart. lets hope so. or dont talk about it. it feels like death but it's not that bad. u move on given time. Trishna is lucky to have good husband maybe trish fans r feeling bad because she ended up w/ the uglier guy. as for marriage she wasnt drugged into marrige. she didnt want it then she shouldnt have married him.
2.
now ever got raped? or even had anyone touch u the wrong way who u didnt want. maybe u knew someone who got raped. have u seen what that person goes through?
Kudos to tanya that she is moving on. u want to blame her moving on? if its about telling trish do u know realisticly how many ppl hide their rape. how humiliating it is?
trish doesnt have to forgive her. Forgiving is a very great trait and trish isnt great. she doesnt have to forget either. bad on her part she doesnt have the brain to question a sister she knew all her life. she seeked the answers from the guy. she still doesnt mind to talk to the guy but she wont say a word to tanya. is the guy more important. her pain more looks like that she lost her fav toy and not that her sister did somethign wrong. it doesnt kill her to see tanya who betrayed her or raj who betrayed her. it hurts to see them together because she wanted him for herself. then asking her if she stole someone? why wuld u even want a guy that can be stolen? thank ur lucky stars that he is taken away from u. what does stealing mean? u dont steal people.
to quote u precisely
-- "Deep has got $$$, he "loves" Trish or "having Trish." So? That's nice and all, but she loves Yuv only. And why should we expect her to be open-minded and accepting of this?"
She shouldnt be open minded. But she should listen to what yuv told her. He didn't want to marry a girl like her. If i was her I would be insulted and never look at him again. She married Rajdeep on her own. If u have no plan to move on dont mess up another guys life. But she is moving on kudos to her!
--" This type of betrayal has changed Trish's life. Tanya got raped, but with the help of her family, she should have dealt with it...she did not have to rape others of the things they love. For what??? I'm incredulous."--
trish got betrayed. she didnt have to betray Rajdeep. Tanya didnt have her whole family backing her up. Trish had everyone. Again tanya had no one, she had everyone. dont say well tanya couldve gone and told her family. no thats not how it happens. rape victims dont come and say " hey listen so the other day i got raped, now can u help me?"
-- " You mentioned Trish's reaction makes her a "bad sister." So what does it make the innocent Tanya?? Tanya's decisions have ruined her sister's life and future -- maybe Trish will get over it, maybe not. "--
Nothing makes Tanya a good sister. She made wrong decisions. But overall trish seems like quite insensitive person. And tanya is till the caring one. bottomline she has been crying since the second raj married her. It wasnt for fun or the fact now she missed out on the golden chance to be kanaiyah's wife. its because she hurt her sister. Trish hasnt thought about a single person excet how she lost raj. oh yes she cried!!!! she cried because she lost raj. more because she lost him and she was betrayed.
-- "believe some of the descriptors are misplaced. I know you mention Trish's insensitivity. But I really have to disagree with you. Poor little Tanya was the insensitive one, period. HER very decision to go ahead with the wedding broke her sister's trust and love. I mean how can it not? Did Tanya even CONSIDER her sister when marrying Yuv, doing the pheras at the mandir? She did NOT; hence, technically, she's the inconsiderate one right?"
i know they didnt do any pheras in the mandir, unless i missed it. if i remember correctly the girl was still having nightmares of kanaiyah even after marrying Raj. it's not a state where u think about someone else. then during the whole wedding precess where trish was acting cold i remember tanya crying. and even the wedding she was higly depressed and raj dragged her to it. atleast I can say both times during the wedding she was dragged to it. for trish not a single excuse for cheating rajdeep.
I am not asking trish to forget and forgive but she should question. why wouldnt u question the sister u knew all her life? thats so dumb. and last but not least anyone who wants to talk realisticly and wants to put me in trish's shoes, been there. Go put urself in tanya's shoes now. Give the girl a break. She has been through the most in this show. she does need a backbone though. Hopefully she will get one soon. thats a personality type. Its not something that just happens or u make a decision to be stronger over night. its a process. and since she finally answered trish the other day maybe she is starting to get one.
if u want to take out ur anger because raj and trish separated and she got the uglier guy then blame Raj. he wanted to sacrifice for his best friend who couldnt live w/o trishna. And he decided to save Tanya. Tanya didnt wrap herself over him. why is it that everyone is pointing fingers at tanya rarely anyone at raj?
