Is anuj right in counting benefits? - Page 2

Badtameezi toh baa bhi karti hai, why he didn't count on the things he has done for her. Jab aapka raja beta bhaag gaya tha toh maine aap dono ko apne ghar me rakha, khilaya pilaya, itna care kiya

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

No even Pakhi and Toshu don't need to hear this.

No child should be told that their upbringing was a favor to them.

Once they prove that they are not worthy children, parents should stop doing "favours" for them, instead of desperate emotional blackmail and appeasement by cleaning up after them to change their hearts.

Hell, they should stop the favours once the kids are functioning adults.

Exactly why Pakhi and Toshu dont need to hear this? They are adults and parents themselves

Why they cannot be told about the sacrifices parents made to bring them up? They are not babies who need not be told the truth

You can call it emotional blackmail - but it is still the truth

Pakhi and Toshu - who have ZERO respect for mother and their own kids BTW absolutely need to hear this

They are both adults - and this is why they need to be called out for their selfish nature. They must know how terrible human beings they are in spite of everything parents did for them.

Coming to aadhya - she is a spoiled brat who has over-played her victim card

She needs to move on from this - and yes she must accept the truth that Anuj DOES NOT want to marry Shruti

She wants everything to go according to her --- nothing wrong Anuj did by showing her the mirror

Well done Anuj

Originally posted by: gopi2929

Coming to aadhya - she is a spoiled brat who has over-played her victim card

She needs to move on from this - and yes she must accept the truth that Anuj DOES NOT want to marry Shruti

She wants everything to go according to her --- nothing wrong Anuj did by showing her the mirror

Well done Anuj

How is adhya wrong wanting them got married.

It was anuj who was live in relationship with Shruti for last 4 years. If he had no intentions to marry her then he should had confessed this from beginning. He should Had not got engaged to Shruti on the first place. He should have not played for Shruti’s life for so many years. Shruti could have found some one else and got married if Anuj was not giving her false hope. Just because he encounter his ex that doesn’t mean he can forgot about last his doings for last 4 years. How he is different from Anupama if he got on relationship with someone else but don’t wants to let go of his ex.

Adhya would be wrong if Anuj and Shruti were not living with each other for years. Anuj was literally playing house house with Shruti for years. Anupama’s return can’t change that. Here Anuj is wrong not Adhya.

We can’t put everyone else doing on adhya. Anupama was an adult who walked out from their life on her own and that effected adhya the most. Now anuj also an adult who got in the relationship with Shruti and Adhya got used to it so mow breaking up with Shruti will also effects her.

Anuj are saying they forced engagement on him so it can’t be that Shruti came in their life and just two days they got engaged. Anuj could have clearly told them that he loves his ex and will never get married again. He can’t just keep Shruti hanging there for his own benefits and throw her out the moment Anupama’s comeback.

He have to take responsibility for his own decisions.

Originally posted by: Snowdrrop

How is adhya wrong wanting them got married.

It was anuj who was live in relationship with Shruti for last 4 years. If he had no intentions to marry her then he should had confessed this from beginning. He should Had not got engaged to Shruti on the first place. He should have not played for Shruti’s life for so many years. Shruti could have found some one else and got married if Anuj was not giving her false hope. Just because he encounter his ex that doesn’t mean he can forgot about last his doings for last 4 years. How he is different from Anupama if he got on relationship with someone else but don’t wants to let go of his ex.

Adhya would be wrong if Anuj and Shruti were not living with each other for years. Anuj was literally playing house house with Shruti for years. Anupama’s return can’t change that. Here Anuj is wrong not Adhya.

We can’t put everyone else doing on adhya. Anupama was an adult who walked out from their life on her own and that effected adhya the most. Now anuj also an adult who got in the relationship with Shruti and Adhya got used to it so mow breaking up with Shruti will also effects her.

Anuj are saying they forced engagement on him so it can’t be that Shruti came in their life and just two days they got engaged. Anuj could have clearly told them that he loves his ex and will never get married again. He can’t just keep Shruti hanging there for his own benefits and throw her out the moment Anupama’s comeback.

He have to take responsibility for his own decisions.

Anuj is an adult and is well within his right to have an affair with someone - and still not want to marry her. There is nothing wrong with that

Who is Aadhaya to decide on his behalf who he can and cannot marry? What Aadhaya is doing is also called emotional blackmail and it was a good thing she got called out for it..reality check!

If she was affected by Anupama leaving - deal with it. Don't force someone else to bring a girl of 'your' choice to marry Anuj who clearly doesn't want to

They did force the engagement - I think that is pretty clear - and Shruti very well is aware that Anuj is still in love with Anupama and still is happily forcing herself on him. Self-respect gone down the drain

Aadhaya and Shruti - are both loosers and easily use the victim-card as and when they like

Originally posted by: Snowdrrop

How is adhya wrong wanting them got married.

It was anuj who was live in relationship with Shruti for last 4 years. If he had no intentions to marry her then he should had confessed this from beginning. He should Had not got engaged to Shruti on the first place. He should have not played for Shruti’s life for so many years. Shruti could have found some one else and got married if Anuj was not giving her false hope. Just because he encounter his ex that doesn’t mean he can forgot about last his doings for last 4 years. How he is different from Anupama if he got on relationship with someone else but don’t wants to let go of his ex.

Adhya would be wrong if Anuj and Shruti were not living with each other for years. Anuj was literally playing house house with Shruti for years. Anupama’s return can’t change that. Here Anuj is wrong not Adhya.

We can’t put everyone else doing on adhya. Anupama was an adult who walked out from their life on her own and that effected adhya the most. Now anuj also an adult who got in the relationship with Shruti and Adhya got used to it so mow breaking up with Shruti will also effects her.

Anuj are saying they forced engagement on him so it can’t be that Shruti came in their life and just two days they got engaged. Anuj could have clearly told them that he loves his ex and will never get married again. He can’t just keep Shruti hanging there for his own benefits and throw her out the moment Anupama’s comeback.

He have to take responsibility for his own decisions.

Yeh sab chodo.

This situation is similar to the time during Anupama-Vanraj divorce.

Pakhi was perhaps a little older than Aadhya's current age.

She herself and later in collaboration with Leela, coerced, planned ways to keep Anupama and Vanraj together (either stay married or atleast stay under the same roof).

The reason: she wanted both her parents' love and care and the sense of a family.

1. Was she right in forcing her parents to stay together? Is it called emotional blackmailing?

2. Why was there no "outburst" against Pakhi and why was she not called out or "put in place"? Instead both empathise with the emotional turmoil the "child" was facing.

3. Was she right in playing tricks along with Leela to keep her parents together? Was Leela right in her persuasion on the many occasions?

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

Yeh sab chodo.

This situation is similar to the time during Anupama-Vanraj divorce.

Pakhi was perhaps a little older than Aadhya's current age.

She herself and later in collaboration with Leela, coerced, planned ways to keep Anupama and Vanraj together (either stay married or atleast stay under the same roof).

The reason: she wanted both her parents' love and care and the sense of a family.

1. Was she right in forcing her parents to stay together? Is it called emotional blackmailing?

2. Why was there no "outburst" against Pakhi and why was she not called out or "put in place"? Instead both empathise with the emotional turmoil the "child" was facing.

3. Was she right in playing tricks along with Leela to keep her parents together? Was Leela right in her persuasion on the many occasions?

Yes that’s the point. No one wants to knowledge that adhya is just 13 years only who craves for a normal family. Everyone be it Anuj or Anupama is putting the blame of their wrongdoings on Adhya.

The problem is only that no one remembers what happened 5 years back except adhya. They are all behaving like 5 years didn’t passed. Anupama’s bio adult kids didn’t get affected by this. Pakhi and Toshu never wanted her to came back in their life’s. It was Adhya who got most affected by all this. Now she wants a stable life without Anupama then it is the problem of Anuj and Anupama fans.

Anuj is not ready to take responsibility of his decisions and putting the blame on adhya and Shruti.

Originally posted by: gopi2929

Anuj is an adult and is well within his right to have an affair with someone - and still not want to marry her. There is nothing wrong with that

Who is Aadhaya to decide on his behalf who he can and cannot marry? What Aadhaya is doing is also called emotional blackmail and it was a good thing she got called out for it..reality check!

If she was affected by Anupama leaving - deal with it. Don't force someone else to bring a girl of 'your' choice to marry Anuj who clearly doesn't want to

They did force the engagement - I think that is pretty clear - and Shruti very well is aware that Anuj is still in love with Anupama and still is happily forcing herself on him. Self-respect gone down the drain

Aadhaya and Shruti - are both loosers and easily use the victim-card as and when they like

How it is morally correct to have affair and not get married. If he just wanted a bed partner then he should have keep Adhya away from all of this. Adhya have right because anuj made her part in his house house playing with Shruti. How Adhya has not right to for wanting a stable family.

Adhya didn’t bring some girl to anuj. she was asking for a girl who is living with them for 4 years. Anuj could have cleared this in initial phase. There was no need for him to give them hope. He is literally forcing Aadhya to accept Anupama and Shahs.

Anuj is going after Anupama like a looser even when Anupama gives a dam about him. If someone don’t wants to get hurt again then that’s mean they have brain. We don’t jump in fire when we knows that it will burn us.

Anuj is a looser for going behind Anupama and Anupama is a looser for going behind shahs as if nothing happened. Anupama and Anuj are the one without self respect who have kink to gets humiliated. Anupama would not leave shah house without getting kicked out from there.

Originally posted by: Snowdrrop

How it is morally correct to have affair and not get married. If he just wanted a bed partner then he should have keep Adhya away from all of this. Adhya have right because anuj made her part in his house house playing with Shruti. How Adhya has not right to for wanting a stable family.

Adhya didn’t bring some girl to anuj. she was asking for a girl who is living with them for 4 years. Anuj could have cleared this in initial phase. There was no need for him to give them hope. He is literally forcing Aadhya to accept Anupama and Shahs.

Anuj is going after Anupama like a looser even when Anupama gives a dam about him. If someone don’t wants to get hurt again then that’s mean they have brain. We don’t jump in fire when we knows that it will burn us.

Anuj is a looser for going behind Anupama and Anupama is a looser for going behind shahs as if nothing happened. Anupama and Anuj are the one without self respect who have kink to gets humiliated. Anupama would not leave shah house without getting kicked out from there.

It is morally correct no not want to marry someone - even if you have lived with them for 4 years. There is no rule that says one must marry. Both have a right to refuse - again cannot insist enough on this point. Many relationships break after years of togetherness - it does not need to culminate into marriage even on a moral stand point. However, it is immoral to wed someone you do not wish to aka Anuj Shruti - which is BTW forced and pushed by Aadhaya

Anuj can date 1 or any number of women he likes - he is under no obligation to be answerable to Aadhaya and go by her 'wish'. She must learn her boundaries - Anuj is the parent not Aadhaya. She is right to wish for a stable family however, she is not right to force shruti down Anuj's throat. Two different things altogether

Now I don't see how Anuj is forcing her to like Shahs but he is not wrong for asking Aadhaya to be respectful towards Anupama. She walked out on them because Aadhaya made a full drama about the car-accident rescue as "my mother would have let me die". And Anuj chipped in his bit later supporting his own theories on how Anupama was incompetent - where as Anuj himself left no stones unturned to serve the Shahs. What was expected of Anupama after this? She accepted all the blame and did the right thing - moved on. If she in fact was an incompetent mother, she had no reason to be with them. So why get 'affected' by this? Aadhaya seemed to have no problem in past so many years living without her mother - her needle was still stuck on the 'accident' which to my surprise has never been addressed. Aadhaya remains insecured that she was not the 1st one to be rescued - at first it made just a little sense she felt that way as she was a child. However, not a single adult explained and understand the circumstances around the rescue and why she was rescued last.

But none of this answers the actual question asked in this post - is Anuj right to make Aadhaya see what all he has done for her? And I say - he is absolutely right - Again Aadhaya needs to stop her victim-mentality now. She got mad at her mother, parents marriage broke and she is happy without her mom. However, this still DOES NOT give her the right to decide who her father should marry. Period