I have written multiple times about Sai and Virat in the past. Virat more because he is a complex character and needs analysis. Sai is very simple to understand but I had to write about her why she is so adorable!
I always loved Sai Joshi for the completeness she brings in as a woman. She is intelligent, practical, sensitive, caring, forgiving, beautiful and aware! Recent holi episode has shown the sensual aspect of her which is very amusing to me but not unexpected. I always imagined Sai to be like this. :) But was not expecting the makers to capture it so beautifully. Even though most of the aspects I discuss below are known to us from the beginning, this new phase in Sai's life motivated me to write this post on her.
Of all the characteristics that define Sai, I like her intelligence the most. She is definitely clever and perceptive than others, even Virat. This obviously comes from her rare and unique upbringing. By her father alone!. He did not remarry pulling her into emotional turmoils that entails a second marriage(in general). This is such an important detail because as she grew, she would have understood how difficult it is for a man to lead a life without a woman or support. She thus forms a very deep bond with her father, almost placing him ahead of any person in her life. This is also the same reason why she has so much expectations on Virat. She placed him already at her father's place hence cannot compromise if he falters.
She is brought up in the most secured environment where her father would have played the roles of a mother, father, teacher and friend. Having to share everything with a person who is 30 years older to her would have made her precocious. I am assuming she might be having very few friends also. Because 1. She finds children of her age too childish/immature. 2. She is challenged mentally more in the presence of her father… say discussions with him or spending time with him would have been interesting to her than with her friends. Not all single children are like this, but observing the bond between KJ and Sai, it looks like they share friendship also which is rare between parent and offspring. 😊
The second trait which is very uncommon in women(not generalizing here) is being surgically precise and practical. She thinks like a police man. Separates things out easily. Attacks any problems in a straight forward way without being too emotional. For example: when dealing with Amay, she used her gender to solve the issue. She did not back off to flirt with him. She was just solving a problem. She didn’t mix any morality here to link her name with another man! Which I think is totally fine if you look at the bigger picture 😂. She has that police mind always in her dealings.
So being intelligent, precocious and practical, she is successful at very young age because it is our emotional involvement while making a decision that makes things complicated. For her, if she knows the root cause of the problem she will come up with a solution easily because she doesn’t mix with the external factors like society and morality. Like a judge in the court she is fair. 👍 Devkit wedding is an example. She is not bound by the judgments of how a woman should behave in the soceity, because KJ raised her like that.
while being practical in handling things, she is sensitive too! Sensitive to others feelings…I mean. Unless you are sensitive you don’t find the urge to go and help people. It is also a very rare trait. She also has heart on the sleeves so doesn’t back off from giving her help whenever needed. This we all know.
And she is aware!! Aware in the sense she is very attentive to her sorroundings, feelings and desires. Because she thinks without any filters, she responds also unabashedly. 😊 Her new found responses to her love and desire are so amusing. 😃 I always saw her as very bold but the way the makers have captured her feelings reinforced my understanding of her character. She knows her sensuality and knows how to use it too. I found her personality very attractive here. For a man with open mind, she is definitely a dream come true . She approaches the act as an art or something that needs attention and care 😂. Look at the way she moves and observes. She is aware how she is responding and how the other person is getting effected. Like all other situations, she will be under total control here too!! This is definitely a surprise from the makers that they showed her so beautifully like this. Kudos Vankar.
So to summarize, basically she is very clear in understanding herself and others and the problems, so she finds solutions also easily. But why she fails with Virat? It is because of the unique dynamics she shares with him, and the inability to decode him. Virat is very complex man for sure. He is completely opposite in his brought up and hence responding to situations. He has dealt with ‘more’ people who are mostly grey(for the lack of better word). He learnt to adjust, hide and ignore his responses based on the situations. Being in an orthodox joint family he is tied by societal norms more. He is still independent in making decisions but his solutions to problems address various other things surrounding it. As a police officer, he is in Sai mode. But as a family person, he can’t separate himself from the system which has become part of his core! His family and their judgements and their opinions. He is tied by them unconsciously when it comes to his personal life. So what he presents to Sai is not only himself but also the part of Virat who is a son, a brother a man with past, and the heir of Chavan family(if you give the family the credit they boast of) .
Hence Sai took time in figuring the actual Virat, solving the puzzle he is. Especially his dynamics with Pakhi who he shared his past with and later with Samrat who is very close to him. She was completely lost and confused when Samrat came back and already complex dynamics of Virat and Pakhi befuddled her more! If It is not virat, who she is tied to emotionally then she would have easily solved that problem too! She would have just divorced and went ahead. But here she is tied to this man emotionally, so strong that she compares him with her father, the only other emotional bond she had till then.
I don’t agree that her attachment to Virat comes from the fact that he is the only true relation she has after marriage. The Sai joshi I explained doesn’t fall for a person easily: clearly she evaluated Virat from the beginning. He was admired by her Dad. That detail is crucial. She sees him as her father sees him. Admiration is definitely the root of Sai's attachment to virat: and then being in close quarters with him, she figured out Virat with respect to the world! She would have grown to like him as a man too! So everything is served to her on platter as far as the life partner is concerned, if not for his past! His past and its effect on him is what posed as a difficult problem to solve. And Virat not being verbally clear due to his own reasons, made the process of figuring him out, a long drawn one! For a person like Sai, she has to be absolute clear to move ahead.
Knowing that Virat will be the same person to her emotionally as her father was to her and the added feelings of attraction towards him makes her more dependent on him! Which is natural. We marry someone or share life with them because they are relevant/necessary for our happiness. She is not doing any charity to him or their marriage. She is just enriching her life trying to be with a person who could provide her with that peace and happiness. Her waiting for him and doing things for him, even taking his barbs are parts of her own growth into completeness. Her acceptance of Virat’s mistakes or misfortunes is part of her own growth in love and life. Tomorrow her leaving him also is a part of her growth I would say. Relationships change with time. The same acceptance and love today might take away the peace and suffocate you later. Quite possible. And therefore at that time, the best thing to do is to live separately. It also needs lot of strength and Sai learns to have it only when faced with challenging situations! She has the required intelligence and awareness to tread difficult situations and come out triumphant.
Sorry to compare a fictional character with Ma Sita. I am only trying to draw the similarities and inspiration. Afterall, most of the stories in India can find roots in the epics. Sita is raised by a loving and intelligent father. So much importance is given to this fact that Sita is more than often referred to as Janaki, Janaka Suta, not even his biological daughter Urmila. I am not saying that the girls raised by men are superior/special, I am just saying that girls raised by only men are slightly different. I could be wrong. However the strength of Sita Ma, is not seen when she accompanies her husband to the forest or lives in fear for one year in Ravan's den nor her later difficulties as a single mother in forests. Her ultimate strength is to give up her Love, the power, and the comfort! When her beloved husband asks her to come back, proving his own loyalty to her, When the people who suspected her are begging with folded hands and asking for forgiveness and when finally her sons will have a safe family and parents together, when everything is going to be perfect, she still chose her self respect and liberated herself from the cycles of pain which are inevitable being a King's wife! It is not easy...and thats where the challenges she faced helped her. To enrich her and make this biggest decision of her life.
NOTE: This is how I see Sai Joshi. Purely my opinion.
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