Resurgence | Arshi FF | Thread 2 | thread 3 link posted on page 150 - Page 48

Originally posted by: BollyBabe75

In one of my first posts in thread one I mentioned that I hoped that the old trope of him sleeping with Lavenya when he was drunk wasn’t going to be used. Well, he did sleep with her under such circumstances it seems. Or he was drugged. But you are such a skilled writer you brought more into the infidelity than just just the alcohol so it made it seem more than just a cliché.

yeah so what helps here is setting the characterisation and an already developed plot which I won’t change because I’ve seen it in the past.

This comes from a personal opinion and experience of writing a bit so I would share!

When i write a long story, my feelings change for the characters depending on where i am at the story. In a timeline jump I cannot afford that. So when it wasn’t revealed what had actually happened between Arnav and Lavanya, I couldn’t just write up a complete A hole character and then say he made a drunken mistake for the sake of twists and suspense alone. His characterisation needed to be in place since chapter 1. That he is a serious, responsible kind of person even though the present events pose a question to those qualities. Which is why I think Arnav of this story and his actions confused people. That why would he miss Khushi or go running back if he purposely hurt her in the first place. I had to be patient with that.

In my experience FF writers often incorporate these things into the original story which is also the beauty of this format. But for this story, I wanted to incorporate feedback into my writing style and leave the plot as it is. So even when I’m not feeling too empathetic about a character, I don’t end up writing something which is not in line with the story.

Which is why I think it makes the drunk trope acceptable in this one. Arnav was never written as someone capable of pulling off an affair or hurt Khushi, even when circumstances were pointing that way.

Did he F ed up?? Still a big yes.

I agree that six drinks would probably have the same effect on him as being drugged would. Of course, depending how strong they were. In this instance, Arnav was totally at fault for causing this damage to their marriage. But in the overall marriage demise, Khushi bears some responsibility.

Originally posted by: SwatStar_Arshi

I agree with you 200%, this is completely Arnav's fault. What happened to the seasoned player of this game? He forgot his own rules??? He is aware clearly shit happens in rave parties and Khushi was so against these things... And when there was no business or networking, he should have simply walked out...

It's different story La and Ma conspired against him, but if not Lavanya, someone else would have taken advantage of a rich, young film producer who is drunk heavily and wobbly... All anyone needs to do is take him to nearest room, make him and herself naked, take few pics and sleep without doing anything; it's sufficient for the shock, guilt next morning and the blackmail starts and money flows.. No doubts about it..

The fact is he wanted to let loose and was on his sixth drink is enough... Six drinks can do the same job without drugs or spiking the drink.. And his trusted crew was not there around him to handle things, double whammy!

Yes, the way you write and take the plot forward attests to the success in your approach. I for one never thought he set out to hurt Khushi with the infidelity. Nor did I think he was capable of using a woman for his physical needs. That’s why I was so wrong about how he hooked up with Lavenya. I think he is a man under ordinary circumstances that needs to feel a connection to a woman to get intimate.

But, unless we find out otherwise, Lavenya was drunk too so did she really take advantage of him in the end? I don’t think I would call it rape. True, he did say no but as she persisted he totally seemed to respond. So I would say, he shouldn’t have drunk so heavily. He has himself to blame. Now all this is predicated on his drinks not being drugged. But six drinks would have a drugged effect in most cases.

As I said early on, I thought something big must have happened for him to be off of Manali and Lavenya. Well now we know; the ramifications of his adultery. Hopefully, by Monday or sooner we’ll get further clarification on that.

Originally posted by: VeiledWords

Yep. He may not have known things were going yo get so out of hand but he did drink pretty recklessly. Not saying it gives anyone a right to take advantage of him because had the genders been reversed, the debate would be over before it began. But he did let loose for the very first time at a very wrong place and well, life doesn’t play fair.

Thats exactly what I feel. Everyone who still is disgusted by Arnav should cut him some slack. If the situation and genders were reversed then it would have been so different. Just because Lavanya is a female doesn’t excuse her from doing what she did. He let loose at a party where he knew everyone and La was always professional so he felt it was a safe space. Th final drink La had asked the server to bring (I strongly feel this is where the doctoring happened) was probably what made him incapable of calling his driver. He was not in his senses and still he held on so I will place the blame squarely on Lavanya. It doesn’t matter male or female, but taking advantage is definitely not correct. How can it be consensual when he kept trying to push her away and kept asking her to call the driver? He was not in his senses I’d already established by his almost falling off the edge.

Yes he messed up but I would refrain from blaming him entirely for it. That’s my opinion anyway

Originally posted by: Pujakrishna

Ashvi i agree with whatever tashi said, i think manali would have got crazy if witch got preg, she is obsessed witch's career. She would have probably killed that child herself. And witch being a seasoned wh*re (pardon my language, i can't help) i don't think will do the mistake of not taking a pill if the actual deed had happened at all in the first place, given there are films lined up for her.

Arpita doesn't put a single word without any reason, so if she had specifically mention boxers (🤢) i think twist ki rani will bring a twist there too.

Yeah after Tashi pointed out I agree lavanya would never have done that abortion as she was obsessed with Arnav.

See I told you I have a doubt they did the complete deed or not. I also said Arnav would have tried to stop or protested. I was not very sure at that time but I wanted to be. Somehow I feel i am super light today

I am not happy but I am relieved after reading the update.

Originally posted by: VeiledWords

no no, it was just amusing. 🙂

And I was laughing at the previous discussion between you guys because Ashvini had actually shared her theory with me in detail about Arnav being under influence of alcohol or drugs and since I could not reveal it back then, I just kept it to myself . That was really hard because it was the first time someone stumbled on the possibility of him being super drunk and I just wanted to reveal all immediately 😅♥️

Yes I told you about the date r*pe drug. I was hanging on thin thread and just wanted to be anything other than a full fledged affair or a conscious ONS. That's my Arnav love. That name does something to me

But on serious note, the Arnav u described was too straight arrow to do this thing knowingly. I mean I agree his behaviour with khushi was horrondous but in all his musings I never felt he was acting on contempt or bitterness and wanted to hurt Khushi. All his musing were somehow had an undertone of his care for Khushi. I want to call it love, I felt it was love but somehow Arnav convinced himself otherwise and have landed in this mess. But he is not malicious person by nature

Originally posted by: tashi26

Bakwas, I did mention in my comments, it is rape. Just men are not considered victims, which is one of the most vile thing in our society.

Monday hopefully we will know. Tag me next time Tashi..not sure where your comment is😘

Arnav personality of doing the right thing (and his assumption that La is not like others and was drunk too) fits that he does not think anything untoward happened.

So if he did get got outfoxed ..the realization will only happen when Khushi and he talk. Or maybe not🤣

Ps. True regarding men/boys are raped. There was an expose by Boston Globe, on priests, raping young boys..they made an excellent movie (don't remember the name) .

Originally posted by: shyamidutt

Thats exactly what I feel. Everyone who still is disgusted by Arnav should cut him some slack. If the situation and genders were reversed then it would have been so different. Just because Lavanya is a female doesn’t excuse her from doing what she did. He let loose at a party where he knew everyone and La was always professional so he felt it was a safe space. Th final drink La had asked the server to bring (I strongly feel this is where the doctoring happened) was probably what made him incapable of calling his driver. He was not in his senses and still he held on so I will place the blame squarely on Lavanya. It doesn’t matter male or female, but taking advantage is definitely not correct. How can it be consensual when he kept trying to push her away and kept asking her to call the driver? He was not in his senses I’d already established by his almost falling off the edge.

Yes he messed up but I would refrain from blaming him entirely for it. That’s my opinion anyway

I agree here 💯. If the genders were reversed there wouldn't have been a debate at all on this. If a girl sleeps with a guy knowingly after he promises marriage with him and then he goes back and dumps her that also is considered r*pe so a guy who is totally drunk where he would have fallen down the ledge, when he kept pushing back and asking to call a driver, is also a victim here.

Yes he made a mistake by not leaving the party, but as far as we know that's the first time he actually let go. I wouldn't even call it a mistake. It was just a misjudgement on his part. He just put his rational brain behind and thought he was safe. Does this make what happened with him right? I don't think so.

If the situation was different, a girl was in a party with her work colleagues with whom she has felt safe and the same thing would have happened,how would we react?

Sorry for a long rant but this is from personal experience where a guy friend of mine was subjected to such things. That time I realised when we females ask for gender equality we mostly, convinently, forget that the guys can also want the same in some cases.

That's just my opinion

ADOPT A PUPPY. Wish they adopt a puppy home. Based on my cousin's experience, pets bring huge emotional stability in home. Eventually the couple be like our fur Baby needs a sibling, let's try for human this time. 🤣. I don't know Why am I commenting silly things? . This is my way of coping the entire chapter ( i thought BL is for Bit#hy Lava😆 not Batsh#t Lunatic, A very innovative name Tashi.)

Arnav mentioned Anjali here (hopefully her character is not that similar to serial character if Yes then she is Anji dimag se Ganji for me😳) the mystery of Anjali aka Gudiya di is now getting into my nerves.