Abhi doesn't understand love

This is just an open topic for the recent akshu abhi fued, and my thoughts on it. You guys are welcome to comment/debate. In the final reveal of why Akshara left for a year, they concluded that argument with Akshu claiming that Abhi doesn't understand love at all. I think this rings truer than anything said in that or any subsequent arguments. They both do love each other, but their definition of love is very different. For akshu from the beginning, loving abhi didnt mean she had to be with him. She did not find their initial separation nearly as difficult as he did. And once again when she had to decide to be away from him, she took it in stride. For her, love means sacrifice. I think the fact that she did it for herself, isn't entirely wrong either. Her acceptance of the stupid one-year condition, was her sacrificing herself for her love. It was a spiritual thing, that she did not want to taint even by just informing abhi where she is. She needs to grow from idolizing love, to actually working for it.

On the other hand, abhi really doesn't understand love. He grew up in a loveless home, and the only person who he loved, his mom, was frequently criticized and sidelined. He fell in love with akshu because she was like his mom, but then he could never really accept her. He wanted to control her and keep her like a happy doll by his side. He cannot even comprehend the mental gymnastics akshu did for that one year ( to be fair neither can we, this is def the writer's fault ).

Finally, I think rather than focusing on trust, which is definitely important, they should focus on accepting each other first. Until abhi can appreciate akshu for what she is, and akshu can appreciate abhi for what he is, and not just a symbol of love, they cannot be together.

I agree both are right in their own pov's but wrong in e/o pov's.

But i think this time it shouldn't be about the other person accepting the other person's definition of love, bcz if they do so than the same thing will repaeat again and again i.e. Akshu will keep on sacrificing and Abhi will be agitated and insecure. Instead this time thsy should come together and work on their flaws.

Since both their childhood AbhiRa have only yearned for love, even separated and angry they still love each other.

Abhi should make realise akshu, love is not always about sacrifice. Akshu is sacrifical bcz since childhood she only got love when she sacrificed her happiness. So she always has put others happiness above else to get love.

On the other hand Abhi has never felt prioritized in his family. His dad didn't have time for him, mother chose his father over him to maintain the harmony in the family. His greatest fear was being abondened by the one he loves. Akshu should make him realise, that priorty sometimes comes with situation. She chose to leave him for his hand, bcz that time his hand was the uttermost need of the hour. It was his passion, his career, his hardwork, his dream to treat people that was at stake, she didn't abandon him, but left hik for himself only.

But in this journey, they should also regard the trauma faced by each other and how they have suffered due to staying away from each other🥺🥺

True Akshu has always sacrificed in the name of love. She stayed away from her family for 3 years cause of Arohi. That is where the first episode of this season began with her coming back. Then again she decided to leave after the whole Tilak 1.0 drama. Then she was fine and trying to act normal post Tilak 2.0. Letting go of her love for Abhi for the sake of Arohi. Even with Manjari's hit and run case, on the mehndi day she was ready to take on the blame for Arohi. Her love has always been like that. She was even willing to let go of her musical career for Abhi.