What is going on? - Page 8

Originally posted by: $weet Ema

Minu, the sensible would have been to pm Opti directly rather than make create a issue over it in the forum. If you had pmed opti explaining you took offense at her comment, there was a possibilty that the matter could have been sorted out privately which would have been more sensible than pointing fingers in the open forum. Comments made by Sita on Opti are totally uncalled for, reading such attacks make me feel really uncomfortable, so imagine how Opti feels, this is totally unacceptable, making digs and attacks on members over an issue that could have been talked over through pm. This is why I don't like coming on the forum anymore, because of people's level of intolerance, this forum used to be the most friendliest, but now the digs, sniggering, indirect comments make me uncomfortable, and what feels worst is that this happening between people who I think of as friends in the forum.

i don't think so tht optimist has ever expalined any thing to anyone thru pm ???

many ppl r leaving the forum becaz of such preachy ppl ,so ppl grow up & let members discuss whther they wanna discuss shachi or michi !! it's their own choice !!!

Originally posted by: Bee-dz

As much as I do not wish to get dragged in to this since i only know whats going on in here in bits and pieces, I'd like to explain what Optimist meant and what i understood - which really is the ONLY way to understand her view. (p.s- sorry optimist, i hope u dont mind... im doing this from a comment-reader's POV.)

When I read her comment, and i still remember it, I recall nodding my head in agreement and smiling at that rather unique analogy. Well, im a dog-lover myself and have owned different breeds of dogs as a kid and while growing up. And it is the most instsinctive thing for an animal lover (dog or whichever) to stroke the neck and ears while showing affection.. Since, Shabir is a dog lover himself, all Optimist did was draw a comparison/similarity to his WAY of displaying affection... MEANING - If Shabir always seemingly reaches out to panchi's ears, then it could be due to the fact that he does it so frequently at home... and it being a natural reaction is all that she meant to imply.

when people do something almost instintively it only indicates that they are used to doing it which is why it comes out spontaneously thereby turning out to look like a default reaction.. And ONLY because we were on the topic of EARS, did she draw that comparison. It does NOT mean that Panchi is being called any kind of animal or any bodypart of hers being reffered to that of one.... In fact, it had only one implication and that of the above with absolute no innuendo whatsoever...

How does that sound disgusting to u? Well, if it does, it only goes to show that you MISUNDERSTOOD her comment! If Optimist meant otherwise, we'd have a whole bunch of members reacting to her comments.. As far as i recall, we had more people laugh. Her comments were made in jest and should be taken lightly - just as all discussions in this forum!

Whoever said this forum has become boring, sure spoke to early!

Sita11, i hope my explanation helps and clears the air on 1 issue at least. :)

sorry u cud hv enjoyed tht filthy ,stupido joke but i hated it !! 😡

Originally posted by: optimist

Yasmin, it is realy pointless arguing here. People would continue to believe what they want to believe. I may have fallen in the eyes of some - people who claimed to love me, people who claimed to have been inspired by my posts. But then again, I cannot please everyone every time. My views need not always be acceptable to everyone and I am not foolish enough to believe that they should accept it. As long as my conscience is clear, which it is, I needn't bother with anything else. And as far as I am concerned many of these members are so much younger to me, maybe nearly half my age. So I do not want to get into a fight with them. Let them say what they want and interpret me as they choose.

same here ,who wanna spoil ones mood by fussing wid preachy ppl like u !!! remember tht ppl r not goona write their comments according to ur wish !!! every body has a point of view of their own !!!

dear after fussing in all these pages wid long expalnations ur saying u don't wanna fight anymore ?? how diplomatic !!!

Sita, I felt Shabbo looked uncomfortable in that scene 'cute' Michi scene, I felt that back then and I still feel that now. I guess I should expect to be labelled 'foolish', 'low', 'wierdish' as well for not comforming to your opinion of the scene. Two wrongs don't make a right, your a representative of the I-F team, but you go about labelling a member in this very thread the above phrases. The reality is that your attack on a member is totally uncalled for.

Originally posted by: optimist

Thanks Bee for understanding and explaining my POV. Yes, some people seem to read what they want to read. I really cannot help it. Unfortunately my sense of humour does not go down with some. These people claim to love me a lot if I say something which is favourable to Shachi but the minute I crack a joke at Shachi, they take me for a Shachi hater. That is the reason I stay clear of discussions about Shachi these days.

if u r in a habit of cracking such stupido & down market joke sthen it will b great if u keep ur jokes wid u & as far as i know u don't like discussing shachi ,so why a filthy joke abt them ???

Originally posted by: $weet Ema

Minu, the sensible would have been to pm Opti directly rather than make create a issue over it in the forum. If you had pmed opti explaining you took offense at her comment, there was a possibilty that the matter could have been sorted out privately which would have been more sensible than pointing fingers in the open forum. Comments made by Sita on Opti are totally uncalled for, reading such attacks make me feel really uncomfortable, so imagine how Opti feels, this is totally unacceptable, making digs and attacks on members over an issue that could have been talked over through pm. This is why I don't like coming on the forum anymore, because of people's level of intolerance, this forum used to be the most friendliest, but now the digs, sniggering, indirect comments make me uncomfortable, and what feels worst is that this happening between people who I think of as friends in the forum.

i didnot said opti nething openly in da forum neither i discussed about opti wid sita di watever sita di told regarding doggie issue was her of own &sita di u also knw i hv not discussed about opti wid u ever 1of my frnd said about opti's comment i read it i didnot liked her comments den i saw dat many ppl din liked her comments too so we discussed it thru pm i didnot thought of resolving dat issue by pming her nor ne of my frnds thought about it

Originally posted by: trros

1 more thing yas i didnot felt dat da doggie issue was so big dat i report da mods about it

it was minu but i kept my cool & avoided it & we all know how terible we all felt & many members discussed tht stupido joke thru pm !!

I agree with Sweet Emma. Sita, pls try to refrain from over-sizing ur font to show ur anger. As it is there is enough tension brewing... Can we be decent enough to this privately?

And dont u think if the moderator found anynone's comments bad enough, he/she would have closed the topic or at least sent a warning to that member in question by now?

Im not changing ur mind or ur opinion. You're right everyone is entitled to their own views. So lets leave it at that. Lets not manke it any more ugly than its turning out to be.

Yas, you don't need to feel bad for me. Just because a few people indulge in name calling and bad language, it does not mean I have to return the favour. They can do what they want, make posts in huge lettering and shout out from the roof tops of how rotten my posts are.

This thread is being closed as many member have broken the rules in this and be ready to facestrict action afterthe DT goes through it thooughly.

Topic closed.