Dowry Deaths in India – Another Daughter Lost, A Society Questioned. - Page 7

Originally posted by: Clochette

bold: I agree that t h i s would/should be o n e of the actions necessary but it should/could never be the o n l y one to get a change... didn't we witness what politics did when, in January 2023, Indian wrestlers began protesting for investigation into allegations of sexual harassment of female wrestlers by Brij Bhushan Sharan Singh during his tenure as the president of the Wrestling Federation of India???

Who has the influence of not only making laws but also watch for them getting respected???

Without accountability and moral courage at every level, even the strongest laws remain only words on paper.

From ancient times till today, history stands witness to the suffering imposed upon women in the name of honour, tradition, power, and male arrogance.

Sita was questioned and humiliated despite her purity and sacrifice.

Draupadi was disrobed in a royal court filled with powerful men, while elders, gurus, and warriors remained shamefully silent.

Royal women were forced into sati sahagaman, denied the right to live after their husbands’ deaths, while invading kings treated women as trophies of war and objects of lust.

Then came cruel customs for widows, shaved heads, colourless lives, social isolation, and lifelong punishment for a loss they never caused. Later, dowry emerged like another curse, turning daughters into burdens and marriage into a marketplace of greed, harassment, torture, and death.

Why??? Why has society repeatedly chosen women as the target of its cruelty? Why is a woman expected to suffer silently for the ego, pride, and dominance of men? A woman gives birth to humanity, nurtures generations, carries civilizations forward... yet she is repaid with violence, control, humiliation, and injustice.

It is time not only to question these practices, but to uproot every mindset that sees women as inferior, disposable, or submissive. Respect for women is not charity... NOT CHARITY, it is the foundation of humanity itself.

My question why only women why we were suffered, suffering and this saga goes on. Women without world is meaningless yet they are treated as objects of desires, maids, option, commodity, ladder to gain easy money, used for lust. If the world see women getting successful the question how many people she slept with? Actually men are actual gold diggers to take money gifts gold for marriage. In our country even the poorest man can become rich through marriage.

BETA=Waarish

BETI=Bojh

A woman can be highly educated or financially independent still she goes to in-laws house, doesn't give her surname to her children even though she almost lost her life while giving birth,not allowed to even go samsaan or have any rights to do funeral rites (majority case), Indian dress code like salwar or saree for female government job holder or aspirants but not for men (they don't come up wearing dhoti kurta, salwar kurta,girl's education is secondary..... Educated/Well off parents toh like paise wale ladke ka rishta ke aage beti ki padhai likhai /job seeking can take backseat. Couple stops breeding until they get male child, Educating a Male child is RESPONSIBILITY while educating a girl child is EHSAAN.... ,Moral policing only reserved for Girls, Gender biased Victim blaming and Many more.

Deep rooted Patriarchal mindset still runs in our society irrespective of any social strata. Internalised misogyny in women adds another layer to the male dominated society that they cannot give you a scope to escape out of hell made by men.

Originally posted by: 11Ice-Cream

BETA=Waarish

BETI=Bojh

A woman can be highly educated or financially independent still she goes to in-laws house, doesn't give her surname to her children even though she almost lost her life while giving birth,not allowed to even go samsaan or have any rights to do funeral rites (majority case), Indian dress code like salwar or saree for female government job holder or aspirants but not for men (they don't come up wearing dhoti kurta, salwar kurta,girl's education is secondary..... Educated/Well off parents toh like paise wale ladke ka rishta ke aage beti ki padhai likhai /job seeking can take backseat. Couple stops breeding until they get male child, Educating a Male child is RESPONSIBILITY while educating a girl child is EHSAAN.... ,Moral policing only reserved for Girls, Gender biased Victim blaming and Many more.

Deep rooted Patriarchal mindset still runs in our society irrespective of any social strata. Internalised misogyny in women adds another layer to the male dominated society that they cannot give you a scope to escape out of hell made by men.

I wont say "not allowed to" but "expected to" ..ironically there is no provision of last rites incase the deceased has daughters only ..even the neighbours are allowed to do it but not a woman ..they can only watch..

women are expected to tick all these boxes ..however the greed of having a male child may be hers too ..

Its a different scenario working out these days ..the boys side want a working woman bec they can have her salary..but expectations of a child , house/family , chores , still fall upon her otherwise she is "modern, tez, ghar todne wali" and what not ..

According to NCRB data, 5,737 dowry deaths were reported in India in 2024 alone.

And the real number is even higher, as many cases are often labelled as suicide, kitchen accidents, or unexplained deaths instead of dowry killings.

NCRB also stated 1.2 lakh cases of “cruelty by husband or relatives”

Meanwhile, studies estimate around 250 husbands are killed by wives annually in India.

My chronically online ass found them. This system is a curse be it any religion, caste, color or creed. You take dowry you belong to the evil part of society and a testament of how a system treats women as an object.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Womm0G0A30

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gZWySUIctJI

I usually like Mohaks videos.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7CeJyy0bm8I

horror: Not dowry but these evil practices of objectifying women.

A Wife Sold For Rs. 50,000. A Child Exchanged For 10 Sarees. What Makes Women Victims Of Human Trafficking?

Two recent cases from Gujarat and UP reveal how women and girls continue to face trafficking, abuse and exploitation in India.

https://www.brut.media/in/articles/india/society/a-wife-sold-for-rs-50-000-a-child-exchanged-for-10-sarees-what-makes-women-victims-of-human-trafficking

Originally posted by: 11Ice-Cream

BETA=Waarish

BETI=Bojh

A woman can be highly educated or financially independent still she goes to in-laws house, doesn't give her surname to her children even though she almost lost her life while giving birth,not allowed to even go samsaan or have any rights to do funeral rites (majority case), Indian dress code like salwar or saree for female government job holder or aspirants but not for men (they don't come up wearing dhoti kurta, salwar kurta,girl's education is secondary..... Educated/Well off parents toh like paise wale ladke ka rishta ke aage beti ki padhai likhai /job seeking can take backseat. Couple stops breeding until they get male child, Educating a Male child is RESPONSIBILITY while educating a girl child is EHSAAN.... ,Moral policing only reserved for Girls, Gender biased Victim blaming and Many more.

Deep rooted Patriarchal mindset still runs in our society irrespective of any social strata. Internalised misogyny in women adds another layer to the male dominated society that they cannot give you a scope to escape out of hell made by men.

1. Equal upbringing from childhood
   Parents must stop raising sons like “future heads of family” and daughters like “temporary guests.” Household work, financial responsibility, emotional accountability, and freedom should be equal for both children. A son should learn cooking and caregiving just as naturally as a daughter learns studies and career-building.
2. Make girls’ education and careers non-negotiable
   A girl’s education should never become secondary because a “good marriage proposal” arrived. Families must understand that financial independence gives women dignity, decision-making power, and protection against abuse. Marriage should complement a woman’s life, not replace her ambitions.
3. Change inheritance and financial practices inside families
   Many women are still emotionally pressured to give up property rights. Families should ensure daughters receive equal inheritance practically, not just legally. Financial equality weakens patriarchal control more than symbolic empowerment speeches.
4. Stop treating motherhood as a woman’s only identity
   Women risk their health, careers, and sometimes their lives during childbirth, yet society still denies them equal authority over children’s surnames, upbringing decisions, and rituals. Parenting responsibilities and recognition must become equal. Sons should not be treated as “lineage carriers” while daughters are seen as temporary members.
5. Challenge harmful traditions instead of blindly glorifying them
   If funeral rites, religious customs, dress codes, or rituals discriminate against women, society must question them openly. Culture should evolve with justice. Respecting tradition should never mean suppressing women’s rights and individuality.
6. Stronger implementation of laws and workplace equality
   Gender discrimination in workplaces, educational institutions, and recruitment systems must face strict accountability. Dress codes, moral policing, harassment, and unequal treatment should be challenged institutionally instead of being normalized as “society’s rules.”
7. Women supporting women
   Internalised misogyny is one of patriarchy’s strongest weapons. Sometimes women themselves enforce restrictions on daughters, daughters-in-law, or other women because they were conditioned to believe suffering is normal. Breaking this cycle requires women to stop glorifying sacrifice, silence, and tolerance as “ideal womanhood.”
8. Teach consent, respect, and gender sensitivity early
   Schools should include gender education, consent, emotional intelligence, and constitutional equality in curriculum. Boys must grow up understanding that women are individuals with equal autonomy, not people whose lives must revolve around male approval.
9. Stop glorifying male child preference
   The obsession with sons continues because society links sons with lineage, rituals, old-age support, and status. Until daughters are treated equally in inheritance, rituals, caregiving rights, and emotional value, this mindset will survive. Families must consciously reject this discrimination.
10. Speak up collectively
    Silence protects patriarchy. Whether it is victim blaming, moral policing, sexist jokes, dowry expectations, or unequal treatment inside homes, people must question it openly. Real social change begins when injustice stops being treated as “normal.”

Patriarchy survives not only because some men dominate, but because society normalizes inequality generation after generation. Real progress will happen only when equality enters everyday life inside homes, not just speeches, laws, or social media campaigns. Every mother, every family has to work together to educate the future generations regarding equality and honoring women.

Ten very clear and logical points that should be enacted to get a significant change.

As we started about a very specific incident in India, I now would like to go the practical way as I'm more into 'how to do what is necessary to be done' as only practise can bring the change... and it should be propositions that also could be practised in rural areas and for those living in poverty.

I know that also in India a kind of 'women-for-women' exists through various women-led cooperatives or self-help-groups and also legal hepling ones... so the 'philosophie' is there, but obviously, the mental/emotional power to change a patriarchal system into a one of mutual respect has to get fortified.

So, how to do that in a concentrated, practical way to get a perceptible change in both gender mindsets?

I wonder... if greed has a negative outcome, can't one make greed also getting a positive one?