Why anuj behaves weird?

OK actually i should have asked this few months back

Anuj is educated in USA and worked there too and lived more than 25 years there only. But still i am baffled at his behaviors so far

His constant need to please Shahs bending backwards at cost of his respect is shocking. Usually people who are not so educated or poor like may be an anupama or mamaji may display behaviours like anuj because they have no opton but to please those they are dependent on (i think anupama thats why is subservient by nature to Shahs because they fed her free for 25 years)

But anuj kapadia has no such compulsion. Hes brought up by his parents who are alreay dead and he has job and business and economically welll off. None behave like anuj kapadia being a millionaire and without taking any help of Shahs before why should he act so subservient like anupama to Sahhs and vanraj and Baa is a big mystery.

Even a dog will bite owner 5th time hes kicked without reason and her anuj has been humilated and kicked out of Shah home several times but he constantly runs there to fall at their feet and explain all his actions like adopting anu etc. Hes constantly pressuring Malvika to take vanraj back even after vanraj abused Malvika emotionally. Which normal brother will push his sister towards a old 50 plus man with two wives and keep asking her to give her ex lover job again and again. Will any brohther in USA do this forget india?

So why do you think anuj is the way he is? He behaves like a labourer from hinter lands trying to please his master that is Shahs and anupama than a US returned hghly educated millionaire business man why?

Where did anuj parents or GK or Mukku fail him as family that he does not have self respect etc

I mean anuj parents before they died ensured hes highly educatd and gave him a big business that he can run not depend on anyone for job or no one to boss him yet when it comes to anupama and Shahs he acts so subservient its embrassing a highly educated man behaves so without any reason

Why anuj behaves so subservient to anupama and shahs? Its not love for sure

In reality if someone he should be greatful for whose living its only Mukku and GK. Mukku because her parents adopted him gave him education took him to US gave him big business set up etc today whatever he is because of Mukku parents. So he must be greatful to Mukku but hes not he always abondons her like 10 years to roam world alone in PSTD or with vanraj vulnerable alone. He has no love or gratitude towards the one human whom he must actually be greatful for as her parents made him raja from runk.

But hes busy falling and kissing feet of Sahhs vanraj Baa who have only snatched from him and his sister and humilated him numerous times

Why anuj behaves so any idea?

Because of Anupama. Anuj knows the key to Anu's heart is Shahs. If he can win Shah, then he can win Anupama. His world revolves around AnupaMaa. He has no existence without Anupama. So his behavior is not weird but his love for Anupama is. What made him love Anu so much? He fell in love the moment he saw Anupama dancing in college fest and that love is still alive even without meeting her for 26 years. Is it even possible?

Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD

Because of Anupama. Anuj knows the key to Anu's heart is Shahs. If he can win Shah, then he can win Anupama. His world revolves around AnupaMaa. He has no existence without Anupama. So his behavior is not weird but his love for Anupama is. What made him love Anu so much? He fell in love the moment he saw Anupama dancing in college fest and that love is still alive even without meeting her for 26 years. Is it even possible?

India is a man world and they have upper hand in marraige and decisions patriarchy

First anupama is divorce lady anuj is unmarried she must be insecure and grateful he married her

Bec men even at 45 marry young 25 year olds in USA or india

second now hes married why this insecurity

is he scared anupam a will go back to vanraj or shah home for life

Usually rich and highly educated men like anuj are rarely so insecure they never bend to others easily or take humilation from anyone be it in laws or ex hubby of wife

anuj is allowing GK and mukku to be humilated and taken advantage n anupama love

anuj is taking abuse from toshu and misbeh from pakhi whose like 30 years younger

anuj is allowing little anu to be misbehaved at by Baa and vanraj etc

who does all this? even labourer will not accept so much misbeh

hes acting like shahs is landlord hes bonded labourer

sorry no highly educated will allow so much misbeh as by shahs

forget a us educated human they will never bend as anuj or accept abuse

wHY OH wHY - do you folks -still- try to see any reason in this serial?!

If we were to point out and ponder on what all is illogical, unreasonable, impossible, unrealistic, etc etc. in Anupamaa, the script would exceed the 60 pages BHASHAN Anu was giving the Shah when they pounced on her for her wedding plans 🤪🤣

Just savour the acting of the leads and others.

And support them in their hard work to make any head or tail out of this mish-mash of story-lines.

And just hope and pray the serial will continue to top. For then we can go on looking at ....🤗 ☺️

Originally posted by: myviewprem

OK actually i should have asked this few months back

Anuj is educated in USA and worked there too and lived more than 25 years there only. But still i am baffled at his behaviors so far

His constant need to please Shahs bending backwards at cost of his respect is shocking. Usually people who are not so educated or poor like may be an anupama or mamaji may display behaviours like anuj because they have no opton but to please those they are dependent on (i think anupama thats why is subservient by nature to Shahs because they fed her free for 25 years)

But anuj kapadia has no such compulsion. Hes brought up by his parents who are alreay dead and he has job and business and economically welll off. None behave like anuj kapadia being a millionaire and without taking any help of Shahs before why should he act so subservient like anupama to Sahhs and vanraj and Baa is a big mystery.

Even a dog will bite owner 5th time hes kicked without reason and her anuj has been humilated and kicked out of Shah home several times but he constantly runs there to fall at their feet and explain all his actions like adopting anu etc. Hes constantly pressuring Malvika to take vanraj back even after vanraj abused Malvika emotionally. Which normal brother will push his sister towards a old 50 plus man with two wives and keep asking her to give her ex lover job again and again. Will any brohther in USA do this forget india?

So why do you think anuj is the way he is? He behaves like a labourer from hinter lands trying to please his master that is Shahs and anupama than a US returned hghly educated millionaire business man why?

Where did anuj parents or GK or Mukku fail him as family that he does not have self respect etc

I mean anuj parents before they died ensured hes highly educatd and gave him a big business that he can run not depend on anyone for job or no one to boss him yet when it comes to anupama and Shahs he acts so subservient its embrassing a highly educated man behaves so without any reason

Why anuj behaves so subservient to anupama and shahs? Its not love for sure

In reality if someone he should be greatful for whose living its only Mukku and GK. Mukku because her parents adopted him gave him education took him to US gave him big business set up etc today whatever he is because of Mukku parents. So he must be greatful to Mukku but hes not he always abondons her like 10 years to roam world alone in PSTD or with vanraj vulnerable alone. He has no love or gratitude towards the one human whom he must actually be greatful for as her parents made him raja from runk.

But hes busy falling and kissing feet of Sahhs vanraj Baa who have only snatched from him and his sister and humilated him numerous times

Why anuj behaves so any idea?

Simple answer is EMOTION'S n TRADITIONS n Meeting Basic Human Need- hierarchy of needs (not In a bad manner).

Yes, he is super rich, where is it written that rich or USA individuals can rarely be insecure?? Anuj shared his desire to be loved, liked, to prove himself, n his insecurities to Any after Christmas and also It depends if they show it or not. Anuj's life transition from being Orphan - being adopted and loved unconditionally - not able to speak for his love - sacrificing for love/ tolerating elders drama - if he has been tolerating nonsense he was also capable of saying things when needed to Shahs and was able to stand and fight on multiple occasions. Traditions (some you keep close to heart and some you kick them out). Emotions (awareness of situations and know if you cant control things n know which you can control) Anju is decent in knowing when he needs to interfere n when not to speak up. He is aware of Toxic Family Drama (he said it multiple times) He gave left and right to ppl when needed. Like said Emotions rule and logical mind stops working and When Malavika said don't push me over Vanraj he did respect it.

Lol, he showed his respect for GK and stoodup whenever GK was being insulted. Yes, sometimes his emotions takes over logical mind which is pretty normal (can't speak for others).

I can go on and on but rather not.

Don't worry. We are slowly seeing his aggressive side because now Anu Jr. and her interests are also coming into the picture.

He may not have been able to prevent Anupamaa from self-deprecation as at the end of the day she is an adult. If she wants to stay a doormat, he can't do much to stop her.

Bur his fierce protective nature for Anu Jr. will make him speak more aggressively against the hypocrisies by the Shahs

Anuj behavior is weird

A normal person who have self-respect not go there he humilita once at least u try to avoid them but yahan toh ulta case hai

I m not saying ke dono families ko alag kar deny but join karne ki try bhi na kare pata hai v n baa ki soch then y 😔

Log milna nahi chahte then y push them ke milo soch nahi milti Phir bhi samjho really 😒

Ek mature banda bhi samjh jaata hai ke log unse like karte hain ya nahi i know anu ki majboori hai usse aapne so called makay se buhat buhat piyas😉 mean pyar hai but y anuj

I m mein us jagha nahi nahi jaon gi jahan mujhe humilita kiya jaa sakhta ho aur log mujhe like bhi na karen bhai jese milna hai woh aake mil le welcome them

Originally posted by: name2saakshi

Anuj behavior is weird

A normal person who have self-respect not go there he humilita once at least u try to avoid them but yahan toh ulta case hai

I m not saying ke dono families ko alag kar deny but join karne ki try bhi na kare pata hai v n baa ki soch then y 😔

Log milna nahi chahte then y push them ke milo soch nahi milti Phir bhi samjho really 😒

Ek mature banda bhi samjh jaata hai ke log unse like karte hain ya nahi i know anu ki majboori hai usse aapne so called makay se buhat buhat piyas😉 mean pyar hai but y anuj

I m mein us jagha nahi nahi jaon gi jahan mujhe humilita kiya jaa sakhta ho aur log mujhe like bhi na karen bhai jese milna hai woh aake mil le welcome them

true if someone humilate a person once they never go to their home

here baa vanraj toshu baa kavya etc all have humilated anuj 100s of times

not only him his mummy GK too many times but anuj has kept quiet only spoken once or twice

forget everything vanraj tried to trap Mukku whose just few years elder to toshu in love affair ane betrayed her and split his family

which normal brother goes to such a man house who played ove games with his sister and betrayed her and him too again and again

I am scared for little anu safety from shahs because anuj is spineless in front of shahs even if its his sister or daughter - very scaring situation

just on this one anuj point court can reject them taking a girl child on adoption because you are not capable to safegaurd own sister where you can safegaurd adopted daughter?