Sehers mother is over involved - Page 2

Recently I’ve been really hooked on this show, and here are my two cents on the topic.

Although Kausar’s constant involvement between Seher and Mahid can feel irritating at times, I think her behavior is still understandable from her point of view. Kausar comes from an abusive marriage that she endured from a very young age. She was forced to marry Parveez early in life, pressured to produce a male heir, and made to believe that her second daughter died because of her early pregnancy; something she likely still blames herself for. Throughout her life, she never received the education, respect, or care she deserved. Because of this, she vowed that her daughter would never have to walk the same path.

Kausar wanted Seher to live the life she herself never had; the freedom to experience the world, build her own identity, and become a doctor. Over the years, she developed a deep-rooted belief that men in her society are like her husband, and perhaps even like her father. She desperately wanted Seher to be free from the constraints of that society, and she has been doing everything in her power to create a different future for her.

Her encounters with Mahid have only reinforced her negative perception of men. Mahid comes from a patriarchal background that reflects male dominance, and his anger issues make him appear no different from the men Kausar fears. In reality, Mahid often uses anger to hide his vulnerability; keeping people at a distance so he won’t get hurt again. To certain extend, Mahid is like Kausar. He would endure anything for the people he truly love and care; his grandfather and Seher.

Kausar can sense the special bond between Seher and Mahid. She sees how freely Seher teases him and how Mahid continues to stand by Seher even after learning the truth about her. However, Kausar’s fears have clouded her judgment so much that she can’t see beyond them. Her preconceived notions about Mahid overshadow what she hears from Seher, Dr. Farid and Amaal.

To a mother, a child will always remain a child, and that’s how Kausar sees Seher. She believes her 16 year old daughter isn’t capable of facing life’s challenges alone, which is why she intervenes in every situation she can. Unfortunately, her overprotectiveness and limited exposure to the world often push her into impulsive decisions that create even more complications.

I really liked the moment when Seher told her mother to trust her upbringing if she couldn’t trust her daughter. Ultimately, Seher will likely become the bridge between Mahid and Kausar—the two people who would go to any extent for her.