Dowry Deaths in India – Another Daughter Lost, A Society Questioned. - Page 4

Thank you Kalyani, for collecting and sharing the detailed data regarding the domestic violence and rapes in major cities. The numbers are very alarming and the government and judiciary have to take up corrective measures to stop this violence against women.

Nowadays another problem is happenning. Was seeing that on social media confession pages. Some greedy women are giving false domestic violence charges for revenge/compensation. The husband's life becomes hell.

Result...when there are real domestic violence people would no longer believe it.

Social media is not real and it shouldn't be treated as one. I'm against mob/media trial justice for this very reason. While it's great tool for connectivity and exposure. Virtual life is not real.

Official NCRB data consistently shows that completely false cases account for only about 3.6% to 5% of all domestic filings. Using a 5% margin of error to distrust 100% of women is statistically absurd and a form of collective punishment for all womanhood. All these laws are tilted in favor of women for a reason. Not because people want to be biased towards one gender. IMO De-gendering these laws will only make it worse for vulnerable women and women in general too..in a country like India, where women safety is a joke.

We can have our own version of the "ManKind Initiative" and Male Shelters (UK & Europe) Countries like the UK, Denmark, and Switzerland fund specialized helplines and anonymous safe houses specifically for male victims of domestic abuse and their children.

Originally posted by: Sanskruthi

Social media is not real and it shouldn't be treated as one. I'm against mob/media trial justice for this very reason. While it's great tool for connectivity and exposure. Virtual life is not real.

Official NCRB data consistently shows that completely false cases account for only about 3.6% to 5% of all domestic filings. Using a 5% margin of error to distrust 100% of women is statistically absurd and a form of collective punishment for all womanhood. All these laws are tilted in favor of women for a reason. Not because people want to be biased towards one gender. IMO De-gendering these laws will only make it worse for vulnerable women and women in general too..in a country like India, where women safety is a joke.

We can have our own version of the "ManKind Initiative" and Male Shelters (UK & Europe) Countries like the UK, Denmark, and Switzerland fund specialized helplines and anonymous safe houses specifically for male victims of domestic abuse and their children.

Those were not media trial posts though. Those were anonymous posts seeking help/guidance.

I was not talking about De-gendering those laws. I was not at all talking about legal matters. I was talking about Social support.

It is of course statistically absurd. But our mind is also absurd. We see what we want to see. Social distrust does not see statistics...it exaggerates.

I was stunned to see the erosion of trust in the comment section of those posts actually.

Originally posted by: vyapti

Nowadays another problem is happenning. Was seeing that on social media confession pages. Some greedy women are giving false domestic violence charges for revenge/compensation. The husband's life becomes hell.

Result...when there are real domestic violence people would no longer believe it.

I understand the concern about misuse of laws, and any false accusation is serious because it can harm innocent lives. But I would hesitate to make it appear as a growing trend or a major reason for disbelief in domestic violence cases.

The larger reality is that many women survivors still struggle to speak up, face social pressure, and often remain unheard. If isolated misuse cases are highlighted, it can unintentionally create suspicion around genuine victims and make reporting even harder.

The focus should perhaps be on fair investigation and justice for everyone, protecting the innocent and ensuring real victims are not silenced or doubted.

Yes they are quite rare. I was not highlighting them either. I meant those who are real victims can not use them but those who are not sometimes misuse them.

I was talking about the mentality that is quite widespread on social media...and probably on many people's mind too..."Women marry only for alimony", "Women are gold diggers", "Be careful about which woman you marry...she will conspire with her lover before marriage and kill you.(They don't see that...her lover is also a man)", "Women who talk about women's rights are feminazis"....and so on..

Sorry, if I have said something that should not be said.

Cases like these can be solved by community notes. It should be enabled in all social media.

Originally posted by: vyapti

Yes they are quite rare. I was not highlighting them either. I meant those who are real victims can not use them but those who are not sometimes misuse them.

I was talking about the mentality that is quite widespread on social media...and probably on many people's mind too..."Women marry only for alimony", "Women are gold diggers", "Be careful about which woman you marry...she will conspire with her lover before marriage and kill you.(They don't see that...her lover is also a man)", "Women who talk about women's rights are feminazis"....and so on..

Sorry, if I have said something that should not be said.

Yes, negativity against women is always there in all forms, this is one of them to demean women.

Hi there!

I was really wishing that someone makes are thread on this since dowry deaths are at their peak

Thanks to Viswashruti for making this thread

Honestly Indians in general see marriage as a ultimate goal of life.

and I observed this divorce stigma from my personal experience

I have a aunt in paternal side and she is divorced when her kid was young.It was a mutual consent divorce in 2010s and has a grown kid.She is single and thriving

I have a aunt in my maternal side.She has abusive in laws and her husband is suffering from chronic OCD and tormenting.She even tried to commit suicide once.She had twin sons and they are adult now and she didnt divorce though she has no relation left with her husband.She is not divorcing him due to her adult kids since the "Stigma".She is living on her own terms but still stuck in that marriage.

Society views them from different POVs

Isne toh ghar tod diya apna.Isse apna ghar bhi nahi chala.

Bechari,apne baccho ke liye ghar chalaya aur rishta nibhaya.dekho abhi bhi divorce nahi liya baccho ke liye

This is why dowry deaths are happening

One Part of this happening is due to the Divorce Stigma

I will write more about the causes in later part

Moral values obviously are on an accelerated decline, albeit we all know what is right and what is wrong, what should be done and what not.

Vyapti showed how a negative image of women gets excused by stereotypes and others brought the arguments made through naming culture but whose base are human faults and flaws.

That is the situation (thanks a lot for the statistic, Sanskruthi, not only about Delhi and Mumbai) - however the decline is global.

According to India, what should be done also was proposed... but that is here in our thinking, that is not acting. What is feasible and how could common people do it?