Hello,
I have seen a lot of posts (across different threads) blaming ak/defending ak, and blaming abhi/defending abhi. So I wanted to put in my two cents as well. And this post covers past couple of episodes and not just today’s.
For a character that is so righteous, determined, in humble profession of helping people, does not value material things, stands up for others to not tolerate abuse, sees his partner truly as equal, is a dedicated son/brother/boyfriend, abhi gets a lot of unnecessary bashing.
For posts saying that he should have been soft to aaru because she is ak’s sister: I disagree. Yes, Abhi should be soft and respectful to ak family not just because it’s her family but also because he knows how much she values them. And he is doing that. He has never disrespected anyone even when Manish went above and beyond to insult him multiple times or when he sent him (abhi) to jail. Even in the face of all those insults and rudeness, abhi (who is hardwired to be extremely short tempered) has shown nothing but understanding and respect towards ak’s family. Now when it comes to ar, it’s a different story. Abhi has seen her manipulate the situation to her benefit (ar-abhi wedding). He has seen her abuse ak emotionally and physically. So it is very natural for him not to believe ar at this point. He is not going to stand aside and watch her manipulate ak again and then backstab later. During the temple confrontation 1, ar kept abusing ak physically and emotionally in front of everyone. He was protecting ak then and now again when ar is trying to jeepardize the wedding and trying to spoil ak happiness, he is protecting ak again more strongly this time and with more haq. Ar has already gotten her seconds chances enough times already to be forgiven this time. (Even if she has not switched cards, she does have intentions of spoiling the wedding). Abhi knows ak is never going to stand up to ar and will keep excusing her behavior. So he is right to stand up for her. Let’s just say, hypothetically that abhi let’s this one pass. Wouldn’t it be repeating the same mistakes that Goenkas have done over the years. Ar needs a strong slap on the hand for her behavior and abhi is giving her that. It would be wrong if he did it out of context or when it didn’t involve him. But here, it’s affecting abhira’s life directly and ak happiness is his business, so he is completely justified in taking a strong approach towards ar.
For posts saying abhi should not have held ak back when she was going behind ar: I disagree again. Ak has rose colored glasses when it comes to family and abhi knows that. She is not capable of seeing bad when it comes to her loved ones. So abhi is justified in taking decision on her behalf for her happiness. Let’s say abhi had not stopped ak, then she would have run behind ar, ar would have shown her tears and ak would have forgiven her. And then ar will be back to her normal self making plans to sabotage the wedding. Ar needs to understand that she will not be receiving support from anyone if she continues to do wrong. She needs to know the consequences of her actions. enough is enough. Abhi is right to say, “jo kisi ne saath sahi nahi karta, uske saath galat hi hota hai”. Ak has always loved and supported ar and has always received nothing but pain from her. There are other family members that can take care of ar and Ak doesn’t need to parent ar always.
For posts saying abhi’s behavior is similar to harsh’s behavior towards Manjari: I disagree. Though on surface it may look like both abhi and harsh are dictating what ak and Manjari should be doing, but we need to take the whole picture in consideration. I agree that both abhi’s and harsh have strong alpha personalities and can be seen as dominating at times but what makes abhi different from harsh is his intentions. Abhi’s heart is always in the right place. His intentions are always to protect ak from pain while harsh’s intentions are to belittle Manjari and use Manjari for his own advantage. Abhi has seen ar abuse ak, he has seen that ak cannot stand up for herself (in temple confrontation 1 when ar was accusing and pushing ak) so he needs to step in always and be that person to make tough calls. Here abhi knows the past and nature of relationship between both sisters and he is involving himself because this is affecting ak, him and their future. So it is his business and right to be taking decisions on behalf of them as couple. And it’s not that he does that just to dominate on ak, he gives equal right to ak as well to get involved in his family matters. Ak doesn’t even know the past between abhi and harsh or the nature of their relationship but yet she jumped in, sort of forced (or forcefully convince) abhi to forgive/ invite his dad and later went and got him to attend the wedding when initially abhi had clearly uninvited him earlier for a reason. I am not saying that what she did was wrong, I am just saying that both abhi and ak are taking liberties and taking decisions on behalf on one another and getting involved in each other’s family matters.
Now coming to ak, I will say the same thing. For a girl that is as pure as an angel, who is so selfless almost to a fault, has so much love, patience and understanding for others, gives strength and stability to her boyfriend, always thinks about other people, always sees good in other people, ak receives whole lot of bashing as well.
Most people have problem with ak that she should not support ar: I sort of agree but ak is not wrong as well. She may have been wrong to be taking abuse from her in the past, for looking the other way when ar made mistakes but not now.. now she has shown tremendous character growth. In the whole card switch scenario, ak was not blindly believing ar and was asking for explanation. When ar sweared on sirat, that’s when she believed her because she knows how much ar values sirat maa. What I liked is that she didn’t go behind ar when abhi stopped her. And I don’t believe that she was unhappy for staying back with abhi or angry with abhi for stopping her. She was sad and conflicted because she knew ar had not switched cards intentionally this time and no one was believing her. After Pooja, she called kairav to ensure ar’s well-being and she went to pacify abhi. This shows her priorities are now equal between abhi and her family and she is trying to balance out relationships between them. She didn’t even question abhi for his behavior towards ar. She was just asking him to give her benefit of doubt. Then when abhi left for hospital in anger, she asked Manjari to take care of him and then went to pacify ar.
Ak went to hospital to avoid another fight between abhi and ar and when she got to know ar is not well, her priority was obviously to ensure her well being.
She did not hide about the accident from abhi because she felt it’s not important to tell him. She hid it so as to avoid another confrontation between abhi-ar and hence to avoid pain to both. Even abhi has hidden things in past from ak for sake of avoiding pain to her.
Now coming to ethics for the hit and run case: ak had just been in accident, she was hurt and confused and shaken. She tried to convince ar but ar didn’t budge. More importantly, they didn’t see anyone/anything hurt or bleeding. It was just her hunch that they hit something big but nothing was seen. So I will give her benefit doubt. It’s not hit and run because according to them nothing has been hit and so it’s ok that there are running. Now if she keeps quiet even after seeing blood on the car, or if she covers up for ar OD and car accident and doesn’t involve family, then that’s wrong. BeCause then it’s not a matter family grievance, it’s a question of ethics and public safety since ar is doctor and literally deals with lives.
Again, the point of this post is to be fair to both characters and cut them some slack. Both are right in their position and both have made and will make mistakes. But as long as those mistakes are not criminally negligent, it’s the intention that matters.
I feel that because we love these characters so much, we want them to be ideal but we need to understand that character growth happens only by making mistakes and correcting them.
We sometimes don’t like abhi’s anger, aggression, possessiveness towards ak but these are the same reasons why we love him so much too. Same way, we don’t like Ak’s family jaap, but we love her because she is so pure and loving towards everyone. Abhi’s aggression is needed so that people don’t take advantage of Ak’s goodness and to teach her to stand for herself. Same way ak’s family jaap is good for abhi otherwise he will miss out on the joy of belonging to a family and will be a loner throughout. So that way, both are imperfect and yet perfect for each other.
So sorry for looonggggg post. Again, I didn’t mean to disrespect anyone’s opinion here but just putting up my view on both these characters.
Edited by Iforum435 - 3 years ago
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