Originally posted by: EkPaheli
Parents often think that they are responsible for fulfilling their child’s wishes. They think they will not repeat the same mistakes with their kids that they feel their parents made with them; they want to live vicariously through their children by giving them the things they perhaps didn’t get to enjoy.
What they don’t understand often until it’s too late is that in giving everything they lacked to their children doesn’t necessarily make them good parents. They don’t understand until after things have come to pass that in avoiding the same mistakes that they felt that their parents made with them they end up making mistakes of their own too.
No parent is perfect no matter how loving. Sometimes loving your children too much is as destructive for them as is not loving your child at all. Everything is about balance.
Angad had exposed Mittali spreading rumours about him and Vrinda even before they were a thing and Mittali had confessed. At that time, Angad tells Mihir how can he marry someone like this, someone who would ruin his reputation, who would spread rumours about him and who can’t trust him. Mihir never once asked him to change his mind to his credit. He understood his son and never forced him or requested him to change his mind. It was Angad who was persuaded by Mittali’s crocodile tears.
Angad suspected Mittali’s ghost drama was not random and certainly not a real thing, but be never bothered to share his thoughts with his parents. Even when he uncovered the truth behind the drama he never told a thing to his parents. Had Angad come forward and made Mihir aware of what was going on, if Mihir knew what Mittali was doing at all, he wouldn’t have been even angry at Angad for wanting to call things off.
Angad is miffed his dad didn’t forgive him for his actions but he has to date never once tried to speak to him about the circumstances surrounding his marriage and what led him to do what he did. He wants forgiveness and probably expects his dad to magically understand and forget everything but he doesn’t want to explain himself.
Parents aren’t mind readers, no matter how much they love you. If you don’t tell them what’s on your mind, they won’t know. Simple as that. But it’s also forgotten.
That day Angad left his parents facing an uncomfortable situation wherein they were blindsided. He probably is angry that Pari was getting support to walk away from her wedding to Ran until the last minute, an option she didn’t take of her own free will but when he did exactly that without being offered those options he was punished.
What he fails to understand is that Pari was not listening to reason there. Everyone who saw what Ran was for real tried to warn her, make her understand and get her to back off to protect her… but they couldn’t protect Pari from herself and her bad decisions.
The reason why she was offered that choice was also because of this very thing that she’s now suffering. Men are also victims today of domestic violence which can escalate horribly and end in their deaths today, I won’t deny that. Not even in a country as traditional as ours is even now… but it’s also true that the number of female victims who suffer horrific abuse, trauma and even death in their marriages still remains leagues ahead of the number of male victims.
Victims deserve justice be it men or women, there’s no two ways about it.
That’s where the difference comes in. Ran was proven to be an abusive partner even before he married Pari, even though no one believed Tulsi, including Pari herself. There was a real threat to Pari that she was too blind to see but her mother clearly could.
Angad was not at a risk of being abused like Pari ever with Mittali. He was also not likely to endure the humiliation of being abused in whatever form silently because he could always blame Mihir and his choice of asking him to marry Mittali should the worst come to pass. But Pari was gonna suffer in silence, as she did, precisely because she had walked into the marriage with her eyes wide open and yet blinded by her love for Ran aas well as contempt for Tulsi.
Pari needed saving, Angad didn’t.
Angad and Pari ironically made their own choices. The only difference is that Angad got a good person to make his life easier, happier as a consequence of his choices. He lucked out. Pari didn’t.
I understand his frustration and even anger with her to some extent, but he wants to claim some moral high ground as if he has been a perfect child who has been punished for only listening to his heart. Well that’s where he doesn’t get his way. He was a good child but he too has hurt his parents even if he did so unintentionally. That’s the difference between his sister and him. He can claim to be an angel because he never meant to hurt them even if he did; she wanted to hurt her mother and she succeeded in that. Different roads leading to the same outcome is what I see.
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