AbHiM finds a letter: Epi Air Date 31 May 2023 - Page 23

Don’t ask logical questions - logic & YRKKH don’t go in the same line - you should know by now 🤣🤣🤣

I had the same thought, didn’t we just go thru the most unwanted out of the blue birthday party just few weeks back ???!!! - just to glorify Abhir feeding Nav & flipper madam to taunt Abhi 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

Originally posted by: NomadicWonders

In general I am on AbhiM’s side but never for that day. His behaviour was inhumane that day. I can understand his reasons and sympathise with his grief but not how he behaved. Ak is no saint but no one deserves to be treated the way he treated her on that day.

Miscarriage is difficult on body but more than that it is difficult emotionally. From my experience, in first trimester miscarriage, physical pain is equivalent to very bad/extreme period pain and heavy bleeding. As Ak didn’t miscarry fully, she could have just experienced some pain with bleeding. So I don’t think that aspect makes much difference to the narrative. But emotional impact of miscarriage is huge and it is true for both mother and father. Plus untimely loss of a loved one. These are extreme circumstances in itself but to deal with them together, it could break any strong and sane person. That is what happened with AbhiM and Ak.

Abhi was wrong that day and Ak has taken decisions without thinking (as she always does) since. That is how I see the leap story.

P.s - But most of all I don’t think writers of the show have any sense or sensibility to handle such complex sensitive topics with any maturity.

I'm not sure where in my post you gathered that I'm defending Abhi's behavior on that day😕.....please point me to the exact sentence where I said he did everything right?

I called that whole day tragic....just because I didn't agree to label him inhumane, that makes it me defending him? 😆

What I repeatedly said was that the miscarriage was depicted in a casual manner by the makers.....making Akshara run around minutes after the miscarriage took away from the gravity of what happened to her. Simply putting her in a white suit and making her cry relentlessly doesn't bring across her pain effectively....they should have shown her struggling to move or even once reflecting in numbness over the loss of her babies....but the whole narrative was jumping around between Neil's death and Akshara walking around minutes after her miscarriage. THAT is what I'm talking about....not about how wrong or right Abhi was that day. I didn't even get to that part😆

The words I would use for Abhi for that day are insensitive and thoughtless....for me, the bar for inhumane is different and I still don't agree with people trying to call him a monster for that day....and overall, I feel the writing was poor and contrived for this whole setup because nothing explains divorce papers just lying around and Abhi not even wondering about Akshara's condition after she walked out. They even put in a scene of Shefali asking him why he's not thinking about where Akshara is right now....I found that to be extremely contrived and out of character from a writing perspective but you could tell the makers wanted to run with that cuz they made every other Goenka repeat that Abhi overnight doesn't care about Akshara one bit and this is why they are not made for each other....lol

Originally posted by: DevilsHeart

Abhimanyu on realizing his decisions/actions are wrong - doesn’t run away - he stays and tries make things right in the best way he can think of. And this along with his honesty n straightforwardness is why I enjoy his character and story - its fun to watch it unfold and see a man right his wrongs and grow as a person. Its his kindness mixed with a bit of pride and selfishness that make his character more believable and relatable. A layered personality is more intriguing.

This. I totally agree....this is what makes his character compelling to watch...at his core, he is a very kind hearted and soft person but his zeal for truth and honesty makes him comes across as intense to the point of intimidating many times....his bluntness and straightforwardness is looked at as rude even though his intent is only to stick to the truth as much as he can.

He falters many times in his anger or emotional oversensitivity but whenever he realizes his mistakes, he tries in a genuinely sincere and earnest manner to make up for them....there is no dikhaava in him as a person - that is what I like about his characterization.

Originally posted by: DevilsHeart

Agree. I like Abhimanyu’s character but I am not going to defend him for that day. What he did was wrong and he had been punished by missing out 6 years of his son’s life and mourning for his kids. But he still needs a proper character growth/redemption arc for it.

Akshara had to spell it out to him after 6 years. Just we all would have liked that conversation that he had with Shefali had instead been with Akshara - with a heartfelt apology. Why they didn’t do it I don’t know - are they trying to show Abhimanyu earn that apology before he asks for it in words or it is to drag the story - only time will tell.

However, what happened after that divorce - for that Akshara is accountable. Not taking help from Goenka’s when she knew how complicated her pregnancy was and shs had already lost one kid. She needed better care which she overlooked. She may have married Abhinav after living with him for 6-7 month but why she started living with him in the first place, even after the police and hostel incidents - she never called Kairav/BP for aid. I get her emotional state - but if you can overlook her irrationality because of her emotions and blame Abhimanyu for acting rash in his emotional state - because for most people a woman pain is always more than a man’s! I don’t agree with this line of thinking. Well to each his own.

Even when the Kasauli doctor mentioned she should go to Dr Abhimanyu - her first thought was not about Abhir’s health, rather his truth. After she came to Udaipur for Abhir’s surgery and Abhimanyu was unreachable - she preferred to keep his parentage a secret when it could have made Manjari give details of the camp. Also as an educated woman who has worked in hospitals before she she should know better than to lie to the doctor about the patient.

Her wanting to reunite or live separately or with anyone else is her choice as an individual- it should be respected. But whatever injustices she faced, she doesn’t prioritize things well or look at the long term consequences of her decisions. She may have pure intentions towards others but in order to keep everyone happy - she doesn’t always make sensible choices and when its about to blow up in her face, she avoids the situation by lying/hiding info from others.

Abhimanyu on realizing his decisions/actions are wrong - doesn’t run away - he stays and tries make things right in the best way he can think of. And this along with his honesty n straightforwardness is why I enjoy his character and story - its fun to watch it unfold and see a man right his wrongs and grow as a person. Its his kindness mixed with a bit of pride and selfishness that make his character more believable and relatable. A layered personality is more intriguing.

Abhimanyu's character is relatable because he has all emotions of a normal person. On other hand akshara is selfless just like every ITV FL. But here apart from that her character is irrational and impulsive enough to make stupid decisions and stubborn enough to think that all her decisions are correct.

When akshara was in aaru Jaap mode it took so many effort from Abhi to knock some sense on her. He was humiliated many times during that period. Now she is in her angel patti jaap mode. This time Abhi alone can't put some sense on her, efforts from abhir is also needed as maker's have made Abhi dumb.

I would just add that a truthful man is bound for tragedy in this world....especially on ITV as per whatever I've observed in the last few years since it's the same dialogue writer for all top 4-5 shows on Star Plus😆

They depict any blunt/plain speaking person as a fool that the other characters in the story can casually slander/gaslight/mock and milk all the drama out of. And when I say a truthful person, I don't just mean a person who speaks the truth....I mean a person who's trying to LIVE his truth at every point. That is what Abhi is....a person who does not know any other way than living his truth at every point of life. Before he met Akshara, his only truth was his dedication to his work and his Mom.....after he met Akshara, his love for her became the focal truth of his life and at every point, he simply spoke out and lived out his truth that he loves her.......he spoke/lived out this truth at the cost of all kinds of people mocking him, slandering him, demeaning him.....but he could never fully stop living this truth. Most of this story has been about him realizing that he cannot fight this truth because a) He doesn't know how to do anything other than live his truth and b) Truth always prevails sooner or later no matter how much you try to fight it

Reading this i remembered the line he told Ru (when he convinced her that Abhir is her brother) - I think the line went like “Baccha, mujhe kam pyaar karna hee nahi aata” ❤️❤️ - I might have heard that line 10times & it’s absolutely true in his case…that’s his truth in every phase of his life.

Originally posted by: Nothingtosay

Reading this i remembered the line he told Ru (when he convinced her that Abhir is her brother) - I think the line went like “Baccha, mujhe kam pyaar karna hee nahi aata” ❤️❤️ - I might have heard that line 10times & it’s absolutely true in his case…that’s his truth in every phase of his life.

Oh yes, I loved that line and the emotion with which HC delivered it because it's just such a bang on summary of Abhi....his love is limitless and he isn't capable of loving less. All his other flaws like anger, impulsiveness don't change the fact that his love is pure and all heart for those he loves. Pyar karega toh pure mann se karega aur humesha karega. Aur agar pyar nahin karta hai kisi se, toh kabhi bhi nahin hoga.....see Arohi for example😆.....aise logon ko sirf polite hi/hello milega Abhi se😆.

I'm just really liking that we are getting to see different shades of Abhi the dad and the way he expresses his love in this mode.....a new kind of patience and sabar is there in him with how he deals with Abhir...you can sense that he pines for his son but still holds himself back because of the situation they are in. I'm waiting for the day he can hug his son without holding back in anyway.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Oh yes, I loved that line and the emotion with which HC delivered it because it's just such a bang on summary of Abhi....his love is limitless and he isn't capable of loving less. All his other flaws like anger, impulsiveness don't change the fact that his love is pure and all heart for those he loves. Pyar karega toh pure mann se karega aur humesha karega. Aur agar pyar nahin karta hai kisi se, toh kabhi bhi nahin hoga.....see Arohi for example😆.....aise logon ko sirf polite hi/hello milega Abhi se😆.

I'm just really liking that we are getting to see different shades of Abhi the dad and the way he expresses his love in this mode.....a new kind of patience and sabar is there in him with how he deals with Abhir...you can sense that he pines for his son but still holds himself back because of the situation they are in. I'm waiting for the day he can hug his son without holding back in anyway.

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Originally posted by: AreYaar

I'm not sure where in my post you gathered that I'm defending Abhi's behavior on that day😕.....please point me to the exact sentence where I said he did everything right?

I called that whole day tragic....just because I didn't agree to label him inhumane, that makes it me defending him? 😆

What I repeatedly said was that the miscarriage was depicted in a casual manner by the makers.....making Akshara run around minutes after the miscarriage took away from the gravity of what happened to her. Simply putting her in a white suit and making her cry relentlessly doesn't bring across her pain effectively....they should have shown her struggling to move or even once reflecting in numbness over the loss of her babies....but the whole narrative was jumping around between Neil's death and Akshara walking around minutes after her miscarriage. THAT is what I'm talking about....not about how wrong or right Abhi was that day. I didn't even get to that part😆

The words I would use for Abhi for that day are insensitive and thoughtless....for me, the bar for inhumane is different and I still don't agree with people trying to call him a monster for that day....and overall, I feel the writing was poor and contrived for this whole setup because nothing explains divorce papers just lying around and Abhi not even wondering about Akshara's condition after she walked out. They even put in a scene of Shefali asking him why he's not thinking about where Akshara is right now....I found that to be extremely contrived and out of character from a writing perspective but you could tell the makers wanted to run with that cuz they made every other Goenka repeat that Abhi overnight doesn't care about Akshara one bit and this is why they are not made for each other....lol

My apologies if I misunderstood your intentions of defending AbhiM. Definitely the writing is loose on this show, divorce papers lying around was just a matter of convenience to create more drama. But I think they showed Akshara’s pain enough to atleast convince me. The physical pain aspect that you are talking about as I said in my earlier post isn’t much of significance according to me.

Even for AbhiM, he just didn’t abandon her after she left, when Shefali told him that Ak was missing and she hasn’t gone to Goenkas, he was shown as conflicted and also went to Goenkas to find out about her whereabouts. That whole scene was heart wrenching for me to watch. That is why I don’t agree with view of lot of ppl that AbhiM didn’t care. He did but his grief was too huge. I think Bade Papa also saw that and didn’t hate AbhiM as Kairav does.

As far as made for each other thing is concerned, even I think they are not compatible. Lol.

They love each other but they have to work extra hard to live together because their personalities aren't compatible. But that is the journey to watch. If they did haan ji haan ji what would be fun in that! 😀

Originally posted by: DevilsHeart

Abhimanyu on realizing his decisions/actions are wrong - doesn’t run away - he stays and tries make things right in the best way he can think of. And this along with his honesty n straightforwardness is why I enjoy his character and story - its fun to watch it unfold and see a man right his wrongs and grow as a person. Its his kindness mixed with a bit of pride and selfishness that make his character more believable and relatable. A layered personality is more intriguing.