Is it possible to love adopted kid as own? - Page 2

If people can love dog or cat like own kids and family CA is a small kid why not love her or treat her like a child

even if we find a little child in shop or hotel or mall do we not talk lovingfly to it or if we find it alone or scared take care of it

is it our child? born from our dna

Or is the dog or cat born from our blood that you love it like own family

humans are funny they can treat beggars and dogs or cats and strangers with love and respect but not own family of spouse and own relatives or own adopted kids why because they are not our blood or dna

own mother and father are too be worshiped and taken care nicely but spouse mother father are enemy no 1 (if anuj had parents by anupamas standards they would be treated like barkha ankush mostly compared to hasmukh leela for sure)

own brother and sister are very loved and respected own sibling kids are our kids but spouse sibling and spouse neice nephew are enemy to be treated like shit (like adhik and sara etc )

how did anupama behave when malvika was abused by vanraj compared to when kinjal was attacked in office why the difference?

for that they have grave problems

this anupama used to treat that adhik whose like her son age although relative of anuj as enemy too when he loved pakhi but her own daughter was no saint

if sara had loved samar she would treat her too badly as adhik as shes anuj relative and even CA as shes kapadiya not a Shah

only shahs are to be treated as family and with love by anupama standards

You can't question or force love right. Not everyone loves pet either.

Same way not everyone will want an adopted child after having 3 own child. Motherhood isn't easy, bug responsibility. When my kids are grown up I really wouldn't want same responsibility again.

Both Anupamaa and Anuj are fault. Anupamaa coz she was not really ready to adopt.

Anuj doing all the emo stuff and kind of emotional blackmailing to adopt CA . When he married, he knew she is already a mother and has emotionally , physically, mentally gone thru a lot. She didn't even get to bond with Anuj and here he got in a kid.

Originally posted by: Moongdal

You can't question or force love right. Not everyone loves pet either.

Same way not everyone will want an adopted child after having 3 own child. Motherhood isn't easy, bug responsibility. When my kids are grown up I really wouldn't want same responsibility again.

Both Anupamaa and Anuj are fault. Anupamaa coz she was not really ready to adopt.

Anuj doing all the emo stuff and kind of emotional blackmailing to adopt CA . When he married, he knew she is already a mother and has emotionally , physically, mentally gone thru a lot. She didn't even get to bond with Anuj and here he got in a kid.

ok are you saying that if two ppl divorced marry and one has kids another does not than the one who does not have has no right to be parent or father

thats not possible at all

no wife or husband has right to decide to stop other spouse from adopting atleast

just because anupama has 3 kids does not mean anuj should never become father in life

anuj has equal rights as anupama to be parent

or kavya has equal right to be parent whether vanraj wants it or not

anupama cannot super impose her will on anuj about his desire to be parent

every individual has right to be parent and adopt

anuj has to adjust to anupama ex in law and her 3 kids dramas but anupama cannot adjust to anuj adopted kid wow what a idea sirjeee

anupama wants anuj property money empire all for herself and her ex in laws and 3 kids to be spent

but anuj cannot have right to be father

as per individual rights every human is independent and can decide if they want to be parent

now if a wife and hubby have 3 sons and a hubby wants a daughter but wife objects still hubby can adopt a daughter as he want daughter

only thing anupam acan say you take care of her 100% i will not do any work of hers

she cannot say you cannot adopt to hubby or vice versa too

that is problem of patriarchal old thinking society that so far men or husband decided how many kids are wanted by him for family etc tlil they get a son they would give birth to kids even if wife is tried and unhealthy bearing kids. Here anupama is wearing pants in maan relationship not anuj atleast let anuj have joy of being a father

Every human desires to have kids why some want joy of bringing them up, some want their name to remain after death, some want companionship in old age from kids and some want to have finnacial and physical support by kids in old age and sickness etc

anupama has 3 kids to bother about her in old age and sickness who does anuj have none? If tomorrow anupama dies early first how anuj spend remaining 20-30 years alone? Does he not want companionship and help and support in old age from kids or grandkids? Already he wasted 26 years alone becaue he was madly in love with anupama should he spend till 90 years alone just because anupam ahs 3 kids from vanraj and does not want more?

Should he not desire an heir to take care of his fathers empire in old age and after death? Does he not want a kid of own to take care of kapadiya mansion built by his father. Should he just donate all these to anupamas 3 brats because anupama does not want to be mother again. Like vanraj told anuj has definetly thought all this and gone to adopt not only because he liked CA at first meet. No human will say all these thoughts openly even to spouse or anyone but it plays in back of mind in every person.

In USA or india no one has kids just to pass time or play with them etc there is a reason. Reason is they want help and companionship in old age sickness troubles etc from their kids or grandkids. They want their hard earned money to go to their own kids or grandkids not any thir persons kids (mya be step kids but still they do not love or respect anuj as father or family )

just because anuj has married hes not signed away his independence to anupama. Same for all spouse or individual. Tommorow f baa or hasmukh has issue should anuj give up CA as anupamas parents do notwant CA as grandkid excuse. Even anuj own parents adopted parents cannot tell him not to adopt CA he has rights as indvidual guaranteed by law and God himself

Just because hes married he need not live as per anupama whims and fancy and vice versa for all humans

sorry if my post is too long but i do nlike this this idea of parent, wife or in laws super imposing their views of life on a n human whether man woman or kid

It's confusing to me that people are acting on here like it's rare to love an adopted child as your own. How is it rare? I would say it is isn't rare at all, it's quite common actually.

Most parents would treat their adopted children and biological children the same, and love them all the same as they made the choice in the first place. It's really not that difficult to not differentiate between the two. Of course there's instances where people don't, but there are exceptions to everything. It's really sad if a couple does end up adopting and can't see past the biological vs not biological mentality.

Blood might be thicker than water, but a heart to heart connection doesn't need a blood connection. When you fall in love with someone, it's not because of a blood relation (kinda creepy lol) but because your hearts connected. Same thing with your kids.

There are a ton of people in the world, and all the same a lot of children without parents. I would hope that more people can adopt as those children truly need love, affection and care from parental figures. Of course, if you do choose to adopt, fulfill your duties as a parent diligently and responsibly, not a half-assed job like these two.

Just saying. :)

Right. I am not against adoption. I myself always wanted to adopt. But I know part of me is not ready.

All I am saying they rushed for the adoption. They first had to spend time with each other and then get a kid in the picture.

They both were not ready for this responsibility. Anupamaa got married but still had strong ties with toxic house. She needed therapy, and some boundaries for it.

But before she could do all that, she is ruining motherhood for a small kid.

So all I m saying it was a rushed decision, and needed conversation regarding adoption.

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No way I am saying that. But Anuj was living in fantasy love about Anupamaa. They just got married, they haven't really known each other well ( all they did was cringe song and dance) .

They had to first become husband wife, needed transition and boundaries with Shah house. Anuj and Anupamaa should have bad conversations of becoming parents. He didn't even ask her the idea about being a parent again.

But here they married and at HM decided to adopt. It's not fair on child if your parents are not really in this parenthood journey.

Originally posted by: Moongdal

No way I am saying that. But Anuj was living in fantasy love about Anupamaa. They just got married, they haven't really known each other well ( all they did was cringe song and dance) .

They had to first become husband wife, needed transition and boundaries with Shah house. Anuj and Anupamaa should have bad conversations of becoming parents. He didn't even ask her the idea about being a parent again.

But here they married and at HM decided to adopt. It's not fair on child if your parents are not really in this parenthood journey.

Firstly there is no head or tail to this show. But even if we try to see logically, as much as it is Anuj's fault Anupamaa is not blameless. If she was not ready she should have said no. Even during the second time, she could have said no. But she said yes gladly.

Khair choro after few days both deviji and her puppy will land in SH. 2 hafta ho gaye boundary banaye huye. 🤣

It's great that you mentioned the importance of being the primary caregiver because being a parent, whether biological or adoptive, is a big responsibility and it's important for both partners to have a clear understanding of their roles and responsibilities.

Don't know about others....but I can only speak for myself.....and there is no way that I can love anyone more than or even as much as my two kids.....its just not possible for me.....and that is why i will never adopt a kid because it would be unfair to that kid.......If there is a need I can take care of a kid.....try to give them the best....also love them....but the buck stops there.....I am not capable of loving anyone else the way I love my 2 kids....