Originally posted by: Silveraliax
And here is my perspective:
Abhi has no excuse for throwing Akshara out at that point in life. If he wanted to separate, he could have done so in a civil manner.
However, I do not agree that all that happened to her was due to Abhi. People are acting as if Akshara was homeless without the Birla. She was not. She had her own family who were rich enough to take care of her and her baby and neither would they have pressurised her to go back to Abhi. If she wanted, they would have even funded her for an accommodation elsewhere. I don't know about others but if I was in her situation, my utmost priority would be my baby and I would never risk living with a stranger with little to no money in a country where hosptial fees are tall and especially when I know that the pregnancy is complicated. When bade papa came to see her, she refused to meet him so I am sorry, it was her own choice to go on this journey. I'll repeat that it's a show so I can ignore all the illogical nonsense but in reality, a woman would not risk her baby's life when she has a loving family to support her and I'd deem it very reckless if one did venture out alone despite knowing the risks because in real life, Nav like people are uncommon.
I also do not like this call excuse people keep bringing up because again, if I were to place myself in her shoes then I would not call the father of my baby and then not tell him about the baby. Agreed, Abhi was a jerk and I don't feel so bad for him that he doesn't know yet because he could have listened but at the same time, Akshara could also have made it certain that she is still pregnant. In my opinion, the vague phone calls were abysmal and in real life this would never happen. Abhi did ring her back but Nav picked up and again, Abhi was never told about his babies. He was reminded of his babies (which were deemed dead in his mind) but never actually made clear that his babies were alive. If people can excuse Akshara and nav for such silly phone calls then I think even Abhi deserves a benefit of the doubt that maybe he just did not want to keep being reminded that his babies were dead. It should be noted that Abhi never actually rejected the babies, he said he does not want to talk about them and it is not so difficult to understand this phrase coming from someone who is mourning.
I blame bade papa too in this. He knew the situation but he never tried to dilute it. Both Abhi and Akshara needed an advice from an elder but the elders did nothing to cease the misunderstanding.
Not suggesting Akshara to go back (I actually never want to see Abhira together again) but the phone calls are a poor excuse to justify Akshara hiding the truth.
I don't think you understand my point about Abhir and Nav. I don't hate Nav, I just dislike this fake story Akshara has cooked up in order to give a "better life" to abhir. It would have been acceptable had Akshara and nav been a real couple but they are not. It is very clear that Akshara is with nav as a friend so my question is that if you are only friends then why not bring Abhir up as friends? Regardless of Abhir knowing about Abhi, if he finds out about this fake love story then this alone will break him. Maybe they will dilute this topic on the show but I'm thinking how a child would react if he were to find out that his mum and dad are just acting and the family he believes to be real, is all a facade. Now, Abhir not only has to deal with Abhi's truth but he also has to deal with this lie. There was no need to fake things, that's my point. Nav could have been a great guardian for Abhir too.
If Abhinav and Akshara were really a couple then I wouldn't be complaining.
Also, this marriage cannot be a legal one for various reasons (legally).
yes this bold remark is exactly what i think.
its just my prespective but....
i have seen here people saying abhimanyu considered akshara a baby making machine..he never listened to her part.. he rejected the baby...
but the thing is has akshara even listened to abhimanyu...and what has abhimanyu even asked to take care of herself and their babies...i dont think thats such a selfish request from a husband atleast i as a woman dont find it very selfish .
During picnic, during ngo incident all these time i find it very difficult that akshara despite knowing the risks she risked her as well as their babies life countless time...
and thats where i am unable to connect to akshara ...even though i have not been married but for a women as a parent i have seen countless women to try evrything to keep their babies safe ...no matter how noble the cause is i simply cant comprehend or come to terms with a state of mind of a mother who would risk the lives of her child or forget about them in order to save another...
and akshara has done it once ,twice but still doing it..
aksharas decision to not go back to goenkas was solely a very selfish one...and as always she never really considered the safety of her child who has been blessed without a second chance...
i mean look at that ep where abhinav has brought her to hospital more than emotional i find it traumatic i mean how dangerous it was for abhir and akshara both if something were to happen to abhir that day a second time will she be able to forgive herself ever... for not protecting her child second time...
she should have informed goenkas about her child...she could have told them she dont want to inform birlas about it and wanted to stay away ..they would have supported it after all she was divorced...
but akshara failed as a mother all these times ....
and as far as abhi is concerned no body could justify his behaviour that day but what he q that day as a father , as a brother was genuine...
and words like abhimanyu threw her out , abhimanyu never cared for her , i find it very sarcastic...
abhimanyu always hated akshara being yelled at by his family members so he always told her to stay away from their circus but has she listened to him once....
abhimanyu told her to take care of her and the babies..has she listened to him not once but even during the picnic incident he has observed this reckless behaviour of akshara...
if time and again abhimanyus plea to akshara to take care of herself and their babies was unheard everyone has a limit .. if you cant care for yourself what can anyone else do abhimanyu on that day has just given up trying to protect akshara...it was his breaking point too...
and for all the messed up relations and toxic families DKP is showing for the first time i am happy they are not glorifying aksharas , neils decision to fight the traffickers as some heroic one because it was an utter foolish one...i have seen people here people comparing this act to soldiers..
but there is a stark difference..soldiers are trained and even they dont just give away their lives by putting two or three soldiers in front of a whole battalion ...because every life is important even theirs too ..thats why they plan it before rescuing...
thats why what akshara and neil had done was foolishness and it was sheer luck akshara and one of twin survived...and you can call neils death a heroic one ...but what do you call the death of a twin , "collateral damage" its wrong on so many levels...
no civilian should risk their life like this atleast not without proper plan or assistance...and pregnant ladies should never attempt such a feat..although i doubt any mother would risk their babies life like akshara did ..
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