Originally posted by: Rein123
You can't expect an emotionally damaged or broken human being to think straight or even behave rationally all the time can you? Rithik from the very beginning suffered from self esteem issues now didn't he? For him it was always his mother that would solve all the issues or atleast guide him, in other words she was his refuge so yes her leaving was no different from an abandonment from his perspective. You can't completely blame him for the way he is behaving at the moment, he may not be a child but that doesn't make it okay or fair to judge him either. Everyone reacts to pain differently, and he clearly has a low tolerance for emotional pain given how he begged Tulsi to take him with her hence he is lashing out, perhaps separation anxiety too.
Its not that he isn't sympathetic towards her, I guess he is overwhelmed by the kind of pressure, mental and emotional abuse, and most of all failures to a point where he is no longer able to cope with it and just needs someone to blame for his misery which is normal because lets not pretend that a lot of people in real life actually dont do this. This is just like blaming a person driven to the edge for committing suicide when in reality it's their circumstances to be blamed. Very often a person tends of overestimate their own struggles compared to others, which is nothing but a plain human nature.
His pain is stemming from his mom leaving him.
His mom left him because his dad cheated on her, AGAIN. He was present when Daksha was slapping his dad, reminding him of him doing this for a second time to Tulsi. He heard his mom admit how it was something for which she should have never forgiven his dad back then itself.
He blames his mom for leaving him. He doesn’t blame his dad.
He doesn’t want to even think about what made his mom leave, even yesterday Shobha and Gayatri had to pacify him and tell him to once put himself in Tulsi’s shoes all because he kept asking why she left, despite knowing everything.
That’s not an emotionally broken person to me. That’s a person who refuses to accept the reality that his mother was in a lot of pain. He refuses to think about what she had to go through because he wants to keep his own pity party going on and because he was asked to bear the responsibilities of his brother at office. He’s saying everything went wrong and wants to put the burden of blame on his mother citing her absence, but where is his own accountability in all of this?
At some point you can’t expect your parents to hand hold you through everything in life. You also cannot expect your mother to be nothing more than a mom.
If he’s emotionally broken, then so is she. Her pain had to have been enormous as well, imagine being cheated by your husband, discovering that he has fathered a son with another woman. Accept him back despite that, accept his son as your own too, love him like he were born of your own womb. Then find out that your husband has done it again - cheated on you, again. Now, at this stage of life where you two are old enough for him to consider retirement soon, for the two of you to watch your grandkids getting married soon, having great-grandchildren down the line. When you think this is the phase of life where you two can get to sit back and relax in your life finally. Your kids are old enough to run business, take care of home, your grandchildren are also well raised and sure to do well. You feel like it’s finally time for you two to have some time to yourselves as a couple who are no longer expected to run around and take care of everything because you have done your duties, lived through that phase. Been the good son/bahu who looked after work/home, family, had kids and raised them, got them married and now ensured that they can look after everything. But your dearest husband surprises you by having an affair at this age, for the second time in your marriage.
You had let bygones be bygones, you had managed to bury the pain of his past betrayal deep within your heart so that your family can lead a happy life, you compromised on your dignity once for the sake of your children, for the sake of not letting everything you once helped grow and build crumble apart. You did that with the bare minimum expectation of him not repeating the same mistake ever again in this lifetime.
You returned to his home, to his life, to your family, and more importantly to his room and back in his bed as well. You went back there despite a part of your brain nagging you that he shared this with someone else too, he fathered a son with her and kept you in the dark for decades. That it took that son himself coming up to you for you to know this truth that would alter your life forever. You go through that choosing forgiveness and hope. Choosing family and the future of your kids.
You only hope you don’t get to relive it again. You only hope that you won’t regret this decision of yours.
Your hopes are shattered and so are you… beyond words and belief.
But sure, that should be put aside because ONE child of yours doesn’t want to accept that mom can be hurt too. That she’s a human being with limits as well. Because in his head, his mom’s world should revolve around him? She’s not allowed to leave.
How can I find sympathy for someone who himself can’t be sympathetic towards his own mom?
His weaknesses do not inspire compassion in me, I am made of sterner stuff perhaps. Like I said maybe life has toughened me, I am jaded. But for me this isn’t a weakness of mind, it’s lack of understanding and empathy for the suffering of the one person who you claim you love the most in the world.
Why does a good mother have to prove she’s a good mother by sticking around for her children regardless of the circumstances? How does that make her a bad individual or a bad mother if for once she chooses to walk away because her own sanity, dignity and very identity felt like it was crumbling?
Can you call yourself a good child if you demand your mother endure everything for your sake, so you don’t get to taste the harshness of life, see how tough it can be?
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