Why do celeb relationships melt down?

Do celebrity relationships melt under media glare?

Or can they survive the pressure of the constant stare? The topic came up when I was speaking to an actress friend who has decided to keep her relationship secret. "But the world knows about it already! So what's the point?" I argued.

She said, "It's not about people knowing whom I'm seeing but about me talking about it and letting them feel they've the right to sit inside our relationship. That's offensive to me. Everyone knew Aishwarya was seeing Abhishek, but neither spoke about it. That created a sanctity to their relationship." We may frown and dispprove of couples who make public appearances. However, the relationships that have survived media glare are those that have spared themselves the constant scrutiny.

The first time I met Manisha Koirala was when she came home for lunch with Cecil, the man she was seeing at that time. Cecil carried her bag, served her food and was attentive to her every wish. I saw no reason why she wouldn't marry him.

Then Cecil left her. I don't know who came in next. Today, she chooses not to speak about the one she loves. Mrs Jaya Bachchan once told me how intrusive it becomes to have people approach you with a smile and request for an picture when you're having dinner at a restaurant with your family. Some do it willingly enough.

Kareena and Shahid politely posed for pictures at a suburban hotel in Mumbai when they came over to meet me. "So when the two of you getting married?" the Punjabi wife of the commodious family asked them. Shahid had smiled politely. Kareena laughed without giving anything away. "You two must get married," the lady wagged her finger at Kareena as though she knew her well enough to play her marriage counselor. Her two sons circled Kareena aunty as though she was a prized display at the museum.

Looking at how comfortable Preity Zinta and Ness Wadia are together, I keep going back to this incident with Shahid and Kareena. Maybe Preity is right to not want to talk about her love. Could Kareena's relationship with Shahid have ended because we didn't allow it to grow? Are we an intrusive people by nature, and does that intrusiveness kill relationships?

Why else did Lara Dutta's long-standing relationship with Kelly Dory collapse in a heap? Kelly and Lara reminded me of Raj Kapoor and Padmini in Mera Naam Joker... He dreaming big dreams for her. She moving further and further away into the galaxy of shining stars.

Like I always say, there are two kinds of spouses in the industry. Those who are genuinely devoted and the ones that pretend to be. Producer Sajid Nadiadwala remained so genuinely devoted to Tabu for years, no one ever doubted they'd end up married. Today Sajid Nadiadwala is a married man who runs an empire. I wonder where the resplendent Tabu is running to.

Each time I look at Tabu or Manisha my heart leaps. Maybe Tabu and Mainsha haven't been able to find the perfect partner because we didn't give them enough space. Every time they're seen in public with a man it becomes fodder for speculation.

I think I have read this article before by a certain Subhash K. Jha. But I wish he did not make Tabu or Manisha sound like miserable spinsters because I doubt they are. They could be busy traveling and dating and not want to tell you. LOL! It is interesting how he does not apply that that same standard to some of the men in the industry, who are not married.

yeh he makes them sound miserable if these guys are celebs they neeed to know how to conduct relationships out of the public eye as well if its that inportant obviously it will come out at sometime but doesnt have to be straight away

that's very interesting. there's no doubt the media is very overwhelming at some points. but people in a relationship need to know what's best for them and in what direction they should be headed. they have to be committed to each other. relationships fall apart when we let them. as much as i hate the media, not all of the blame can be put on them.

that's very interesting. there's no doubt the media is very overwhelming at some points. but people in a relationship need to know what's best for them and in what direction they should be headed. they have to be committed to each other. relationships fall apart when we let them. as much as i hate the media, not all of the blame can be put on them.

i think the reasons cele realationships melt down are bcuz there r sum couples mix both their professional & personal life& once u start talking bout ur own personal life when ur suppsoed 2 b talking bout the professional life the media's bound to start talking & spreading rumours bout ur relationship, so there are couples who make the mistake of mixing both profess n' personal life 2 much & they end up not breaking up cuz of the media.

i hope i made sense


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This is quite interesting 😊
Every couple goes through the ups and downs but when you're famous, there's the added pressure. It must be difficult because the media can be a bit too intrusive and lack of privacy can affect the relationship. However, to blame the media or fans for celeb relationship melt downs is not really fair. If these celebs want to, they can really make their relationship work and it can be done. Interest in their lives is all part of being famous. Celebs need to be able to handle it in order to maintain their relationships.