#3 letter to Dr. Abhimanyu Birla on pg 5 - Page 4

I have never said Akshara is right or refrained from calling her out.

But what I don't understand is everyone who claims to love Abhimanyu are unable to justify his actions without dragging Akshara into it and making a comparison. Akshara lied to him. Agreed. But every choice he has taken is his, whether in anger or majboori.

All I wanted to say, is manhandling even the person you love is wrong. Period. Wanting to hurt the person you claim to love is not love. At least from the promo it looked like Akshara genuinely thinks Aarohi and Abhimanyu are perfect for each other which makes her really stupid.

But Abhimanyu who grew up seeing how his father mistreats his mother, going ahead and hurting someone he is in love with because he is also in pain is so scary and extremely toxic.

I am sure we won't be able to convince each other. Anyway, thanks for taking your time and replying. 😊

Also, everyone keeps saying he shows what he is. I am sorry I find him such a hypocrite. He keeps saying his mom taught him Tameez but he hasn't shown Tameez really. Destroying public property and severe anger issues. He says, he speaks what is in his mind. But he is not even putting an effort to give Aarohi what he promised. And I was all okay with his love at first sight for Akshara but now it's more toxicity than love.

Just wanted to put this across. Thanks for indulging me. 😊

Originally posted by: Ekahriz

I have never said Akshara is right or refrained from calling her out.

But what I don't understand is everyone who claims to love Abhimanyu are unable to justify his actions without dragging Akshara into it and making a comparison. Akshara lied to him. Agreed. But every choice he has taken is his, whether in anger or majboori.

All I wanted to say, is manhandling even the person you love is wrong. Period. Wanting to hurt the person you claim to love is not love. At least from the promo it looked like Akshara genuinely thinks Aarohi and Abhimanyu are perfect for each other which makes her really stupid.

But Abhimanyu who grew up seeing how his father mistreats his mother, going ahead and hurting someone he is in love with because he is also in pain is so scary and extremely toxic.

I am sure we won't be able to convince each other. Anyway, thanks for taking your time and replying. 😊

The questions you asked involved Akshara... So she is in the answers. How come we have to answer without her?

Because irrespective of what Akshara does, what Abhimanyu doing is wrong.

If Akshara outrightly rejected him, Abhimanyu shouldn't be harassing her like he is right now.

If Akshara accepted her love but pointed out that they can't be in a relationship, he still can't harass her.

If Akshara accepted her love but did not provide him a reason, he still can't harass her.

If they were in a relationship and Akshara broke up with him without giving a clear cut answer, he still can't harass her.

And saying he is doing it because he is heartbroken and in love is kind of screwed up because, I see wanting to hurt the person one claims to love is not really love, but toxic.

Similarly Akshara is also wrong irrespective of Abhimanyu's decisions. Akshara shouldn't be lying to Abhimanyu for Aarohi for whatever reasons.

I said it isn't valid to justify someone by comparing because it tends to minimize the impact of the subject's actions.

It's kind of a similar turn that results in unproductive debates. It's like, one criticises a govt or an org for certain issues and instead of accountability and and clarifying the position, digressing the issue by saying oh, what about the previous govt or board, they did this and that. It doesn't reduce/minimize the severity of the issues or the actions.

What I can't digest is his attitude that "I am in pain, so I am gonna make you feel the pain too." That is so damaging.

On a severe scale, these are the stalker guys, who goes on to kill their loved one and themselves coz, if I can't have you, nobody can. Or you hurt me, I will hurt you and kind of throw acid at them. There is a movie 'Uyare'. It sensitively portrays this, if you would like.

Hope I got my point across. 😊

To my Abhimanyu Birla...

You are love

Beautiful analysis. And so true. This needed to be said.

Originally posted by: ChhalkiSyaahi

Beautiful analysis. And so true. This needed to be said.

Thank you ❤️ I am glad u liked it

Dr. Abhimanyu Birla, I won't say much to you because I have said so much already and now it feels like I don't have words to say anything because you make me attach to you in a way that I feel every heartbreak of yours

I know you were called many names but one of them was cry baby and that shit hurted me like no other.

Log ajeeb hote hai pata hai? Wo pehle kehte hai ki rona, hasna, gussa karna ya apne emotions Jatana sahi hai aur ek insaan ko karna chahiye par jab hum ye karte hai toh humein ek dibbe mein band kar dete hai. Kabhi rondhu, kabhi toxic, kabhi galat toh kabhi sahi ka naam hamare naam ke aage jod dete hai.

But I want to tell you this, if you want to cry, then cry. If you want to shout at the top of your lungs and talk about your hurt then shout! If you want don't want to talk to a person then don't!

You are not obligated to fit any one category.

Aapko jab jab chot pahuch Rahi hai tab tab cheekhe, jab jab dard ho rha hai toh roye.

Pata hai main bhi bohot roti thi aur sab mujhe rhondu rhondhu keh kar chidhate they. Ab main nahi roti hu toh sab emotionless kehte hai ya dukh, dard ya kasht mein hu kehte hai (it's not necessary. Par log pagal hote hai) aur mummy kehti thi ki jitna tum logo saamne rouge utna tumhare aasuon ki keemat ghat jayegi par kya aasuon ki bhi keemat hoti hai?

Ye toh galat hai na?

Toh aap aur main same same huye... Aapko bhi log tarah tarah ke naam dete rehte they aur mujhe bhi dete hai.

Par jaisa aapne aaj kaha, sharton mein bandhne ki aadat nahi hai aur na hi honi chahiye.

Thank you for telling people ki agar rona aa rha hai toh rone mein koi burayi nahi hai

~someone who understands what is it to be called names

Noor

P.S. I know it's a crappy letter but I just want to say this out here

Originally posted by: ishqdinoorhai9

Dr. Abhimanyu Birla, I won't say much to you because I have said so much already and now it feels like I don't have words to say anything because you make me attach to you in a way that I feel every heartbreak of yours

I know you were called many names but one of them was cry baby and that shit hurted me like no other.

Log ajeeb hote hai pata hai? Wo pehle kehte hai ki rona, hasna, gussa karna ya apne emotions Jatana sahi hai aur ek insaan ko karna chahiye par jab hum ye karte hai toh humein ek dibbe mein band kar dete hai. Kabhi rondhu, kabhi toxic, kabhi galat toh kabhi sahi ka naam hamare naam ke aage jod dete hai.

But I want to tell you this, if you want to cry, then cry. If you want to shout at the top of your lungs and talk about your hurt then shout! If you want don't want to talk to a person then don't!

You are not obligated to fit any one category.

Aapko jab jab chot pahuch Rahi hai tab tab cheekhe, jab jab dard ho rha hai toh roye.

Pata hai main bhi bohot roti thi aur sab mujhe rhondu rhondhu keh kar chidhate they. Ab main nahi roti hu toh sab emotionless kehte hai ya dukh, dard ya kasht mein hu kehte hai (it's not necessary. Par log pagal hote hai) aur mummy kehti thi ki jitna tum logo saamne rouge utna tumhare aasuon ki keemat ghat jayegi par kya aasuon ki bhi keemat hoti hai?

Ye toh galat hai na?

Toh aap aur main same same huye... Aapko bhi log tarah tarah ke naam dete rehte they aur mujhe bhi dete hai.

Par jaisa aapne aaj kaha, sharton mein bandhne ki aadat nahi hai aur na hi honi chahiye.

Thank you for telling people ki agar rona aa rha hai toh rone mein koi burayi nahi hai

~someone who understands what is it to be called names

Noor

P.S. I know it's a crappy letter but I just want to say this out here

Noor, after writing such a heart warming letter, why are you saying it's crappy 😭

So beautifully written about the part on showing one's emotions. As you rightly pointed out, hasna, rona, gussa karna, and apne feelings ko sacche mann se accept karna, is important to stay true to ourselves and others around.

That's what Abhimanyu is doing. He knows what's happening to him and he expresses his emotions accordingly. As you rightly said, he's self aware. That's a quality of a person who's honest. If he feels good or bad, he accepts the feeling and emotion. Then deals with the situation as best as he can understand.

Logon ka kya hai... logon ka kaam hai kehte rehna. Really loved this line: "you are not obligated to fit in any one category" 👍🏼❤️

And as for the name-calling that you've seen in reality, here's a tight hug 🤗😳 I know it can get difficult to get over those harsh words, but sending all the strength and love for you ❤️🤗

Sharton mein kabhi mat bandho, and aasuon ki keemat nahi ho sakti!! These lines really stood out. Amazing analysis 👏👌

Originally posted by: ishqdinoorhai9

Dr. Abhimanyu Birla, I won't say much to you because I have said so much already and now it feels like I don't have words to say anything because you make me attach to you in a way that I feel every heartbreak of yours

I know you were called many names but one of them was cry baby and that shit hurted me like no other.

Log ajeeb hote hai pata hai? Wo pehle kehte hai ki rona, hasna, gussa karna ya apne emotions Jatana sahi hai aur ek insaan ko karna chahiye par jab hum ye karte hai toh humein ek dibbe mein band kar dete hai. Kabhi rondhu, kabhi toxic, kabhi galat toh kabhi sahi ka naam hamare naam ke aage jod dete hai.

But I want to tell you this, if you want to cry, then cry. If you want to shout at the top of your lungs and talk about your hurt then shout! If you want don't want to talk to a person then don't!

You are not obligated to fit any one category.

Aapko jab jab chot pahuch Rahi hai tab tab cheekhe, jab jab dard ho rha hai toh roye.

Pata hai main bhi bohot roti thi aur sab mujhe rhondu rhondhu keh kar chidhate they. Ab main nahi roti hu toh sab emotionless kehte hai ya dukh, dard ya kasht mein hu kehte hai (it's not necessary. Par log pagal hote hai) aur mummy kehti thi ki jitna tum logo saamne rouge utna tumhare aasuon ki keemat ghat jayegi par kya aasuon ki bhi keemat hoti hai?

Ye toh galat hai na?

Toh aap aur main same same huye... Aapko bhi log tarah tarah ke naam dete rehte they aur mujhe bhi dete hai.

Par jaisa aapne aaj kaha, sharton mein bandhne ki aadat nahi hai aur na hi honi chahiye.

Thank you for telling people ki agar rona aa rha hai toh rone mein koi burayi nahi hai

~someone who understands what is it to be called names

Noor

P.S. I know it's a crappy letter but I just want to say this out here

True!!!! 👏

I too agree with you and I have gone through the same feelings and still going through. You are wrong whatever you do. I have faced I don’t know what all comments (even racist remarks not outside but in our own country!!! Sorry for being too personal here) until now. But I made I never cried in front of anyone because they are not worth seeing my tears is what I felt. I used shut myself in a room or sometimes in the bathroom cry it off and come out. We have always been taught to be aware of the society what they think about us or how they treat us. But after a point I realised, no matter whatever you do they are going to be behind you. My dad always taught me just remember, logon ka kaam hi hai doosron ke baare mein bolna. If you are taking them seriously you are never going to move on in life.

I loved this letter❤️. It’s so relatable, baaki sab ka pata nahi par mujhse bahut juda hai.