I think this is the balance they failed to achieve. There is a lot of shades in between vidhi and Amba. It doesn’t have to be either or.
The problem with Amba is she was obsessed and dev wasn’t interested at all. For whatever reasons he might have had. ViDev ‘s relationship was based on mutual consent, love etc.
dev prioritizing his family and expecting his wife to do the same kinda relates back to the emotional abuse that Minami was talking about. Yes you can love your family and prioritize your family, but it doesn’t have to be at the cost of you- always. Satya and co have always taken advantage of that. Yes they love him, but they have always allowed him to sacrifice his needs for them. Nobody said anything when dev gave everything of his away - they made a fake attempt of saying no. But they never refused it and said it was his right and he shouldn’t give it away.
I have said this in the past too, but I had wished they would show dev learning that he has to prioritize himself and vidhi over the rest. And same with vidhi. But the way the story has developed over the last few months, I don’t see even the smallest chance of it happening.
Cant blame makers for this.
This is to do with the Indian middle class mentality.
Most of the times thr first son Or daughter has to assume the role of a scape goat by default.
It's taken for granted .. The person is left with no choice. Doing anything otherwise is seen as selfish. I don't think a family drsma like nuksh will challenge that notion.
That's the reason I like kuch rang pyaar ke.. Where the mil learns a lesson about boundaries and is shown taking up initiatives to become independent which was wonderful.
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