Originally posted by: bhubhnis
For me.. a prenup is just ensuring to keep financial matters separate in a marriage. Not that ill be ever in a situation to marry someone in such a little time.. not knowing anything bout them .. but if i ever was.. a prenup would make sense to me. Having that in place kind of takes away the basic mistrust that there is greed in marriage. I value my independence and would want my marriage to be never bout financial dependency.
I would honestly rather be single than get married to a family which has the audacity to literally tell me sign the prenup and prove you r not a gold digger, which is exactly what Shubhu and Mama ji worded that day..
They directly meant, middle class women get married to rich men eyeing their money. Why should one even prove their integrity to such people..
And lastly I disagree that prenup will remove any mistrust that there is greed , rather the party who belongs to middle class will always have a blocker in their head . Marriage is not only about financial independence but interdependence as well.
But when you sign a prenup , it would be so difficult to get over that blocker. In cases like RaYa where there is already such a huge class difference Prenup will do more harm than good is what I feel.
This is exactly what happened to Priya. After signing the prenup, Priya understood the mentality of Kapoors, how low they think of her family, which is why she shunned every expensive gift Ram tried giving her out of love even at the cost of being rude to him for the longest time..
When Ram gifted Priya 5% share, her instinctive reaction was "Duniya toh mujhe gold digger hi kahegi na"
The prenup had left a scar on her , even if Ram burnt it..
Priya used to overthink about every gesture of Ram, always conscious that her family will be looked down upon, even if Ram says it is his haq to spend on her .
Priya's reactions of shunning away Ram's expensive gifts, his shares were so understandable.
When a relationship starts with inlaws throwing a prenup with a special mention that we r from upper class family, humare yaha toh aisa hi hota hai, now sign and prove you r not marrying for money, how will Priya be able to accept Ram's haq of financially helping her during crisis.
Not everyone comes from the school of thought were you r comfortable discussing divorce and settlement before marriage therefore some basic decency, maturity is expected. There is a way to put across your apprehensions rather than insulting someone and make them feel class conscious and insult is what the Kapoors did and the worst part is it happened after engagement happened with mutual consent , so none of Priya's reactions and discussions with MM felt OTT, if she felt offended, if she felt her integrity was questioned , it is justified in my eyes.
Edited by vaidharbhi95 - 3 years ago