Originally posted by: Loving2Missing2
Fresh Deliberation Perspectives on the debate topic. "Love is eternal without even marriage."
Love is driven by the Soul! The basis of this universe is Love. As the soul is eternal, the love is eternal!
Marriage by definition is a consensual social contract recognised by law between two people. Important things about marriage,.....social.... Two different Individuals......Saat Vachan or marriage Vows
The social context
Society and its norms are a continuously changing phenomenon. Alvin Toffler in his sociological book, Future Shock, clearly states that post Industrialisation, there will be information overload and rapid change bringing the dissolution of the family unit thus leading to a rise in divorce rates. In today's date, the prediction stands true when divorces are on the rise.
Saat Vachan is an integral part. These saat vachans are the conditions with natural expectations to fulfill them. When expectations are set in, pure honest love is on the decline. It's more about self-gratification. And as the "self" starts getting more and more selfish, marriage systems get caught in too many human complexities, Maya! More you're caught in Maya Web, the more difficult it is to experience the ethereality of true love.
The True Perspective
For love to be eternal(infinite), it has to be unconditional....... more like "self"less love. So there's no I, myself and you, yourself, no two individualities.........Radha-Krishna is eternal love because Radha hi Krishna hai aur Krishna hi Radha hai........ This is fundamental Advait Vedant of Hinduism.
We perceive Radha and Krishna as a woman and man in love...... 'Is that all' that Laxmi and Narayan want to portray to humanity?...... Laxmi, also called Rama, is the energy of Narayan, the life principle......the two are inseparable...... yet perceived as duality!
Radha and Krishna depict the eternal association between Atmaa ( Atman in Vedaas) and Paramatma (Brahman in vedaas)........This love is always instilled inside you...... You just have to look at the core of your "I" .......your Ahum...... And there you'll find Ahum Bramhasmi!
I am Radha- I am Krishna!
The love cannot leave you; but it gets covered with all me and My and MINE.... The effect of Avidya and Maya!
My Eternal Love
I have always seen myself as the "Radha" and I have always been in love with Krishna! Even when I was not married, this love gave me happiness..... The touch of raindrops on my face is that love kiss, my soaking in drizzle is His embrace..... Blossoming flowers are his smile.......The pinkish glow of the morning sky is his loving gaze....... HE and I cannot be separated...... So the Love never leaves my heart!
It's not very difficult to imagine or follow. ........ Krishna is a true husband to all 16008 wives because he sees Radha in each...... So myself in Dwapaaryuga was his 14678th wife and you were maybe 16000th or 9th. 
Whether married or not, the Eternal Love propagates inside your soul, the real YOU!
There's no point in arguing over the ULTIMATE TRUTH! LOVE is ETERNAL..... but with birth, Maya takes you in her loving Aanchal, and lets you experience the beauty of existence........ trapped in Avidya (ignorance) we let Shadripus Conquer over us.... and then LIFE BECOMES A TEST!
p.s. As I mentioned earlier, I can write till this thread is over; but let me stop here today.
As I mentioned earlier my topic is life is test, so ofcourse its gonna be a perspective from human society.
And when you're human you're living a life of limited years. Either you're searching for the purpose of your existence or just going with the flow.
As you mentioned for love to be eternal it has to be selfless, but that's the point, how can it be selfless when we're coexisting and that co existence is the reason we're surviving
If you've heard about the ingroup outgroup concept of forest animals, you know that the group of animals live together to survive as they trust that they're in a safe place, if one animal who is not the part of their inner circle enters in their territory they freak out because 90 percent of the time the possibility is that animal came to hunt them
Humans are evolved and we are not just living to survive now but we're living to achieve big or small self goals. But that does not negate the instinct to survive
They had the primal instincts of mating and thus began the growth of human society. It is said that human children were the most dependent child species most delicate as well as they can't survive without their parents or any caretaker at least till they get 6-7 years old.
When the first human came, mated and started having children and then the cycle began how they would have taken the responsibility of that child, how people decided to establish something so they can live with peace
Did they seperated marriage and love - NO
Did they seperated marriage and mating - NO
Did they seperated marriage and responsibility - NO
Did they seperated love and mating - NO
According to what you said, Krishna ji knew he was God then also he chose the pain of getting seperated from Radha, he chose the lifelong pain for him and Radha and for his wives as well because they knew he loved Radha the most. But that's the point he didn't chose, LIFE happened, and pain only comes when you expect, their love is eternal undoubtedly but is it really without any expectations
If I have to think about it, Krishna ji and Radha ji loved each other a lot but when Krishna ji moved from Mathura he fell in love with rukmini as well and all his asht bharyas also he loved them for them , he didn't wanted to see Radha in them because Radha has her own place in his heart but his heart is the biggest heart because its the heart of the jagdishwar, the heart of jagannath where there's no shortage of love for anyone.
You can say human society made the life a test but let's not forget the human society which written the rule book for humans living on earth is the same society which understood the love and relations which you're talking about and they wrote so they can pass it to the future generations.
After understanding this kind of love also they went with the marriage institution and considered it the purest.
In love there's no I, Me or Myself
But there actually is
I can sacrifice my happiness for him because if he's happy then I am happy.
I love him that's why I don't want to see him cry
My happiness is in your happiness.
I am not saying this is not a good thing but its not selfless, you feel happy when you think about the people you love, if you don't you won't love them 🤷
Love= HAPPINESS+ TRUST+COMPANIONSHIP+ATTRACTION+LOYALTY+HONESTY
From above which part marriage is not offering?
At last I just want to say, we can achieve eternal love if we want, MEERA did. But we can't escape life even after that
For eg
Rana ne vish diya maano amrit Piya
Wo to sagar mei sarita samaane lagi
Dukh laakho sahe, mukh se govind kahe
Meera raani diwani kahane lagi
Aisi laagi lagan.......
Edited by RamAayeHain - 1 years ago
........ Aur Sima Jhaadu bhi leke aayee na toh Voh Morpankh ka jhaadu hoga
..... She brings us out of our jadedness and poses questions that make us reflect deeper in our souls...... My heartfelt Thanks to you, Sima! 
Anupamaa
