Meethi & Imlie -- two hearts in two separate worlds - Page 3

Brilliant post dear. Infact I agree with everything mentioned in the first video, as that's what we had followed while bringing up our son. I would just like to add one more thing that parenting should involve both the parents and there should be a balance between them. Means, when one of them is strict, the other should be there to hear out the child and try to make him/her understand why the other parent is behaving so. By having that balance, he/she will never feel distanced from the parents. Secondly, we need to share with them atleast occasionally, the struggles we and our parents went through to reach a stage where we could be able to support their dreams. They might not understand our hardships fully. But, they will atleast be grateful to God for the privileges and opportunities they have now and will have a sense of responsibility not to take everything for granted. One quote I always remind my son is that 'Trusting you is our choice; Proving us right is your choice'. It simultaneously conveys our expectations on them, while letting them know that we are not being forceful.

Now, coming to the karz word used by Meethi and Imlie overreacting to it, I will not blame none of them for it. It's their situations they had been in the past and their individual insecurities forcing to behave like that. I have been through such a situation once, during my son's board exams and I was completely disheartened for 2days, till I could forgive myself. But, my son never took those words badly and instead he was the one hugging & consoling me all the time, until I recovered fully. He infact was telling me that he knew that it was for his betterment that I reacted so hyper. Imlie couldn't be that understanding because of all the dhokas she had been receiving/seeing since last 1-1.5yrs. Let her get time to breathe. I am sure she will realise and regret for all the negligences she showed to Meethi.

Originally posted by: lovereading14

The Imlie - Meethi dynamic is much more complicated than the typical Indian parent dynamic with their child.

Imlie understands Meethi's efforts despite them being downplayed. But what Imlie doesn't understand that Meethi at the end of the day is her mother.

Meethi has always supported Imlie, unconditionally. It was always the two of them against the world. That is why when Meethi takes up the role of a mother Imlie can't take it.

Meethi has never over ruled Imlie before. They have been on the same side. Against nani, against the village, against everyone but never against each other. They have been partners more than mother and daughter that is why when Meethi finally exerts her right of being a mother Imlie can't handle it and 'disowns' Meethi.

Her behaviour was sickening to say the least 🤢

It is understandable why many viewers are so annoyed with Imlie and find her sickening. Meethi has put in so much more as a single mother. You would think Imlie appreciates her more than the Tripathy family. But no.... At the same time, it is lesson for viewers that parents need to be parents and systematically need to be guiding / discipling. All of a sudden putting down the law can make the child react like a brat which is what Imlie is doing. I really want the writers to explore this further (and not make this a one-off scene) and for things to come full circle where Imlie apologizes to Meethi and recognizes her value.

Originally posted by: Exuberant_Soul

The OG post & comments all are so well written. Love all of them.

But this one is what I'd personally love to see on the screen. Meethi coming out strongly in support of the Rathores & giving a mouthful to the Tripathis as well as Imlie. Imlie is getting on my nerves now. I simply cannot take her seriously anymore. Sorry but that's what it is.

I had to look up what OG meant. 🤣 am so not tech savvy! hahahahha

It would be super see Meethi lay it down for the Tripathys - there is a lot of hypocrisy to the family and "when were we ever wrong?" thinking. While Aryan pointing it out is great, it would be still dismissed by Imlie as well as the T family. Whereas when Meethi does it, woah will it sting!!!

Originally posted by: Enlightened21

Brilliant post dear. Infact I agree with everything mentioned in the first video, as that's what we had followed while bringing up our son. I would just like to add one more thing that parenting should involve both the parents and there should be a balance between them. Means, when one of them is strict, the other should be there to hear out the child and try to make him/her understand why the other parent is behaving so. By having that balance, he/she will never feel distanced from the parents. Secondly, we need to share with them atleast occasionally, the struggles we and our parents went through to reach a stage where we could be able to support their dreams. They might not understand our hardships fully. But, they will atleast be grateful to God for the privileges and opportunities they have now and will have a sense of responsibility not to take everything for granted. One quote I always remind my son is that 'Trusting you is our choice; Proving us right is your choice'. It simultaneously conveys our expectations on them, while letting them know that we are not being forceful.

Now, coming to the karz word used by Meethi and Imlie overreacting to it, I will not blame none of them for it. It's their situations they had been in the past and their individual insecurities forcing to behave like that. I have been through such a situation once, during my son's board exams and I was completely disheartened for 2days, till I could forgive myself. But, my son never took those words badly and instead he was the one hugging & consoling me all the time, until I recovered fully. He infact was telling me that he knew that it was for his betterment that I reacted so hyper. Imlie couldn't be that understanding because of all the dhokas she had been receiving/seeing since last 1-1.5yrs. Let her get time to breathe. I am sure she will realise and regret for all the negligences she showed to Meethi.

Great sharing dear. Yes, both parents need to play a part. ❤️

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

I meant to write yesterday but missed it.

Imlie being ungrateful / not appreciating Meethi is reflective of a wider problem in society. I even saw a few articles about it during the lockdown in the Sunday supplement of a national paper. They mentioned this incident where this father had got his 16 year old son some expensive car (think it was BMW?) but it wasn't the car that the son had asked for (some other expensive brand, can't remember as I am not into cars). So the son in anger drove the car into the Yamuna river. It made news and people were chatting about it as they found it so shocking.The family wasn't some generational rich type family. The father through his own hard work had lifted himself up and yet the son had no appreciation of the gift the father had given him. Now this boy isn't unique in the sense -- there was a lot of chatter that these days, children are not appreciative of the parents or they don't have any sense of value of things like hard work etc. Especially as many families are having only one child, they tend to pamper them to a point where the kids are unable to hear the word 'no', issues when the parent disciplines them and have no sense of value of anything.

So I would agree with you that the writers are not intending to write anything deep but this scene is in some sense a reflection of a problem that many parents are grappling with. There is a generational shift in how parents approach parenting -- the previous generation was very heavy down and the children had no voice. Now there is a problem where some parents are saying they have no voice and there is an imbalanced power dynamic in favour of the children. It is why we are seeing this theme appear in many dramas these days (including Anupama where she had a confrontation with her family about how they don't appreciate her at all)