TERE BIN-Yumna Z-Wahaj Ali DT #17 "Mai Murtasim Ke Saath Rahungi" - Page 21

Originally posted by: Mari_y

I don't think writer wanted to show Meerab as a feminist. She has taken inspiration from her own cousin who was bold and fiesty.

Ahàa. That could be an angle as long as they don't turn murtasim into ashar from Humsafar and meerab into a roti poor woman. Bold and feisty is good for certain situations and being level headed and logical too is important at the same time.

Also, I don't get how rohail can create any chaos. Murtasim should know that rohail is to Meerab what Behaya is to him. Just nothing but a psycho 😂

Also, I hope if meerab leaves for whatever reason, she shouldn't be egoistic about initially getting support from both her dads. They forced her into this situation. There's no shame in asking for support until she can be established as that's her right. And that would be better for her daughter. And whatever murtasim is, he deserves to know his daughter. Meerab seems ziddi and may put her ego first or murtasim might do something very hurtful and that would make meerabs action understandable.

I think this time it will be murtasim's fault. But regardless of the turn of events that awaits us, I'm all for meerab being happy and thriving with or without murtasim!

Originally posted by: Kumuda-123

My understanding

She didn't forgive the people who kidnapped her. She clearly told murtasim punish the people who kidnapped me if u want. But murtasim talked about izzat ke badle izzat thing and brought a girl which is absurd. That's why she said I want to finish this matter, I forgive them so u too forget about it.

After that he went to his enemies place with gun which would have endangered his life or made him criminal which she don't want.

@bold if she doesn't know hardship of other women who come from difficult background then she wouldn't have fought for a woman in first episode, she wouldn't have opposed her own husband infront of many people to save the girl who she thinks gonna get married forcefully.

The main reason she wanted murtasim to forgive them is to stop generation enemity. She got kidnapped because of that enemity. Many people like her would be collateral damage between two groups enemity.

Is there any guarantee that the person's father would have stayed silent had murtasim didn't accept his forgiveness? He would have got more angry for his son and would have done even more damage.

Not saying they deserve punishment. They do. But by that logic even murtasim deserves punishment for bringing a girl from that group. That is also called kidnapping.

Neither murtasim nor meerab is role model in this show. They aren't perfect characters. They are characters with flaws.

Meerab doesn't know about those enemy politics. So she did what is best to stop fights. But murtasim very well know everything. Still he decided to forgive. That blame can't be thrown at meerab. She just gave a suggestion, didn't force him.

If meerab is stupid then murtasim is double stupid in this aspect.

Thank you for your thoughts! Yeah completely agree that murtasim is wrong. No women children should be a collateral in this war of greed. That's why I said her stance on nyla was the right one. And also not blaming her for murtasim's decision. He could have chosen not to forgive. He choose to please meerab. But regardless, meerabs approach for a lot of things are loud and stupid.

And while she cares for others. She hasn't seen much hardship. Lots of people out here in the world acting haute and mighty thinking they are the most empathetic while hàving no understanding of a scenario. There's a need for reading the room

Of course meerab and murtasim are far from perfect but so were zaroon and kashaf. It's perfectly okay to have flaws. That's so human. But meerab really comes off as silly or childish sometimes and it's such a turn off.

Originally posted by: Gundamwing

I saw the whole Ghooghat and Mirror scene as symbolic talk, they were both talking in double meaning.

When getting ready she is thinking how her life was about herself, she lived for herself, she got ready for herself, but now that agency is stolen from her and she is depressed and angry.

Murtasim conversation with Meerab forget the world, this is about us, who did you get ready for. Meerab sombre thoughtful tone when say for me, you felt so bad for her.

When Murtasim says fine first right is yours, he says it softy with affection (wahaj acting when he says that line BRILLIANT)

A thoughtful dialogue, women lose control over their life when they get married and are expected to hand themselves over to their husbands, but Murtasim is showing how her rights over herself comes before his rights over her.

As he lifts her ghoonghat and shift her to the mirror, looking in the mirror when he asks her why don't you see yourself, she says she can't see past him, which reflects that from now on she recognizes him first before herself or anyone.

Murtasim has said in this marriage you come first before me, and Meerab has said I only see you. They have both placed each other above themselves, and it was their wedding vow.

When he signs the contract and they both say Qubool Hai, their wedding is done, outside is just a formality.

Meerab single tear when Murtasim says you will regret this, she looks at him sadly at first her eyes are screaming you don't understand my pain, then looks away determined I will make him eat his words, doubtful as she looks down will I regret this, she looks up at him in his eyes she is determined again. Yumna expressions Chefs Kiss.

The Ghooghat and Mirror scene was one of my favorite scene and loved how you explained it ❤️

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Originally posted by: Heeba

Initially i thought like many murtasim was faking it.. but now for sure i know he is not faking it. If he was he wouldnt have gone to his uncle and say i really love her.

Coming to meerab it is a possibility, but then when i listen to the ost, it looks like she gives in to the love and then something happens and she leaves…

Im just thinking way too much, dont even know if i make any sense 😅

No neither are faking anything. To be duplicitous is a contradiction to their passionate personalities. They will love fiercely as they fight. They never hated each other even more marriage, just clash of the alphas, clash of believes and personalities.

Originally posted by: Kumuda-123

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This exactly 💯. These so called critics don't have problem when shows have domestic abuse type scenes. But they have problem when there are romantic scenes between husband and wife.

Why romance is being seen as taboo. When it's just the expression like anger, sad, love.

I hope tere bin breaks this stereotype in pakh dramas.

Here is my problem with their whole review, yaaaaaaay for romance but even the romance has to fall under the dictation, control and authority of a man. Murtasim leads Meerab follows it is unequal in how they judge them as a couple. I want to see a story judged were both man and woman are given equal weightage, respect, and importance in a relationship.

Is TB breaking stereotypes, maybe but not enough.

So, I keep seeing all the funny edits of Murtasim running after Meerab. 🏃 He doesn’t want to leave her for a minute it seems ❤️

The way I see it, it’s not just because of his love, lust, and feeling of responsibility for her. In Meerub, he has also found a true friend figure, someone on the same level of intelligence and spirit, and worthy and capable of being his friend. He calls her “yaar” on the bhooth balcony scene, and a few other times I think. I think this is significant. Hear me out:

To me, Murtasim was a sad, lonely, and burdened young man that had his dreams and probably some of his youth ripped away from him to assume the immense responsibility of the family and the Gaddi Nasheen-dom. He has no friends apparently, and perhaps no time for friends, and bhaktu doesn’t count 😂. He doesn’t even have a truly friendly equation with his sister, unlike Saad and Nilo. Thats probably why he was aloof and eternally pissed off, “hamesha” as Meerub declared in epi 2 to Haya. The man was alone and there was nobody to really share this weight with and lighten his soul.

Until, Meerab was betrothed and hitched to him, that is. He is attracted to her but also he generally sees her as his equal in many respects like her attitude, courage, and their urge to protect others. They talk to eachother on the same level, with familiarity and obviously some comfort. I bet, aside from her nakhre, Meerub is pretty fun to hang out with. Their nok jhok is fun and she is generally smart. (Unlike a Haya type that is good for “wifely” duties and that’s about it.) Meerub is a true “Saathi” for him, and she fills and has the potential to fill that void of loneliness in many aspects, both as a wife and as a friend. He sees and feels that.

When Murtasim pines for her, like especially when he was getting ready for the Gaon trip, I see him yearning for her company as a friend, not just as a love interest. Like the friend that always wants to hang out because they’re lonely (but he won’t necessary admit it.) It makes me sad for him 😭 But perhaps it’s also why a King Khan like him would EVER agree to marry her without a physical relationship. (Even if he intends to get to that point too!)

Obviously the writer views her husband as her best friend and partner in life, and I really feel that she’s trying to infuse that friend aspect of marriage in Murtasim and Meerab’s equation.

And I love this. I hope you have found and will all find a true friend in your spouses and partners, if you choose to have one. It may take time.

Oh Meerab, you might not realize it, as your experience of friendship is only with the Rohail type; but aside from being hot and probably all qayamat in the sheets, your shohar will be a really good friend to you too!

Originally posted by: WanderingWonder

So, I keep seeing all the funny edits of Murtasim running after Meerab. 🏃 He doesn’t want to leave her for a minute it seems ❤️

The way I see it, it’s not just about his love, lust, and feeling of responsibility for her. In Meerub, he has also found a true friend figure, someone on the same level of intelligence and spirit, and worthy and capable of being his friend. He calls her “yaar” on the bhooth balcony scene, and a few other times I think. I think this is significant. Hear me out:

To me, Murtasim was a sad, lonely, and burdened young man that had his dreams and probably some of his youth ripped away from him to assume the immense responsibility of the family and the Gaddi Nasheen-dom. He has no friends apparently, and perhaps no time for friends, and bhaktu doesn’t count 😂. He doesn’t even have a truly friendly equation with his sister, unlike Saad and Nilo. Thats probably why he was aloof and eternally pissed off, “hamesha” as Meerub declared in epi 2 to Haya. The man was alone and there was nobody to really share this weight with and lighten his soul.

Until, Meerab was betrothed and hitched to him, that is. He is attracted to her but also he generally sees her as his equal in many respects like her attitude, courage, and their urge to protect others. They talk to eachother on the same level, with familiarity and obviously some comfort. I bet, aside from her nakhre, Meerub is pretty fun to hang out with. Their nok jhok is fun and she is generally smart. (Unlike a Haya type that is good for “wifely” duties and that’s about it.) Meerub is a true “sathi” for him, and she fills and has the potential to fill that void of loneliness in many aspects, both as a wife and as a friend. He sees and feels that.

When Murtasim pines for her, like especially when he was getting ready for the Gao trip, I see him yearning for her company as a friend, not just as a love interest. Like the friend that always wants to hang out because they’re lonely (but he won’t necessary admit it.) It makes me sad for him 😭 But perhaps it’s also why a King Khan like him would EVER agree to marry her without a physical relationship. (Even if he intends to get to that point too!)

Obviously the writer views her husband as her best friend and partner in life, and I really feel that she’s trying to infuse that friend aspect of marriage in Murtasim and Meerab’s equation.

And I love this. I hope you have found and will all find a true friend in your spouses and partners, if you choose to have one. It may take time.

Oh Meerab, you might not realize it, as your experience of friends is the Rohail type; but aside from being hot and probably all qayamat in the sheets, your shohar will be a really good friend to you too!

Originally posted by: shruti46

When people say don't show this or that it can affect people's mind. Like during time of Kabir singh or related to TB where murtu says meerub sirfs meri hai shows toxicity. It will be easy for boys to say this girls will think this is romantic but do we really get affected??

I watched ipk when I was in teens yet I knew arnav is good only in sapno ki duniya. I can never live with a guy like him. Same goes for murtasim , I am all for fangirling but I can't live with a guy like him. People don't have their own sense and sensibilities?? Do they really get affected by shows or movies🤔

Are you from India do you know the movie Alaipayuthey in Tami, Saathiya in Hindi. The movie came out in Tamil first by Maniratnam and it as super duper BLOCKBUSTER hit. The movie made famous elopement because parents didn't approve. Do you have any idea how many idiots ran off and got married because of this movie, there were parents begging who said we have no problem with our kids getting married but the couples did it anyways because it was romantic and exciting. We can't deny there is influence, and we can't isolate how entertainment impacts our lives. Mr. Rajinikanth still has a choke hold in South India, if he does something, there will be people who say oh Rajini did it so it is OK.

Movies by SRK had a huge impact on love, how can we forget pyar is dosti. I was in school when that happened it did influence many young minds. Solution to anything is to recognize the problem, before we didn't know how to identify toxic romance, now we do and we reject it. Kabir Singh was widely rejected by young people as healthy romance even though it was a big hit, this same movie even 10 years ago would have been held up as an ideal way for a boy to behave. We are a very theatrical culture whether it is love or hate everything is depicted in extremes, things in extremes are not healthy and we miss the subtlety of emotions. But I think we are getting away from being influenced, only because we see entertainment from around the globe not just India. Young people are more well informed, Parents are more informed, and a well educated well read well informed populace is not so easy to manipulate.

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