[Member Topic] How u deal with bullies, dominating & two-faced people - Page 2

Originally posted by: Swetha-Sai

In educational institutes, within family (extended as well) and among colleagues and even among the friends you will find people who have this disease to dominate and control others to get some kick and feel momentarily been powerful.

@BOLD:

Ignore, don’t interact unless it’s absolutely necessary and don’t invite such people to your celebrations if they’re not a part of your inner family circle. If they’re are part of your inner circle, you need to ignore & don’t interact with them.

Also, don’t react via your expressions and give them the pleasure that they’re superior..

Good advice dear. I tried many times. My issue is that I retrust people again and again, gets my heart clean even after many interactions. Basically, I want a smooth lovely relation with everyone, and want that everyone should get along, no negativity or ill will should be around anyone which is not possible here in this world I guess, ill-will just weights my heart down.

My heart got clean easily and in short baar baar beywakoof bann-na is my biggest weakness.

what to do :(

Every incident is different

Whether id fight or just walk away

I dont know

Like most of the people I've encountered these 3 types of people too both in personal and professional life...

But I can't say I've been always sucessful in tackling bullies and dominating people. Whenever I had the option of avoiding them I always preferred that. When avoiding was not possible and too much was at stake or I could not afford to suffer the consequences of conflict I would tolerate the bullying or dominance... But if something is against my principals or basic morals then i stand up against bullies and dominating people too, even if the price i later have to pay is very high.

So, it all depends upon the situation how i deal with bullies & Dominating people.

With two faced people, if possible, I make them nonexistent for me i.e. i ignore them completely as if they don't even exist. But if I do have to interact with them then i do so only that much what is required and they often sense my aversion towards them. However sometimes I do fake politeness and friendliness (u can say being double faced) with double faced people too. What else to do? If given a choice i would totally avoid all these 3 kind if people but in real world u don't always have that luxury so u have to adapt and do what u have to... To survive.

Big essay I've written 🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

I just drive them out of my life. There were certain people in my life who took advantage of my friendly and supportive behavior since I have been pretty helpful towards everyone. But once I become aware of their true intention and real personality, I become distant from them deliberately.

I used to be straightforward to those toxic ones regarding their behavior once upon a time, but what I have noticed is that their behavior don't change because they always come up with excuses. Being how pretentious and self-absorbed they are, they will always try to take control of you everytime they notice that you have regained control within yourself. That's why now all I do is to run, I take enough necessary measures to become distant with them forever, be it blocking or anything. If it's a family member or relatives, I maintain my distance when they are around. I never open up with them anymore after learning lessons.

So all I would say is that, if you are out of a toxic relationship, friendship, or any sort of bonding, never ever look back at any cost, because that would repeat the same cycle.

By blocking them

Originally posted by: kingkhan22

Good advice dear. I tried many times. My issue is that I retrust people again and again, gets my heart clean even after many interactions. Basically, I want a smooth lovely relation with everyone, and want that everyone should get along, no negativity or ill will should be around anyone which is not possible here in this world I guess, ill-will just weights my heart down.

My heart got clean easily and in short baar baar beywakoof bann-na is my biggest weakness.

what to do :(

I'm sorry to say this, but it is impossible to have smooth relations with everyone. Just not possible. :(

You can't change or stop people from having ill will. So please don't let it weigh your heart down. And what you cant change, you can only accept. We can only change ourselves.

For me, being emotionally detached with such relatives helps. If you dont have to meet them too frequently, just ignore them.

ignore them and walk away. That’s what I’m doing on IF, and same rule applies in real life too

There's this thing I've found to be completely true in the real world 👇

A friend to all is a friend to none.

If you know a person who's friendly with everyone and in good books of everyone (u as well as your enemies / ill-wishers) then be most certain that that person is being fake with everyone. Don't trust that person even if they are very friendly with u or have even helped u many times. Beware of them.

Originally posted by: NatkhatPyare

There's this thing I've found to be completely true in the real world 👇

A friend to all is a friend to none.

If you know a person who's friendly with everyone and in good books of everyone (u as well as your enemies / ill-wishers) then be most certain that that person is being fake with everyone. Don't trust that person even if they are very friendly with u or have even helped u many times. Beware of them.

Originally posted by: Autumn_Rose

this is so true lol. But as an adult I have realised it’s not wise to spoil relationships with people even if you don’t like them.

Yes... At the very least maintain basic courtesy with them even when u r avoiding them or trying to have as minimum conversation as possible with them.