U guys can Love Me - Page 3

Imlie's strength has already been established when she used presence of mind to save Aryan from 2nd bullet (i know rubber band vs gun was stupid af, but takeaway was presence of mind in critical situation)

And also when she made heaven meet earth to find a donor for him and bring him to hospital against all odds.

Being strong doesn't have to mean that we cannot have insecurities or triggers. She was triggered by someone who's her safe place. Imagine being attacked in your own home?

Imlie is also someone who's been traumatized not just in past year but throughout her 20 years of existence because of her illegitimate status. And that kind of trauma needs long TLC to heal, Aryan giving her courage, confidence and love for say a few months ain't going to cure it. She still doesn't know what it means to be secure.

Imlie's journey along with education and career encompasses her family as well, one is not superior to another. Being all independent working women, we know what it's like to balance work and relationships. So leaving family for career ain't and option equally as leaving career for family isn't.

Aryan is her husband and partner, they are eachother's strength. But if one of them is hurt it's the biggest weakness for other.

Originally posted by: MiuniS

Will reply later as I am busy right now but by going through the comments in first phase I do have one question how do you guys assumed that I am from the privileged background where I had everything to build up my confidence of self love ...

And since I had everything I could not connect with Imlie's character who grew up in a deficit world and looking things from far lenses.

I might be one of the closest who could relate to Imlie with the senses that I was grown up alone when father's family outcastes us as my mom belong to different state. Every second my mom taught To live alone to live for yourself.

She fell in love and came to a different state. What she did have in return was funny... A bundle of cash from my grandmother to leave me and my father. Also my father still blames her day and night for ruining his family as they outcasted us.

So my opinion might not be likable but please don't think everyone is privileged in this world.

Not everyone has healthy atmosphere maybe that's why Imlie's dialogues triggered me more than ever.

Hi, I wasn't particularly referencing to you personally but the entire Imlie-should-have-been-stronger discourse that has been going on in the fandom. I am sorry that your mother and you went through something so terrible but, again, your mother's lived experiences do not equate to yours as they do not Imlie's either— an illegitimate daughter who was forced into a marriage when she was but a high schooler. Privilege is not a binary please. You didn't need to give this justification.

To call her disgusting for talking about empowerment when she doesn't love herself is frankly myopic. Do feminists not have insecurities or have a right to be traumatised when abused? Should she not stand up for others just because she has self-image issues that root from her very particular situations? Just because you or I would deal with things differently doesn't invalidate Imlie's own struggles or make her weak.

My answer is you cannot undo 19 years of trauma and insecurity by self love of 4 months.. it's an ongoing, long, and extremely difficult journey especially if you have lived like how Imlie lived those 19 years.. there are up days when you feel the most confident and then there are down days when you feel like sh!t.. and when on one of your down days, when you are already struggling because you saw your husband getting shot and you are not sure whether he'll survive.. when on that day someone comes and tell you that all those insecurities you have are actually true, and you are to be blamed for everything bad that has happened in your life and you are undeserving of love.. and when that someone is the one who you look upto and who has displayed absolute level of trust on you till now and who has given you unconditional love, says something like that... you are bound to believe that maybe they are saying the truth, maybe the problem is with me, maybe I am the one who is responsible for everything wrong that has happened..

I know this because I have had a breakdown like this.. it has happened when my self healing journey was 1.5 years old and I was 25 years old.. way older than Imlie in comparison..and let me tell you it's a very ugly feeling, it brings all your insecurity to the surface and makes you feel like the culprit and the victim all at the same time.. nothing makes sense and you go on this guilt trip it's extremely hard to come out of..

Imlie has lived all her life in guilt and when each and every single guilty feeling come out at the same time, it's difficult to regulate that feeling and make yourself understand you are not at fault.. every single dialogue that she said today is just her insecurities speaking..

So I would hope that people in this fandom cut her some slack.. she is too young to be dealing with the sh!t she has dealt till now and it is bound to take a toll on her mental health.. I believe this breakdown was bound to happen way or the other.. imo this breakdown is actually necessary to help her start her actual healing journey.. till now she was trying to heal herself by focusing on her career and making herself confident without even working on the actual insecurities she had.. now that everything is out in open the makers can show her dealing with that.. Aryan has been working on it in his own way but it's Imlie who has to actually work for those insecurities to go away..

I have privileged background. Am strong person working for law enforcement only. Everyday dealing with crime forensic . I fell in love went to stay in my husband's house. My mom in law is widow. For six years she use my softness for emotional blackmail. I also give her back loud 80% of times but 20% time I wern weak thinking of her old age n loneliness. But when I was physically weak for first time during delivery n also emotional overwhelming to have child, she did what I never expect from her no matter what she was. I was feeling worthless for 2 months even if my husband was with me. I kept asking why she did this what is less in me what I didn't do for her n all kinds of rubbish thought cos even when I had 5 ppl supporting me she did what was betrayal n I ws shatter eben knowing what she was like always cos I don't expect she will behave that way with her grandchild at least n when I m so weak when I done things for her with my hand even if v had fights. It took me one year after separation from her to recover from tht pain, crying n removing my anger with my husband who jaut quietly allow me to behave the way I want to get over my pain. All this time I was doing my work after maternity leave like normal but inside me there was always trigger with sthng Or the other.. Imlie didn't know that kaki maa who she actually think was more dear than aryan for so long will betray her like this. Even if I, with my privilege background, was in imlie place n hear that words n my husband is fighting for life (some I have heard already in real without husband in hospital), n m scared cos I don't know if I will lose this person who make me strong..if mt I can bet my full property I will still break like this at least for few mins. Yes obv I will not leave my husband cos my rshp is strong n secure but imlie aryan is not rnw... So I don't think it's right to judge the story of someone else cos v will not react like her we think.. Thnk u fir sharing ur story n lot power n courage to u n ur mom n I really hope u can also b inspiration for ppl like imlie but rnw imlie is not perfect. She can fight ppl like BM n Uday n Nanda but not Kaki ma. She can't stand straight if she think she hv to lose aryan n that is a feeling any woman have when they love a man like imlie love aryan. I don't think aryan is in story only cos they r showing imlie weak. No. Life is not like that. Husband wife really fail turn by turn n other holds. There is a reason he is there n she is there. Rest I respect ur view but I m feeling this story v close to real life for a girl who still don't hv 4 ppl for sure to call her own family.

Originally posted by: MiuniS

Will reply later as I am busy right now but by going through the comments in first phase I do have one question how do you guys assumed that I am from the privileged background where I had everything to build up my confidence of self love ...

And since I had everything I could not connect with Imlie's character who grew up in a deficit world and looking things from far lenses.

I might be one of the closest who could relate to Imlie with the senses that I was grown up alone when father's family outcastes us as my mom belong to different state. Every second my mom taught To live alone to live for yourself.

She fell in love and came to a different state. What she did have in return was funny... A bundle of cash from my grandmother to leave me and my father. Also my father still blames her day and night for ruining his family as they outcasted us.

So my opinion might not be likable but please don't think everyone is privileged in this world.

Not everyone has healthy atmosphere maybe that's why Imlie's dialogues triggered me more than ever.

I don’t have intention to hurt your sentiments regarding the situation and sorry if it’s remind you any bad experience but When I say us I don’t mean you and me or anyone else, I was generalising. And in first few line I have said that the person who went through situations like imlie or in any bad situation either they become meek, gullible or strong I don’t give a hoot to anyone type.

I loved every bit of Aryan, Arylie today. But I agree with you on “Hum maile ho gaye hai” dialogue.. felt like getting into the screen and shake her to come back to senses. Hurtful things were said by a women who she regards as a mother. Narmada’s words pierced through her mind and soul. I hope Aru can instill confidence back in her soon. Can we expect Imlie giving it back to Narmada? Yeh jaane ke liye dekhiye Imlie from M-S at 8:30 pm only on Starplus and Disney hotstar.