A question to all Mothers..... - Page 2

Originally posted by: blue-ice.1

When the husband and wife are alone and the kids have moved out....maybe the spouses have duties towards each other.....understood.....but is a young husband more important than a disabled child.....is going to CA's picnic more important than taking the sick child to the doctor?? As a mother shouldn't she be worried herself and go to the doctor??

I don’t watch the show properly but have seen clips, mom is an avid fan. I will say this, though the forum/SM in general is very pro bechara anuj, I do think he is toxic AF in guilt tripping her for wanting to stay with her disabled child. And she certainly wanted to when he got discharged. Latest eg. is she trying to say no for an appointment due to fearing hurting him for this picnic and him being passive aggressive. I mean dude her son is paralyzed, your daughters picnic can wait 🤣. On top of that she said it for him but he’s still displeased.

He wants her to tell that family to F off and only stay with him and his daughter.

Now her family is scum, for sure. However this has begun a while back from anuj’s end. A few days at the hospital according to Anuj is enough? I think she wanted to stay but feels obliged and knows he will be ticked off if she doesn’t. If she kept going to visit Toshu again he would have lashed out that his daughter isn’t getting the attention she needs. Basically the guy married a woman with kids and now regrets it. Though her kids are absurdly toxic I’ll agree.

Unpopular as my opinion is, he lost his shit at the prospect of losing his daughter who he had a couple of months but can’t see that his wife almost lost her albiet scoundrel son to a stroke. One can say it’s due to Baa emotional blackmail, but I beg to disagree he would have had an issue even if Anupama wanted to stay herself. That she is dense is another story 🤣

Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD

The moment I saw two lines on the pregnancy test kit, I knew it will not be possible for me to love anyone or anything more than that tiny little thing inside my tummy. 😳That's a different kind of love. I never felt that way for anyone.😳

But, my mom always said she loved my father more than anyone and it was always very visible.😆 So, there exist women who love their husbands more than their kids. Nothing unusual.

P.S.: AnupaMaa does not love Anuj more than her kids. Anuj is her financial security. Just as working women leave their kids at home for work, MAA has to leave her chunnu munnus for Anuj.

Originally posted by: blue-ice.1

When the husband and wife are alone and the kids have moved out....maybe the spouses have duties towards each other.....understood.....but is a young husband more important than a disabled child.....is going to CA's picnic more important than taking the sick child to the doctor?? As a mother shouldn't she be worried herself and go to the doctor??

Originally posted by: blue-ice.1

Also I fail to understand......how is Vanraj's relationship/responsibilities with the 3 kids any different than Anupama's??

So if Toshu is paralyzed.....how come Anupama left and said....aapka ghar aap sambhalo....if Kavya is supposed to look after Toshu....why isn't Anuj supposed to look after Toshu too....isn't the Kapadia Mansion as much Anupama's house as it is Anuj's?? If a child is sick and needs help....why is only one parent responsible for taking care of them....I don't care for the grown up kids....who are not their parents' responsibility anymore.

Originally posted by: SoulSpiller

There is so much more context here.

There is the case of sheer exploitation of Anupama by her so called family - the premise of the show was how after 25 years of her marriage, she realizes how she had no voice and identity of her own and proceeds to break her shackles -

- and no 800 episodes later, she's still there.

And now that she's married to a man who has showed her limitless patience and has gone through hell and back begging to prioritize their fostered daughter because Anupama used to keep running to her "family" for every small thing...

There is the case of how Toshu has been behaving with Anupama - no value, no respect, calling her the worst possible adjectives. They had turned him almost irredeemable and this feels like an attempt to whitewash him. But that being said, now that he's paralyzed and at his lowest point in life, expecting Anupama to be there for him when needed is understandable, but NOT all the time now that he's out of the hospital and has so many members of his family to take care of him.

The problem is that woman has said 'yes' so many times when she should have said 'no', but now she's afraid of losing her husband, so she's saying 'no' in what appears to be questionable situations.

Ah it's just all a mess and can't really be compared to reality!

Originally posted by: Deviant_Pixel

I don’t watch the show properly but have seen clips, mom is an avid fan. I will say this, though the forum/SM in general is very pro bechara anuj, I do think he is toxic AF in guilt tripping her for wanting to stay with her disabled child. And she certainly wanted to when he got discharged. Latest eg. is she trying to say no for an appointment due to fearing hurting him for this picnic and him being passive aggressive. I mean dude her son is paralyzed, your daughters picnic can wait 🤣. On top of that she said it for him but he’s still displeased.

He wants her to tell that family to F off and only stay with him and his daughter.

You have to understand that this is the straw that broke the camel's back and not one off incident (which of course you cannot get from clips)

Anuj has been patient for years now and anupama has constantly ignored his needs, even when he was paralyzed and his adopted 7 year old. Again and again and again. For many trival reasons. Like making khichdi for Baa ignorning her 7 year daughters important school function or dancing and celebrating with her exes when her husband was paralyzed

You are talking as if its an isolated incident but even the most patient of saints will have breaking point. And like the boy who cried wolf, no one will have any sympathy for someone who ran for trival issues even if she had genuine issues now

Anuj is behaving exactly like the audience here. In isolation people will sympathize when a mom needs to run to her ill son, but this is not in isolation. Audience has lost all sympathy for this doormat. Its too late to play the sympathy card now. Once trust is lost, it can never come back

Again someone who only watched some clips cannot understand the context. Its like seeing the hero finally beat the villain in the climax and thinking they are cruel because you missed the entire movie of how the villain killed heroes dad and stole his business

Originally posted by: Deviant_Pixel

I don’t watch the show properly but have seen clips, mom is an avid fan. I will say this, though the forum/SM in general is very pro bechara anuj, I do think he is toxic AF in guilt tripping her for wanting to stay with her disabled child. And she certainly wanted to when he got discharged. Latest eg. is she trying to say no for an appointment due to fearing hurting him for this picnic and him being passive aggressive. I mean dude her son is paralyzed, your daughters picnic can wait 🤣. On top of that she said it for him but he’s still displeased.

He wants her to tell that family to F off and only stay with him and his daughter.

Now her family is scum, for sure. However this has begun a while back from anuj’s end. A few days at the hospital according to Anuj is enough? I think she wanted to stay but feels obliged and knows he will be ticked off if she doesn’t. If she kept going to visit Toshu again he would have lashed out that his daughter isn’t getting the attention she needs. Basically the guy married a woman with kids and now regrets it. Though her kids are absurdly toxic I’ll agree.

Unpopular as my opinion is, he lost his shit at the prospect of losing his daughter who he had a couple of months but can’t see that his wife almost lost her albiet scoundrel son to a stroke. One can say it’s due to Baa emotional blackmail, but I beg to disagree he would have had an issue even if Anupama wanted to stay herself. That she is dense is another story 🤣

I respect your opinion. In this case, I see Anuj as someone who has reached all limits of his patience (and understandably so) and I think if it was what he thought was an emergency situation, he'd still have handled it better. Ah but I also think at this point, all the characters are merely just like plot devices and badly written that so many people can have so many perspectives about the 'story'! (If I can call it that)

Originally posted by: Snowstorm22

I hope, I do not sound selfish on this forum. Being a parent is hard, especially as a mom. It is a 24/7 job with no breaks. I have had to do it alone for 15 years with my husband being gone on and off four to five months at a time because of his career with Federal Government here. So, I am looking forward to getting some rest.😌

You don't sound selfish at all! Enjoy your well-deserved rest

Originally posted by: SoulSpiller

I respect your opinion. In this case, I see Anuj as someone who has reached all limits of his patience (and understandably so) and I think if it was what he thought was an emergency situation, he'd still have handled it better. Ah but I also think at this point, all the characters are merely just like plot devices and badly written that so many people can have so many perspectives about the 'story'! (If I can call it that)

Yeah i wrote the same thing, its like someone who saw some clips of climax of a movie where hero beats up villain and thinks he is wrong because they didn't see the whole movie where the villain killed hero's dad and stole his business which caused heart attack to his mother

Originally posted by: blue-ice.1

When the husband and wife are alone and the kids have moved out....maybe the spouses have duties towards each other.....understood.....but is a young husband more important than a disabled child.....is going to CA's picnic more important than taking the sick child to the doctor?? As a mother shouldn't she be worried herself and go to the doctor??