patralekha vs pakhi is not a big deal. in his mannerism he is shown being soft on her through out. he feels apologetic about remembering Sai. he feels guilty about pp's state. he trusts pp. he thinks of her as friend, family. he thinks of her as ideal bahu, mom and he is being so tender and supportive to her in the latest episode. he barely ever spoke to Sai with such tenderness! he is constantly thanking pp. constantly acknowledging her "contributions". he is constantly apologizing. even his awkwardness at her touch is now gone. in the last 2-3 episodes he voluntarily held her hand as assurance etc. he has already brought her 2 gifts in 24 hours - ice cream, neck pillow.
some people may argue that he is being so courteous because he doesnt feel the ease, haq on her that he did with Sai etc etc but that concept is flawed imo. in the remote past I have also tried to justify/explain his behavior because of Sairat big picture, by thinking ok he loses his cool on Sai more than anyone else because he can "afford" to...he feels like he can be himself without being judged, he doesnt need to have a filter with her etc etc. gussa bhi vahin hota jahan pyaar hota hai. yes, we do take liberties with our loved ones that we cant with others. we can be our worst selves in front of them without fear of being judged but then if thats the case then he needs to balance that with equal and more tenderness and love too- that we never got. we only got overdose of the toxicity. but when there were opportunities to show his love and care for his WIFE Sai, he FAILED. when Sai lost the baby after miscarriage and was declared infertile, he wasnt there for her. even after he got over his own shock his scene with her in the bedroom is so underwhelming. their intimacy, their passion was never given as much tehraav and time as the fights and toxicity. when they showed him believing his wife DIED, we didnt even get 1 episode of him grieving properly. it was all so cursory. even when he told ashwini post leap how he didnt get to say an akhri alvida to Sai, it was so blah. that is such a painful thing but it was brushed away. looking back every sweet moment he shared with Sai was miniscule in comparison to the magnitude of every painful, rude, hurtful thing he said/did to her.
PP has been her worst self in front of V and he still has allowed her to exist in his life. in fact her position has gone from dost/bhai ki biwi to his own biwi and mother of his child now. he has not been harsh or indifferent with her even after she has literally been a criminal and destroyed Sai's life , his life and his marriage with Sai. what is the reason that he has such a lot of softness, tenderness and such a long rope for a person like pp. she is not even a so-called "abla naari" like Shruti was (naxalite turned abla naari)....pp has parents and her maternal family, its not like he can say, without me there is no one else to take pp's responsibility.
this whole dosti or pyaar mein no sorry no thank you is a very problematic concept. we should value the people whom we love and not take them for granted. so his love for Sai cannot be seen only in the form of how much he emotionally abuses her and manipulates her.
i'm not even sure who he really loves anymore. I was always confident that PP was just an infatuation and he only loved Sai but that foundation itself is shaken now. because sadly I no longer feel like he has only platonic feelings towards pp. One can only be so forgiving, so tender and so nice to an evil and morally corrupt person if we harbor feelings for them that we look beyond their flaws.if she was a nobody to him, he'd never be entertaining her so much. and that is deeply upsetting. because for all this time I watched the show with the knowledge that Sairat are soulmates, they love each other, they will always find their way to each other but now I am not sure. And I want to be proven wrong but with each passing episode and spoiler I only get more demoralized and upset to see V.
The way he recalls Sai seems like another mechanism of self pity rather than genuine love and angst, longing for her. Its like he feels guilty that he is over Sai and has moved on so he forces himself to look miserable and says her name a few times so that everyone including himself can be convinced that he is such a sensitive guy. It looks good for his image to show him take a long time to accept another woman wholeheartedly so they force a few mentions of Sai. the way those scenes of remembering Sai are written and performed by the actor- it is insincere and fake.
On the other hand Sai is still deeply invested in the love. She may feel hurt, angry and betrayed but her love shines through in her body language. those transitions in her eyes/expressions from tenderness, longing, happiness to pain, betrayal, angst - it always hits me hard. and that is just heartbreaking that it is all one-sided. she loves him. she will never love anyone else. but she deserves better
Edited by Nja91 - 2 years ago
Bigg Boss 19
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