Adhya being a brat? - Page 3

The way Aadhya behaving is not sign of trauma

Traumatize people don't harm others infact they keep quite most of time they don't talk much to other people

But here Aadhya is controlling anuj with emotional blackmailing she push others these are not sign of trauma it is sign of destructive mind who want to see just negative things even when positive thing happening around her

Yeh ek destructive mind aaadhya ka apmi wish na poore hone pur doosre ko nuksaan pahunchaya hai that is why she need counselling

Originally posted by: Harish111

One of the first thing any professional will tell you, is don't subject the child to the same trauma situation. Remove the child from situation which causes trauma.

The only solution to make her better is to keep her away from the source of trauma, aka Anupama. Which is also what she has been begging her dad and her finance to do.

No victim can ever heal from trauma if they are constantly subjected to the source of the trauma.

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Yes, you try to keep them away from the trigger or you teach them how to face and handle the trigger. It is not always possible to avoid the trigger in real life so coping skills are taught. Behavioral therapy could be the first step. When the outside world cannot be controlled, the affected person needs to learn/to be taught how to handle the situation that sets them off. Otherwise the person affected could harm himself/herself or others around in extreme instances and that is a threat to self and society. It is not to be taken lightly, Aadhya’s behavior is a red flag.

Neither is being done here. Both the dad and his fiancée are hell bent on achieving their own personal agenda. A scolding here from Anuj, an excuse there from Shrew, is not cutting it.

You are right that sometimes it is adviced in therapy to face the fears as you can't forever run away from them. But here it is better if adhya and her pops both stay away from anu and shah's and it is very much doable. For example if someone has a stage fear so here therapist may guide to face the fear by not thinking about things which are not in our control ( people's judgement) and just focus on things we can control ( our performance) .

Here there is no need for adhya to face anupamaa again and again and definitely not needed for her to face abusive shah's as they are in no way related to adhya now. Even when they were related baa treated her like trash . We in our personal life too stay away from people who threaten our peace of mind.

In situation of adhya here it is best that she stays away from anupamaa and her abusive ex in laws for the sake of everyone's betterment. But she is quite unfortunate that both her dad and to be mom are thinking about their selfish motives as you said.

Maybe in future she will explain it in better way which will help aadhya to heal as her life is still stuck at accident point

Originally posted by: Shake_d_spear

Maybe in future she will explain it in better way which will help aadhya to heal as her life is still stuck at accident point

Her life was moving on very well till Anupama came back in her life. As any psychiatrist will say, trauma patients don't need any explanation or anything as traumas are based on emotional experience and not logic. So no explanation can cure the emotions she felt at that point.

The best and only way to cure trauma patients is to remove them from the source of trauma which allows them to heal and move on.

It's one of the biggest myth ITV and Bollywood shows that just explaining cures someones life long trauma hate and other emotions. Particularly since that hate was built on years and years of different things and not one misunderstanding.

Originally posted by: soapwatcher1

Yes, you try to keep them away from the trigger or you teach them how to face and handle the trigger. It is not always possible to avoid the trigger in real life so coping skills are taught.

Neither is being done here. Both the dad and his fiancée are hell bent on achieving their own personal agenda. A scolding here from Anuj, an excuse there from Shrew, is not cutting it.

It takes years for trauma patients to reach that level. You cannot just randomly introduce the trauma into her life and ask her to cope. She is seeing the same pattern, her dad bringing the woman 100% into their life, she being forced and dragged to shahs.

That's the worst thing you can do. Conditioning and learning to live is done with therapy over years and the trauma is never reintroduced like this but only after the doctor thinks the patient is ready, and in controlled environment.

Anyone has the right to choose never to meet or interact with someone, no one should force them. Even parents should never force kids to be with someone they don't want to.

Avoiding someone who abandoned you and neglected you is a normal thing, not abnormal. And no one needs to learn to live with such a person, you can 100% avoid this person of your dad is not selfish like Anuj.