The lesson I learnt

Yeah, I actually did learn something from this do kaudi ka show 🤣

I learnt that you cannot help someone who doesn't want to help him or herself. If you try to force this happiness or improvement, that person isn't gonna change but you will simply ruin your own life+ become bad in everyone's eyes. Also, this person will intentionally or unintentionally resent you and play victim just to resist any kind of change.

Anuj tried as hard as he could but Anupa refused to change, she never learnt her lesson, but Anuj lost all the happiness+ became bad in people's eyes while Anupa got free ki sympathy, playing victim card.

Sometimes you just need to leave people on their own. If they want to, they can help themselves. Anupa is more than capable of changing for herself. Anuj didn't need to try so hard. He should have just remained a friend honestly.

I know I'm hoping unnecessarily but I hope Anuj and Anupa never come together again. She can get her udaan and Anuj can be happy in his own life. He can meet Anu and live his life. If he wishes, he can get married again and have another chance at life. If Anupa wants, she too can, but I hope it's after she has actually changed for the better so that the onus of making her feel good doesn't fall on another man's shoulder. Simply don't want them together.

Anupama will never change. I would prefer they just both stop crying.

Originally posted by: Snowstorm22

Anupama will never change. I would prefer they just both stop crying.

I got scared

I was like kuch accha seekne layak hai😆

Originally posted by: Ria23

I got scared

I was like kuch accha seekne layak hai😆

We sympathize with Anuj but do you really think waiting for someone for 26 years is anything other than Obsessive Compulsive Disorder??

What if Vanraj was a really nice guy? What if Anupamaa was extremely happy?

But this toxic behavior was covered up with plot armour.

Anuj just wanted to take credit for "saving" Anupamaa, when she didn't want to be saved, and ultimately became her Yes-man to avoid upsetting her.

This was what never led to her growth even after the divorce.

I never understood or appreciated that 26 saal ka pyar🤪you will rarely find in my posts any mention of that God forsaken period of love. It is kind of unfathomable for me. But yes, I would like to say that I don't think he actually waited for her all these years, as in waiting for her to divorce her husband and come to him. I think he was in love with her for 26 years, not hoping for anything in return.

I had/have no love for MaAn. Was never interested in their story. I simply wanted Anupa to have an inspiring journey which they never gave. That's why I didn't watch at that time. So I'm in no position to comment on his saviour syndrome. But I have seen a few scenes such as where he watches her fighting goons from afar, clapping for her and telling her she didn't need saving and was capable on her own.

Originally posted by: CheekuKaBeej

I never understood or appreciated that 26 saal ka pyar🤪you will rarely find in my posts any mention of that God forsaken period of love. It is kind of unfathomable for me. But yes, I would like to say that I don't think he actually waited for her all these years, as in waiting for her to divorce her husband and come to him. I think he was in love with her for 26 years, not hoping for anything in return.

I had/have no love for MaAn. Was never interested in their story. I simply wanted Anupa to have an inspiring journey which they never gave. That's why I didn't watch at that time. So I'm in no position to comment on his saviour syndrome. But I have seen a few scenes such as where he watches her fighting goons from afar, clapping for her and telling her she didn't need saving and was capable on her own.

Yes he was not waiting for her. I think he concentrated more on his career and had some short affairs which never lasted. It was by chance that Anupama got divorced and he got hope again. But they got married too early. And my God what a change in Anuj after marriage. The marriage was toxic for him. Too much if Shah influence in his married life. CA was the main light in his life. Anupama never understood that. They both got married too early and adopted a child even more early. No time to understand each other's expectations.

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

We sympathize with Anuj but do you really think waiting for someone for 26 years is anything other than Obsessive Compulsive Disorder??

What if Vanraj was a really nice guy? What if Anupamaa was extremely happy?

But this toxic behavior was covered up with plot armour.

Anuj just wanted to take credit for "saving" Anupamaa, when she didn't want to be saved, and ultimately became her Yes-man to avoid upsetting her.

This was what never led to her growth even after the divorce.

I find a lot of substance in your perspectives, but atleast in my perception, I am wondering if certain nuances are missed.

Yes, being unable to move on from someone for that many years - someone he hadn't even had a proper conversation with - seems like such abnormal and deluded behavior. The only defense I can think of is that he was in regular contact with Devika, considered to be one of Anupama's best friends. But I still wouldn't want to judge him for that.

But was his deluded, unbelievably long hang-up overglorified in the show in the name of love? Way too much.

But I think the stark difference between Maaya and Anuj in this case, and a difference I think has the power to trump (atleast to a good extent) the similarities between them - is the respect of personal space.

Had Vanraj been a good guy, and Anupama truly happy, I doubt he would have ever interfered. Based on what I remember - only after Anupama got divorced and he was aware of the kind of guy Vanraj was, did he approach her. Even at that stage, had Anupama only wanted to remain friends forever, it really appeared like he would have respected that.

But oh yes, after marriage, he behaved as a completely immature teenager, feeding into Anupama's delusions of grandeur. But I still would acknowledge his extremely flawed efforts in trying to teach Anupama to draw boundaries. Ah, I'd hold Anupama so much more responsible for the lack of her own growth than Anuj.

Change and Maa don't go hand in hand. And, to top it her depression is getting on my nerves. I hope she stops this drama soon.