Birla family dynamics

Harsh and Manjari - I used to think before that harsh and manjari's marriage is a representation of maximum arrange marriages in India where there is no love but responsibilities but no it's not like that. Harsh is a pure evil person who doesn't respect his wife one bit.

I get harsh didn't like manjari when he married her but did he ever try understanding her? Did he try being nice to his wife like the little things- celebrating anniversaries, her birthday etc. Now i get why abhi is so much against his father. He like any other child wanted mom dad to celebrate anniversary. He wouldn't be as against harsh as he is now if harsh was nice to manjari and they had fights like normal husband wife or even if harsh dominated her, provided harsh showed manjari care and respect. Abhi from the very young age knows his father hates his mom. Like what was so much ego about feeding manjari cake today? For today atleast he could have been nice to manjari likes it's okay let's celebrate. However, his sudden care and redemption wouldn't make any sense to me. After a person has been put through all this, manjari should divorce harsh idealistically. Nothing can justify harsh abusing manjari to this extent. He literally scared her because manjari's bahu wanted to celebrate their anniversary. Manjari is clearly scared of harsh. After being put through such a toxic relationship, i hope harsh manjari dont become lovey dovey suddenly and it would become unrealistic that because of akshara they are coming close . If a man cannot see his wife's efforts all these years which he is time and again reminded of by abhi, i don't know what's going to change suddenly? Manjari has been living day and night for her husband. Harsh has never acknowledged her efforts and given nothing but abuse in return of her unconditional love for him. Manjari deserves to be free from this relationship.

Akshara- Why is this girl feeding a narcissist's ego? Repeatedly calling harsh papa? Does she really think she can make a person like harsh have a change in heart when he was happily getting her arrested on her mehendi day? She knows harsh doesn't like her. Harsh has even publically humilated her for her music and then she took stand for herself that you don't know how to respect women and music . What makes her think he will start giving her a daughter's love? Is akshara so big a idiot that she isn't able to process what kind of person harsh is? It's obvious harsh doesn't like her and manjari and she somewhat knows reasons too- them not being doctor and that harsh is a male chauvinist as akshara herself told him that you don't know how to respect women. I thought after marriage ak will give harsh reality check like today's girl give when they are being unnecessarily insulted but no she's feeding Harsh's ego by apologizing to him and saying you would have been most hurt by all this. I mean wow. Even abhi made clear to her that his dad is very egoistic and disrespects Neil, mom and you. Why doesn't she ever ask him why his hatred for his father is so deep rooted? Is akshara a 16 teenager who thinks throwing larger than life parties is solution to everything? Akshara's role in the serial is only to be a party organizer and her sister's babysitter. She has zero self respect and maturity. Nobody would want to be involved romantically with a girl like that who doesn't have anything of her own, it's all about running after people. She doesn't have any zeal, any aspirations of her own. Her own self, her own happiness. Always her focus is on making others happy. It's not a good thing actually. Why doesn't she focus on herself, her husband and their married life. If she wants to make manjari and abhi's life better, she can easily do that. Abhi is very happy around akshu's company, they are newly married- why can't all her attention be towards him. For manjari maa, the efforts she showed like getting to know her desires and spending time with manjari- those things are enough. For somethings we cannot heal - akshara cannot heal manjari and harsh's relationship, she is clearly a third party. She should leave things in which she doesn't have any control on. If harsh and manjari's marriage is toxic be it, let them deal with it. I can't believe a new bahu will take decisions on her. She should have atleast informed one birla senior but no. She did everything, even invited her own family. In such situations you do consult the elders in a joint family. If she wanted to surprise, it could be with abhi's support and idealistically it would, because she doesn't know what harsh and Manjari like- their preferences so it's normal for bahu to ask the husband what your parents would like if we are surprising them but she did everything on her making a joke out of herself.

Abhimanyu - I totally get Abhimanyu's hurt due to his traumatic past but why isn't he confiding in akshara for his miseries? They've been in relationship for a while now and akshu deserves to know about the family history of the person she has married. Akshara is understanding and abhimanyu knows that. Why can't he trust akshara with his pain. It's understandable that not everybody can open up this easily but then abhi shouldn't blame akshu to this extent to give her silent treatment and show her angst when he knows that Abhimanyu's abnormal family dynamics is to be blamed and not akshara to this extent. He knows throwing party is not a big deal and it's not a villanous deed, yet he is acting as if akshata has done something so bad. I have mentioned how akshara was so immature and stupid in conducting the party without asking anyone but she is not a reason for abhi's trauma as he has never shared the extent of it. If akshara married in any another family and did such a gesture, she would have been appreciated. Akshara too is part of family now and deserves to know of harsh and manjari's history and she is also responsible in not wanting to know more that why he hates her to this extent?

There's no need for silent trips, angst in relationships. Communication, trust, love is enough. If abhi shares his miseries with akshu, I'm sure she will make him feel better.