Okay. I see what you are trying to say here. Let me not defend what Anupama did after her divorce. Let's talk about the present. What Anupama did with the Shahs in her second wedding doesn't justify what Shruti is doing now. Also, if Anuj didn't tell Shruti, it is Anuj's fault. And yes, Anu should have told her too. I understand. But any of that doesn't justify what Shruti is doing. Even Adhya didn't tell Shruti for that matter. Plus Anupama wasn't hurting Shruti. Shruti shouldn't do this knowing how much Anuj and Anupama love each other.
ALL I am trying to tell is:
1. Yes, Shruti's actions are uncalled for. However, it may come as a consequence of the betrayed trust.
2. Anuj loves Anupama is also not Shruti's fault, right? May be Shruti wants them to realise her hurt, they hurt her by keeping the truth from her not respecting her trust, they will now realise what she feels?
Finally, When we judge one person on a set of parameters the parameter have to be uniform across characters, right?
If "a" person's actions are incorrect for a set if reasons. It is wrong regardless of the character, lead or not.