Like always [DT Note: pg-11] - Page 3

Originally posted by: focus7

https://twitter.com/lsecretkeeper/status/1687298938863341568?s=20

Exactly.

It's so obvious that he wants the world to revolve around him and everyone should live according to his rules. And when they don't he whines like a baby who didn't get the candy!

Originally posted by: Chaitu.V

Totally agree! Ma ,beta are best at self victimising and manipulation! What a crap man, I know he is feeling bad that Abhir rejected to even address him as dadda, but kids cannot be forced.

reply: and when did he actually forced abhir. If he wanted he could have forced abhir with him cause he won the custody but he didn't. He let him go. Now he is feeling pain so he is crying. As far as I know he didn't even know today that abhir has came. He thought it was a dream.

Furthermore can't a man cry if he feels the pain.

It should happen organically and it will happen. He can still visit Abhir on weekends and also bring him to BH and spend time with him.But he wants to die 🤡what happened when he n his Ma snatched the kid from his parents ignoring their pain and the kids too?

He didn't snatched. He was said that if only he wins the custody,abhir would be told truth. what was he supposed to do?? When Mj is concerned for her grown up son and still controls him what’s wrong when a 6yr old wants his mom? Can’t he his his mom? Why didn’t Mj send her some with Harsh then ? Sorry I forgot she also let poor Neil to get abused all his life by his own papa. And now why r they behaving as if it end of the world , this is the reason I always say Mr.self centred Birla is always me ,myself n can’t see anything above that. He can never be happy with what he have ,or he can handle relationships.Ma ,beta used Ruhi all these yrs to heal Mr.Birla’s pain and now he don’t really care for her who he used to claim his jaan and nothing is imp to him than her.

Ruhi is not something to heal his pain . Ruhi is his responsibility. Idk why things are forgettem in itv as per convenience but as you remember dying Neil took promise from both ak and abhi to take care of his baby but only abhi did and ak...I don't think even she remembers.

Chi shame on him , that cutie pie Ruhi was comforting him hugging and kissing and aslo giving him hope and strength but he least cares about her.

Even today in the hospital Arohi asked if Ma,Ruhi n all other family members doesn’t matter ,but he least a cares,he only wants his blood..this is the exact reason I like Abhinav Sharma and Navbhir ,I love this spl bond they share ,this man truly n heart fully accepted Abhir as his own, he doesn’t care about blood relations. I felt a bit bad for AbM when Abhir rejected to call dadda but not anymore , remember how he ignored poor Ruhi in that family summer camp ,she felt left out and this selfish ,useless man is doing the same again. Kitna bhi white washing karne ka koshish kare can’t connect to his pain.

Parents have 2 kids and they take care of both just as abhi doing. Atleast give credit to him . The way he let ruhi and abhir develop the bond. If he would be like the way you are saying he would have easily left ruhi and had gone all length for abhir without caring for an ounce about ruhi. He wasn't needed to make patch up between them.
Ak didn’t reveal the truth and she is the reason for his pain ,so he should be mad at Ak but nah later he will shamelessly run behind her and beg her to be back into his life am sure Ma bhi aa jayegi , for once I want to see him to reject Ak and find some other girl for him but nahi hoga.
Why is Ak still calling Mj as Ma ? 🤡 Stop calling her Ma or just stay away. Why do u want to be in everyone’s good books lady!

Time doesn't defines love,

Originally posted by: janecastle

Nobody even expects basic human decency from Dr Birla. That's why the slightest thing he did, after his son begged in front of him, is considered some mahaan act. 🤪 In reality, that's the smallest thing a father could do for his child.

If, if you take Abhimnayu Birla and place him in reality, he is the classic example of an gaslighting abuser and probably ranks second after Harsh in toxicity.

But Harsh showed the decency to apologise and get better. This dude doesn't even do that. Just keep crying, I am the victim, I am the victim!

Originally posted by: JustaFan13

Why should he be happy only with roohi and arohi??? Abhir is his son!!! Why shouldn't he be with his son???

Then let Akshara give up on Abhir and be happy with abhinav!!! Why was she crying buckets and fell sick???

Ak n Abhinav gave up Abhir and sent him to BH using that stupid financial plan breaking kids heart. But Abhir chose to live with them..
Why can’t he accept Ruhi as his own ? Why he n his mom always wants blood relations? Ruhi loves him unconditionally but for AbM from the day he found out the truth of his son he only wants Abhir.

Originally posted by: Harry-potter

All of this you have written has been addressed by so many of us since season 3 started and again after the leap. About Abhimanyu's core issues and how he never improved. It is not even about rejecting Abhimanyu as Abhir's father. It's like his tantrum throwing dramatic behaviour when he doesn't get what he wants. He still has so many reasons to live. Like his mom, like his daughter samaan Roohi. For 6 years, she was the sole reason for his living. Think about Akshara who had to give up Abhir. The only kid she has. And it's not like they said he can never meet Abhir.

I didn't know for parents who have more than one children, they just wash their hands off responsibility to the other children because one wants to live with his mom

Also, no one has any issues with a man crying. Everyone should cry. But when you cry and get your sadness out, you are supposed to become a better human being. Not to keep playing victim card and make others feel guilty. That is what Manjari does all the freaking time and also Abhimanyu.

It's like ma-beta duo has separate rules.

Originally posted by: Chaitu.V

He don’t have to give up his son ,he have equal rights the other parents, but he has no option left as Abhir rejected him and wants to stay with his parents. But still he can visit Abhir on weekends and bring him to BH and spend time. That’s what Ak is supposed to do when he got Abhir to BH ,so he can do the same. If the parents r divorced then one parent gets to keep the kid mostly mom incase of minors and dad will have visiting rights.

Ak n Abhinav gave up Abhir and sent him to BH using that stupid financial plan breaking kids heart. But Abhir chose to live with them..

Chaitu, my response was to a different post, where someone mentioned that he should find happiness with ruhi and arohi now and let go off abhir!!!

But the Sharma's and abhir want to go back to Kasauli, how will abhi be able to meet him every weekend??

Akshara and Abhinav did not give up on Abhir, they lost the custody and they were forced to send abhir!!! Akshara would have never given up on Abhir at any cost of it was not the court's order.

Originally posted by: Ekahriz

If, if you take Abhimnayu Birla and place him in reality, he is the classic example of an gaslighting abuser and probably ranks second after Harsh in toxicity.

But Harsh showed the decency to apologise and get better. This dude doesn't even do that. Just keep crying, I am the victim, I am the victim!

But the great Mr Sharma who agreed to a loveless marriage because he probably couldn’t find a partner for himself and got a family. Took free help from Birlas while Abhimanyu always paid for their services - be it cab or homestay! And still had the audacity to hide the truth about Abhir! Even after it was out, he recounted it as a favor!!! If this is the difference between Achha and “abuser”, I am definitely gonna choose “abuser” always!

Today's episode just reiterated what I have always said about Abhimanyu in all my posts and threads about him. That Abhimanyu himself is the greatest villain of his life and every suffering of his has always been the direct consequence of his own impulsive,intentional and ridiculously thoughtless actions.

How does one 40 year old think his 6 year old could live without his mother when he cannot at his age, how does a 40 year old think his 6 year would choose him over the parents who raised him. To thoughtlessly keep a child separate from his parents.. ofcourse he would be taught a lesson. Ofcourse his biological son would reject these notions and wake him up from these delusions. This was Abhimanyu's lesson : Even with LEGAL HAQ you cannot force your biological son to consider you a father.

All his HAQ went to the dumps.

This is also his punishment for listening and going with every single one of his mother's vile plans to keep Abhir as a prize for show in the Birla House when it was crystal clear,with literally the rest of members of the house telling him every other day, that Abhir was unhappy staying in Birla House and he was yearning for his mother, his parents. A lesson for despicable Manjiri as well : You cannot consider a human being, a little kid a land to conquer, a land you can forcefully stomp your feet on, KABZA on.

Abhir rejected the HAQ and KABZA and freed himself from these two's clutches and thats essentially why Abhimanyu today is off his rockers,intoxicated and hallucinating on the streets.

When he is stumbling and wobbling on the street he says 'I failed to become a good Dadda to you, Abhir'.. if I am paraphrasing this correct, he is absolutely RIGHT. And that is where he loses any semblance of sympathy from me.

If he was a good father, he wouldnt have separated Abhir from his parents when he KNEW how much his parents meant to him.

If he was a good father, he wouldnt have waited till Abhir literally had to run away from BH and from him for his mother and then say ' I am unhappy and I wanna go to my parents' to let go of him. He was so blindsided by his own selfish needs to be a father that he simply ignored what was right infront of him for weeks : An unhappy Abhir missing his parents. His own needs blinded him to take care of sons's.

So ofcourse he has to suffer now. Because he made his biological son suffer from seperation from his parents.

In the past Abhimanyu has conveniently blamed Akshara, Shivji, Kanhaji and now its suddenly QISMAT.. when all along it was ALL HIM. White day and whatever ensued as a consequence, separating Abhir from his parents, Abhir running away from BH and now Abhir rejecting him for his parents and taking back the faux father epithet Dadda respectively... ALL OF IT was and is ABHIMANYU's fault alone.

The day he finally accepts his faults without instant whitewashing and playing the victim card is the day he would be actually deserving of some sympathy. Because how does one with even sympathize now when all he's getting back is KARMA, which its completely deserving.

How exactly did Abhi make them feel guilty?
When Akshara tried comforting him yesterday, he said I will be fine, I just need time, and told her to leave him alone and go enjoy with her family, Funny thing is Akshara came outside, Abhi didn’t show her his pain-he got a call and went outside to grieve on his own- he didn’t show it to anyone.

He quietly dropped off Abhir’s things, he didn’t come inside the house and disturb their family time.

Today he was drunk and dealing with the pain on his own, he was sleeping the hospital and minding his own business, he didn’t bother anyone- it was Manjiri over stressing.

Again, he didn’t know they were coming over - even after they came - he thought he was imagining things and he didn’t saying anything hurtful.
Victim blaming would be him constantly showing to them how much pain they gave him- but here Abhi is keeping his distance and dealing with it on his own. He hasn’t gonna to Goenka house and accused anyone of anything.

I don’t think any parent would accept rejection from their own kid well.

Originally posted by: Ekahriz

All of this you have written has been addressed by so many of us since season 3 started and again after the leap. About Abhimanyu's core issues and how he never improved. It is not even about rejecting Abhimanyu as Abhir's father. It's like his tantrum throwing dramatic behaviour when he doesn't get what he wants. He still has so many reasons to live. Like his mom, like his daughter samaan Roohi. For 6 years, she was the sole reason for his living. Think about Akshara who had to give up Abhir. The only kid she has. And it's not like they said he can never meet Abhir.

I didn't know for parents who have more than one children, they just wash their hands off responsibility to the other children because one wants to live with his mom

Also, no one has any issues with a man crying. Everyone should cry. But when you cry and get your sadness out, you are supposed to become a better human being. Not to keep playing victim card and make others feel guilty. That is what Manjari does all the freaking time and also Abhimanyu.

It's like ma-beta duo has separate rules.

Originally posted by: DevilsHeart

Wow! So the abuser has been doing the slightest at every turn - saving Abhinav’s life in Kasauli, offering free surgery to Abhir(when he didn’t know the truth), helping in Muskan’s wedding - none of which he was expected to do nor he rubbed it in anyone’s face.

But the great Mr Sharma who agreed to a loveless marriage because he probably couldn’t find a partner for himself and got a family. Took free help from Birlas while Abhimanyu always paid for their services - be it cab or homestay! And still had the audacity to hide the truth about Abhir! Even after it was out, he recounted it as a favor!!! If this is the difference between Achha and “abuser”, I am definitely gonna choose “abuser” always!

A person who kicks out divorcing a miscarried wife accusing her for 9 murders is an abuser. Abusing doesn’t have to physical always ,it can be mental abuse too. These kind of abusers will not even be my last option to choose as a life partner, who cannot see anything beyond them and their pain ,he can only hurt ppl(he accepted in yesterday’s episode) with his actions and obsession.

@Jsutfan

Why can’t he be happy with Ruhi as before as he used to be with her before Abhir then why not now ? He can stil spend his weekends with Abhir going to kasuali ,he is rich and that’s the only reason he won the custody of Abhir. So he can fly n meet him every week like how every divorce couple does.

He is always like this he can handle only one relationship at a time and hurt others with his actions. He hurt Ruhi too in that family summer camp with his behaviour, he can’t balance relationships,except with his mom! Today from his actions and behaviour I feel He don’t really care about Ruhi .