Insecurity [DT NOTE PG 2,8]

Anytime Nav is shown to have any faults, any colors of grey at all, people start instead talking about how Abhi was much worse and then comparing things that are just aren't comparable cause they are different and distinct situations. I am not saying one is better than the other or anything. I don't really care, but uplifting Nav just cause Abhi did something similar in the past doesn't really make sense. Anyways, as I mentioned, Abhi's insecurity was different than Nav's.

Abhi was insecure that Ak would always choose her family over him. Why? Cause she had already done that with disastrous consequences. Once she got married to him, that lessened on her end, but he was still insecure. That was his problem. He never trusted her love for him. That was the crux of the first leap. But it has nothing to do with Nav's insecurity. Abhi believed he deserved Ak and all her love; he never questioned their place together or if he should be Ak's husband at all.

Now coming to Nav, it's a completely different situation. Ak has shown clearly that her family with Nav matters more to her than anything else. Her relationship with Goenkas was non-existent for the past six years. Now she is getting her old relationships back, and due to Abhir, she also has to interact with Abhi. Nav has only seen Abhira mad at each other, so it makes sense why he is surprised at them interacting like old friends. But...it does not make sense why he feels insecure or, worse, feels like he doesn't belong because of this. His insecurity isn't about Ak liking Abhi or still being in love with him. His insecurity is about his position in Ak and Abhir's life. He feels like if Abhira a destined to be together, then he is a thorn in their way, and he should step out. He feels like he doesn't deserve this ( his words, my luck was never this good).

Which is soo stupid. If Ak has chosen Nav which she has done multiple times publically, then only Ak can make the decision of going back on that choice. Why does Nav think that if he steps back, Abhira will be happy? My understanding is that this kind of insecurity won't go away with a simple love confession. Nav isn't insecure about Ak's love or devotion. Instead, he feels he is wrong where he is. As long as Abhi exists in their lives, he is going to continue feeling that way. The more Abhir and Ak get comfortable with Abhi, the worse it will get. But Abhi is not going anywhere cause Abhir is his son. The only real solution for Nav's insecurity is Abhi dying or getting married to Arohi.

Bus bus yahi same to same ditto my thoughts 🤌🏻

DKP be like : Show aesa bnao k 4 log debate krte rahein 😂

True!!! The comparison between abhi and Abhinav's insecurities are baseless. Their situations are completely different.

Also, Nav should have had this insecurity long back, when he agreed to become Abhir's father, even after knowing that the real father is alive.

Akshara can love him, be his love and wife forever, but Abhir never belonged to him. And that's the truth he needs to accept.

After staying with Akshara for 7 yrs, if he thinks he doesn't belong in her life, then all the trust, respect, understanding the couple had goes into the gutter. As abhi has made it very clear that he s in Kasauli for Abhir and Akshara has made it clear 1000 times that she prefers Abhinav.

Since akshu has already chose nav every time even after rejecting Abhi and defended him going against everyone he should not need that much validation. It's like giving agni pariksha every time to prove something.

And i also observed that nav can believe anyone and everyone. Even after knowing akshu for so many years how can he believe some one whom he just met few months back and asking akshu to give proofs.

If tomorrow some outsider comes and say i saw your wife being friendly with some one he might ask validation there too. 😑

Originally posted by: uroka

According to people like you even Kanha didnt belong to yashoda maiya because they were not biologically related🤡

Again baseless comparison. Yashoda was given Kanha to take care of by both his real parents. There was never any question of who is real and who is adopted and they all loved Kanha equally. There was no insecurity that Yashoda felt by the existence of Devaki. Kanha literally went to rescue his real parents. It's not a question about belonging its a question about kinship. And you can have the same feeling for your real and adopted parents but you can't just disregard the real parent cause there is an adopted parent.

Originally posted by: lagjagale

Again baseless comparison. Yashoda was given Kanha to take care of by both his real parents. There was never any question of who is real and who is adopted and they all loved Kanha equally. There was no insecurity that Yashoda felt by the existence of Devaki. Kanha literally went to rescue his real parents. It's not a question about belonging its a question about kinship. And you can have the same feeling for your real and adopted parents but you can't just disregard the real parent cause there is an adopted parent.

If Abhinav was really disregarding real parent, why is he staying with them in Kasauli.. Why is he treated as part of family.. Why is he treated with respect as Bhaiji.. Now if the same guy is roaming around his wife and his mom is asking him to back off he can't even feel little insecure.. Basically he should not have any emotions..

Even your statements are baseless here..

Originally posted by: PeacefulLove

If Abhinav was really disregarding real parent, why is he staying with them in Kasauli.. Why is he treated as part of family.. Why is he treated with respect as Bhaiji.. Now if the same guy is roaming around his wife and his mom is asking him to back off he can't even feel little insecure.. Basically he should not have any emotions..

Even your statements are baseless here..

Please read my post first. I didn't say anything that Nav shouldn't feel insecure. But I do have an issue with how it is framed in the show, where he keeps thinking of it as somehow being his decision and him being a thorn or something when it is Ak's decision, and destiny isn't really that important.

As to the comment I responded to. Yes, Nav is disregarding the real parent. First, he played along with Ak about not telling Abhi and got super guilty, so he told him while drunk. But now, Nav's insecurity is from Abhir knowing Abhi is his real father. So Nav wants Abhir never to find out and maintain this facade that he is Abhir's ONLY father. Which is why I said that the Yashoda comparison was baseless cause Kanha ji obviously knew he real and adopted parents and loved them equally and they never compared who was better.

As to Nav's insecurity regarding Abhira that is a different issue and that is my post so please read that instead.

Originally posted by: uroka

According to people like you even Kanha didnt belong to yashoda maiya because they were not biologically related🤡

Don't compare yashodha maiyya with insecure papa.

There is an effing difference between suspecting your wife of infidelity and feeling that somehow you aren't the one who was supposed to happen to her. LOL

They lack communication but har discussion should start and end with his acchai is phony and Abhimanyu toh jag ka maara hai. Audience usse samajhti hi nahi bas taane marti hai.

Also real parent and fake parent is not a thing. There are those who look after you and selflessly protect you. Sometimes it's your biological parents and sometimes it's not. The constant derision of adoptive relations on this forum is really cringe and has never been a part of the show before this season

The same real parent— a surgeon— kicked out the child's mother without even aborting the miscarried pregnancy which is why he didn't know about Abhir. So I don't feel too bad for him or his rights