26 years of love taken granted..

First of all I am going to say I am not justifying cheating here but really somewhere I feel like anupama was and is negligent towards her both husbands.In vanraj case,she was so much involved in house hold that she didn't even care to change for her husband.I know even people like vanraj will cheat on anyone even though their wives are educated and working but somewhere I feel like he was right she didn't change ,she stayed the same and he couldn't share anything with her.She did same with anuj.Anuj told her multiple times that don't act like this,it's creating difference between us but she went ahead and did whatever she felt.My point is if she wants to do whatever she wants and doesn't want to consider her husband's opinion then stay independent why to give so much stress to someone and make their life horrible.All of this she is sacrificing for her children ? My god..even after being a caring mother like her..her kids are so immature and mannerless then what is the point ? I know being a mother is hard and I am pretty sure any mother will help their kids no matter how they act.If she really want to do whatever she wants and feels then she need to do that on her own terms..did you notice the difference between her condition when vanraj left her and the one with anuj..you won't see a single difference because she is dependent person.she doesn't have her own identity yet..all the money and empowerment anuj gave her.I just want to say it's all just bookish thing that people should like as the way you are but you have to change yourself according to circumstances Specially,for person like anuj who gave her so much respect and confidence.She took him for granted for his love of 26 years but I saw many marriges where they break because of kids.i think anuj was angry because she didn't even try and my god this lady went to play holi leaving behind her husband. If she really want to do things on her own terms then she have no rights to burden her decisions on someone.

Originally posted by: Kuhu247

First of all I am going to say I am not justifying cheating here but really somewhere I feel like anupama was and is negligent towards her both husbands.In vanraj case,she was so much involved in house hold that she didn't even care to change for her husband.I know even people like vanraj will cheat on anyone even though their wives are educated and working but somewhere I feel like he was right she didn't change ,she stayed the same and he couldn't share anything with her.She did same with anuj.Anuj told her multiple times that don't act like this,it's creating difference between us but she went ahead and did whatever she felt.My point is if she wants to do whatever she wants and doesn't want to consider her husband's opinion then stay independent why to give so much stress to someone and make their life horrible.All of this she is sacrificing for her children ? My god..even after being a caring mother like her..her kids are so immature and mannerless then what is the point ? I know being a mother is hard and I am pretty sure any mother will help their kids no matter how they act.If she really want to do whatever she wants and feels then she need to do that on her own terms..did you notice the difference between her condition when vanraj left her and the one with anuj..you won't see a single difference because she is dependent person.she doesn't have her own identity yet..all the money and empowerment anuj gave her.I just want to say it's all just bookish thing that people should like as the way you are but you have to change yourself according to circumstances Specially,for person like anuj who gave her so much respect and confidence.She took him for granted for his love of 26 years but I saw many marriges where they break because of kids.i think anuj was angry because she didn't even try and my god this lady went to play holi leaving behind her husband. If she really want to do things on her own terms then she have no rights to burden her decisions on someone.

I had said the same thing few days before ki kahi naa kahi Vanraaj bhi 100% galat nahi tha Anupama apne kisi husband ko khush nahi rakh sakti Anuj bhi jab Anupama ke saath nahi nibha saka to duniya ka koi mard Anupama ke saath nahi nibha sakta

Originally posted by: Kuhu247

First of all I am going to say I am not justifying cheating here but really somewhere I feel like anupama was and is negligent towards her both husbands.In vanraj case,she was so much involved in house hold that she didn't even care to change for her husband.I know even people like vanraj will cheat on anyone even though their wives are educated and working but somewhere I feel like he was right she didn't change ,she stayed the same and he couldn't share anything with her.She did same with anuj.Anuj told her multiple times that don't act like this,it's creating difference between us but she went ahead and did whatever she felt.My point is if she wants to do whatever she wants and doesn't want to consider her husband's opinion then stay independent why to give so much stress to someone and make their life horrible.All of this she is sacrificing for her children ? My god..even after being a caring mother like her..her kids are so immature and mannerless then what is the point ? I know being a mother is hard and I am pretty sure any mother will help their kids no matter how they act.If she really want to do whatever she wants and feels then she need to do that on her own terms..did you notice the difference between her condition when vanraj left her and the one with anuj..you won't see a single difference because she is dependent person.she doesn't have her own identity yet..all the money and empowerment anuj gave her.I just want to say it's all just bookish thing that people should like as the way you are but you have to change yourself according to circumstances Specially,for person like anuj who gave her so much respect and confidence.She took him for granted for his love of 26 years but I saw many marriges where they break because of kids.i think anuj was angry because she didn't even try and my god this lady went to play holi leaving behind her husband. If she really want to do things on her own terms then she have no rights to burden her decisions on someone.

Yahi mistake hai Anupama ki wo sab kuch khud karke samajhti hai ki wo sab kuch kar rahi hai galti kaha hai yahi galti hai ki wo apne partner ki sunna nahi chahti

I am not here to judge anyone but aurat apne aap ko agar shaadi je baad apne pati k hissab se "change" na kare to uski galti but pati jo 26 saal se andha pyaar karte the aur tum jaisi ho waisi acchi ho bolte the wo uske change na hone par saal bhar me ham me difference aa rahe hain bole to sahi!

Hypocrisy ki bhi hadd hoti hai!

Ab achanak se anuj kyon anupama change chahiye .Anuj ne to anupama 26 year anupama Roop se pyaar Kiya jaise woh rahi hai 26 year se rahi

Aur waise bhi agar anuj ki liking disliking Har 6 Montth e badalti rahegi to kya anupama aise Har 6 Month mein change hoti rahegi just please anuj

Aisa kub tuk anupama apne aapko change karte rahegi just to please others aur kyon change kare

Pata chala ki anupama ne itna struggle karke apme aap change just to please anuj aur anuj ko usi change se problem hone lage which anuj wanted from anupama from 2 4 month

Jo jaisa hai usko waise hi Rehna chahiye no need to change for other because complaint ka silsila khatm nahi hoga chahe anupama jitna apme aap.mein change laane ki koshish kare agar anupama problem door karne ke liye apne mein change laayegi to agli shikaayat shuru ho jaayegi log to kabhi satisfied Hoge hi nahi

That is why no need of anupama to change

Btw Hum anupama ki original nature kyon ched.chaad kare

Anupama ki pehchaan hi uske original nature se hai

Vanraj was negligent towards her too. He also didn't change for her. I don't think comparing the two marriages is actually fair. Vanraj is on another level.

Originally posted by: sillibilli

I am not here to judge anyone but aurat apne aap ko agar shaadi je baad apne pati k hissab se "change" na kare to uski galti but pati jo 26 saal se andha pyaar karte the aur tum jaisi ho waisi acchi ho bolte the wo uske change na hone par saal bhar me ham me difference aa rahe hain bole to sahi!

Hypocrisy ki bhi hadd hoti hai!

Sorry, but there is a difference between changing (in the context of complete surrender) and changing to adapt. It's a two way street. He adapted to her habits but she isn't willing to adapt to his? How is that fair?

Let us say, the situations were reversed and Anuj had a wife and kids and he was close to his ex-inlaws and was constantly involved in their lives to the extent of ignoring the new family, would we have said the same?

And anyway, people have to change and walk with the times and situations. Even still water gets stagnant.

When people are in love, it is natural to show your best side but in a marriage, you understand that the same person can be annoying may have weird characteristics and both learn a way around it or change if need be. That us how you grow. Nothing wrong with it.

Vanraj to khud bolta ths anupama se ki tumhara kaam hai parivar dekhna aur bache palna husband ke liye kapde dhona husband ko khaana paroanna aur woh anupama ne kiya 25 year tuk phir bhi Vanraj ko anupama se shikaayat thi

Agar Vanraj anupama mein change dekhna chahta tha to vanraj ne anupama ko 25 years se Bahar jaane kyon nahi diya vanraj ko kyon kharaab laga jub anupama be school teacher join Kiya

Vanraj ko anupama ki Azaadi pasand nahi thi vanraj ka ek hi maksad raha anupama ko bandhua mazdoor banana aur uske Ghar mein kaiid karke anupama ko Ghar ke kaam mein Lagaye rakhna

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Vanraj to khud bolta ths anupama se ki tumhara kaam hai parivar dekhna aur bache palna husband ke liye kapde dhona husband ko khaana paroanna aur woh anupama ne kiya 25 year tuk phir bhi Vanraj ko anupama se shikaayat thi

Agar Vanraj anupama mein change dekhna chahta tha to vanraj ne anupama ko 25 years se Bahar jaane kyon nahi diya vanraj ko kyon kharaab laga jub anupama be school teacher join Kiya

Vanraj ko anupama ki Azaadi pasand nahi thi vanraj ka ek hi maksad raha anupama ko bandhua mazdoor banana aur uske Ghar mein kaiid karke anupama ko Ghar ke kaam mein Lagaye rakhna

This reminds me of a hilarious Instagram video I saw yesterday where a husband tells his wife, who is dressed in comfy casuals, that she should dress up more. She grins at him then the rest of the video she is dressed to the nines in party clothes scrubbing the toilet, washing dishes doing all the house chores in party dresses, all whilst grinning towards the camera the entire time. 🤣

Vanraj was 100% responsible for the divorce but here both MaAn are equally responsible.

He is a narcissistic p**, never happy with any women coz his motive is to keep others unhappy. Aise log na khud khush rehte hai na inke saath rehne wale

Anuj kept saying her be yourself, I love you for what you are blah blah, felt bad when she ran to tamaShah house for any minor inconvenience, told her about his insecurities wayyy later, gave responsibility of another child just on the second day of marriage

Whereas anupama RAN whenever she got an opportunity to the same toxic environment who cut her wings, never let her do anything, treated her worse than a maid etc. I used to feel angry when she considered that toxic house as her maika, even after marriage they treated her exactly the same way they did since these years. Imagine forgetting your own mother and inviting your toxic so called baa to your functions and let her humiliate your husband and daughter IN YOUR OWN HOUSE