Cried for AnupaMaa... - Page 2

Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD

I had tears in my eyes after watching the precap. I don't blame Anuj for what he said or did. I completely understand his reactions as I too went through depression several times, but still, I felt sad seeing MAA begging him to reconsider the divorce. No marriage should ever come to this point, especially if this is a second marriage. I don't know how makers will make this right. I don't want Anuj to go on a guilt trip after seeing MAA risking her life to save CA. I don't want them to reconcile after CA comes back into their life. It would imply that Anuj only wants MAA as CA's mother. They should only reconcile only if they genuinely love each other, and not because of any kid. A marriage that needs a kid to survive should not survive at all.

P.S.: I know she reaped what she sowed, and I should not feel sorry for her, but I can't help it.

To be brutally honest their relationship is a poison for each other. That poison will eventually consume both of them. Or else one of them has to compromise for the rest of the life. I will come across as rude or mean but nobody should stay in such a relationship in the name of love. This is my personal opinion. I was always against their relationship but had some hope earlier but now it’s in negative zone

Anuj has made mistakes in the marriage too but he knows what they are and tries to introspect. Anupama just thinks that getting married to Anuj itself is the silver bullet. Every marriage needs work, no matter how kind and generous your spouse is. She did take him for granted and he was pushed too far, doesn't she see it? Even when the whole topic of setting boundaries came up after all the fights with the Shahs, she gave him the puppy faced looks as though he were tying her down in KM and preventing her from going to them, instead of she herself understanding where she needed to put her foot down. He's not a warden and where's her self accountability?

When he said she looked happy at the Holi event and she replied that it was to hide her sadness, he couldn't buy it because he's seen her go crazy when something happened to her bio kids. I am glad he pointed out this khoon ke rishte.

Also, where does Devika get off saying all those things when she doesn't even know the full picture. She was the one who Anupama called about the adoption and she knows that Anupama wasn't ok with it. She could have advised or convinced her to come clean to Anuj about it the way she convinced her to marry Anuj. Yet today she was blaming Anuj for giving Anupama CA's responsibility as though he dumped it on her without her consent.

They are missing the whole point! CA is not just a responsibility for Anuj, he LOVES her as a father. This is what's missing in Anu and he can sense it. Perhaps he shouldn't expect that his wife would love the kid too but her pretense of loving her is what he has finally seen through.

How dare Devika say Anuj is just like Vanraj? She has lost it and I don't think she's appearing as a true friend of Anuj's - he was right to ask her to stay out of this. She's known Anuj for years and was witness to everything that led to this marriage. She's starting to sound like those man-hating feminists and perhaps Dheeraj should back off now before he too ends up like Anuj at some point.

Originally posted by: strancho

To be brutally honest their relationship is a poison for each other. That poison will eventually consume both of them. Or else one of them has to compromise for the rest of the life. I will come across as rude or mean but nobody should stay in such a relationship in the name of love. This is my personal opinion. I was always against their relationship but had some hope earlier but now it’s in negative zone

I think the marriage happened too fast. Anupama needed more time to break free of the Shahs and clear her mind so that she could give this marriage what it needed.

Anuj has compromised more than he needed to and I think he's reached his limit. If he decides to come back he'll have to accept that she won't change and that he'll have to make do with what she spares.

As a woman, I feel bad for Anupama that she got a chance to start fresh and have a good marriage with Anuj but she's self sabotaging it for those useless people.

Originally posted by: inlieu

I think the marriage happened too fast. Anupama needed more time to break free of the Shahs and clear her mind so that she could give this marriage what it needed.

Anuj has compromised more than he needed to and I think he's reached his limit. If he decides to come back he'll have to accept that she won't change and that he'll have to make do with what she spares.

As a woman, I feel bad for Anupama that she got a chance to start fresh and have a good marriage with Anuj but she's self sabotaging it for those useless people.

That was my personal opinion as if I am done with something/someone I won’t look back again. I feel that’s what moving on means

Originally posted by: inlieu

I think the marriage happened too fast. Anupama needed more time to break free of the Shahs and clear her mind so that she could give this marriage what it needed.

Anuj has compromised more than he needed to and I think he's reached his limit. If he decides to come back he'll have to accept that she won't change and that he'll have to make do with what she spares.

As a woman, I feel bad for Anupama that she got a chance to start fresh and have a good marriage with Anuj but she's self sabotaging it for those useless people.

Originally posted by: Radhiii

I think how much ever time would have been given to her she would still never break free from shahs and she still doesn't understand the reason of anuj's outburst or just doesnt want to understand as she keeps asking him kya hua hai, aap mujhse naraz kyu hai, mai achi nahi lagti and all....

Yeah, ironically this marriage fast tracked some of her letting go of the Shahs but only in name.

For her this marriage has been about Anuj loving her and putting her above all else but she's unable to reflect on when things started going downhill because her focus is still on Anuj wanting her or not. Sorry to say this but parents will usually prioritize kids over spouses. She's been obsessed about him neglecting her but not getting that a broken hearted father will keep thinking about his kid first and not his marriage, especially initially. She should have given him space. It's the same as what happened after New Years. She made it all about her and failed to get what was bothering him, even after he spelled it out.

The greatest twist would be if they find a way to bring CA back but this time Anuj refuses because he feels that KM is not the best place for her and does indeed sacrifice for her again.

One more thing, Vanraj NEVER loved Anu from day 1. Anuj has always loved her but says he doesn't know anymore what he feels. That's what happens to people who are traumatized and depressed. They feel numb and detached from their surroundings, even from themselves. They don't follow their normal routines, even the basics like sleeping or eating properly. It takes time, sometimes months or years, for them to come out of this, through counselling, therapy, and most importantly the constant support of loved ones. You cannot expect them to be proactive or contribute anything to any kind of relationship because they are just unable to connect with their surroundings during this period. If you push them too far, it makes things worse, and sometimes when these people come out of depression, they still retain the negative memories of feeling a lack of support from those who pushed them.

A marriage evolves with time, two people never stay the same. If things go well, they grow together, but if not, then they grow apart. This has been happening to MaAn for a while now. He told her a few months ago that he no longer thought of her as his best friend... That was a major red flag. Now he says that the marriage, at least in its current state, is something he can't deal with anymore or relate to. Another red flag.

People are conveniently saying that he used her and is now throwing her out but was he ever fully there in her life? Even now he's saying that he could never hate her, so it means she still has the chance to find her place in his heart again, but only if she truly understands what's really the problem. He knows she has to split her time between two families but her heart? At least she can give him that 100% but that's where she fell short and he's seen it over and over. Sigh... what a mess.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Yeah, ironically this marriage fast tracked some of her letting go of the Shahs but only in name.

For her this marriage has been about Anuj loving her and putting her above all else but she's unable to reflect on when things started going downhill because her focus is still on Anuj wanting her or not. Sorry to say this but parents will usually prioritize kids over spouses. She's been obsessed about him neglecting her but not getting that a broken hearted father will keep thinking about his kid first and not his marriage, especially initially. She should have given him space. It's the same as what happened after New Years. She made it all about her and failed to get what was bothering him, even after he spelled it out.

The greatest twist would be if they find a way to bring CA back but this time Anuj refuses because he feels that KM is not the best place for her and does indeed sacrifice for her again.

Beautifully explained 👍🏼

I dont care what people think but this is my opinion. MAA is wrong but PAA is also equally wrong. Their relationship was because of their love, respect for each other and not because of CA. CA came much later especially Anuj's love was around for 26 years, he is definitely wrong in putting all of his eggs in one basket and calling it quits for a relationship that he was longing all these years for.

To me all of Anuj's love and obsession seems a completely bemaani!!! It cannot b true at all. His PAA love for CA and his so called eternal love for MAA. Its all a false, the man doesn't know what he wants. He never even had second thoughts about spending atleast 6 months with his wife as only a husband and made her a MAA for CA in just less than a month WOW.. normally in arranged marriages it takes 9 months to become a MAA and until then you are husband and wife to each other but these 2 didnt even spend any time of that sort and became MAA PAA... Higjly illogical show, I am will glad and actually cherish if people like PAA never existed.

How conveniently everyone forgot that a 6 year old was having panic attacks because of her mother's absence...

Anuj was right at that time that a a child should not be this much understanding...

Anupma made everything about her and made herself a victim which she is not....Anuj has been complaining about her negligence from few months now....this outburst is not sudden but anupama could never understand him....