Whom do you blame for the Abhay-sia mess?

Well, I am posting a topic after a long time. Have been quite busy so a quick hello to all forum members 😊

Now, tell me two people who have been together since 5 years in a relationship arent able to love each other and yet are planning to get engaged and married to one another .

Not only Abhay doesn't love Sia but it's vice- versa too. Sia does not love Abhay.She is either too infatuated by him hence is always fan girling or too immature to understand that claiming rights on one another is not what love is. You have to understand how your partner feels and reacts to each situation and where their priorities lay.

Sia is much like vikrant ....I am not saying she is obsessed like him but both of them prioritise their relationship over their partners dream.

Somewhere I agree with Ansari that Sia might have lived most of her life in a bubble world. She is so oblivious to the condition of people around her like when she fought with dr Ansari about informing police of the fire incident and now her happiness with engagement.

Also I am not liking how her behaviour is being shown after she came to know that her father has lupus. I mean shouldn't she react more emotionally during engagement knowing that her father's health is detoriating and he is suffering from an incurable disease which can take his life yet he sacrificed so much for his daughter.

Coming to Abhay I honestly expected better. Though he has always been shown to be a rather emotional and judgemental fellow, I really thought what Deepika, Piroz and even his aai conveyed him that he should make decision wisely he didn't. He was impulsive and angry and indecisive. Twice he tried but didn't tell Sia. But I somehow sympathised with him today when he told Sia that he cannot tell her father about postponing their engagement since it's his big wish before surgery.

Yet his coward behaviour is getting on my nerves , he couldn't confront Sia about his feelings and said he wants to propose her instead......I mean what the actual f**#

these two really need to sort and discuss about their true feelings asap.

The only sorted ones in this show are Deepika and Dr Ansari who know atleast when not to be a part of other's mess. They focus on what is important to them and clear with conveying what they feel and what not.

Yep, both are to blame in this mess. Ok, so they got together as teens (they flip between 5-7 years for how long they've been togther), and it's excitement of first relationship so it's understandable that they didn't really think too much. But in so many years Abhay never realized that his feelings for Sia are just platonic and cannot sustain a long-term relationship, and Sia never realized that Abhay didn't share her feelings as she was too infatuated with him... You are correct that neither love each other. That is why Abhay is so tormented, he is experiencing love for the first time but he feels like he already "committed" and he can never have Deepika anyway. Abhay cares for Sia, and with her father's health now involved he doesn't want to hurt her. But that is absolutely no reason to string Sia along as he will hurt her more in the long term. And Sia just wants to lock Abhay down by any means and she's either oblivious or deliberately choosing to ignore Abhay's distress. Abhay is going to do with Sia the same thing Vikrant did to Aditi, except he is going to marry out of sadness and duty instead of anger. Result is same, unhappy marriage.

Both are to be blamed as I feel they never discussed seriously about the next step which was longlife commitment. Sia, though, asked Abhay what happened but Abhay remained silent. And after seeing ViPika together and so close, it added fuel to the fire so he did engagement in hurry.

Here both Abhay and Vikrant are similar but they don't realize that 3 women will suffer: Aditi Sia and Deepika😒

Originally posted by: DreamyButterfly

Both are to be blamed as I feel they never discussed seriously about the next step which was longlife commitment. Sia, though, asked Abhay what happened but Abhay remained silent. And after seeing ViPika together and so close, it added fuel to the fire so he did engagement in hurry.

Here both Abhay and Vikrant are similar but they don't realize that 3 women will suffer: Aditi Sia and Deepika😒

Later when he comes to know about Deepika and Vikrant he cannot do anything so might go out and scream loudly. Bewakoofi ki hadd hain . Gadha kahinka.

Both are to be blamed. They are together from past several years but still they don't feel its necessary to talk and seek their partner's consent, both are taking one sided decision and imposing on each other.

Abhay need to control his emotions, he need to sort out his life and set priorities. He wanted to clear things with sia but when he saw vikrant confessing deepika , he out of ego, jealousy and anger went ahead with sia. He lacks decision making capability.

I feel they both don't understand meaning of love and companionship , they don't love each other, they are just comfortable with each other. inhe bas ek dusre k adaat ho gayi hai....no doubt that they care for each other and i don't want them to loose their friendship in this mess.

Both are to be blamed...As Sia's father said, she trusts blindly. Once she assumes she loves a person even if u lied to her she is not going to understand it

Her father has been ill for 20 years and being a doctor she didnt catch the issue is a proof where she is oblivious and in delusion to think everything is perfect around her. She is not able to grasp Abhay's dilemma. i mean in that canteen scene Abhay was continously looking at Deepika and she didnt even turn around to see where Abhay is even looking and went on talking..

Abhay..he is immature and prone to take decisions based on ego and not facts. he should have told sia that he doesnt love her rather than to protect her and hide his lack of feelings proposes her..I feel he doesnt want to break up with Sia as then according to him he might be like his father that he leaves the first woman for another woman. plus she is his very good friend so he doesnt want to hurt her. But in all this he is going to hurt everyone around him.

I think it will be doctor Ansari who will actually show a mirror to Sia. Hope she understands the home truths about situations then

Originally posted by: Dreambig1

Well, I am posting a topic after a long time. Have been quite busy so a quick hello to all forum members 😊

Now, tell me two people who have been together since 5 years in a relationship arent able to love each other and yet are planning to get engaged and married to one another .

Not only Abhay doesn't love Sia but it's vice- versa too. Sia does not love Abhay.She is either too infatuated by him hence is always fan girling or too immature to understand that claiming rights on one another is not what love is. You have to understand how your partner feels and reacts to each situation and where their priorities lay.

Sia is much like vikrant ....I am not saying she is obsessed like him but both of them prioritise their relationship over their partners dream.

Somewhere I agree with Ansari that Sia might have lived most of her life in a bubble world. She is so oblivious to the condition of people around her like when she fought with dr Ansari about informing police of the fire incident and now her happiness with engagement.

Also I am not liking how her behaviour is being shown after she came to know that her father has lupus. I mean shouldn't she react more emotionally during engagement knowing that her father's health is detoriating and he is suffering from an incurable disease which can take his life yet he sacrificed so much for his daughter.

Coming to Abhay I honestly expected better. Though he has always been shown to be a rather emotional and judgemental fellow, I really thought what Deepika, Piroz and even his aai conveyed him that he should make decision wisely he didn't. He was impulsive and angry and indecisive. Twice he tried but didn't tell Sia. But I somehow sympathised with him today when he told Sia that he cannot tell her father about postponing their engagement since it's his big wish before surgery.

Yet his coward behaviour is getting on my nerves , he couldn't confront Sia about his feelings and said he wants to propose her instead......I mean what the actual f**#

these two really need to sort and discuss about their true feelings asap.

The only sorted ones in this show are Deepika and Dr Ansari who know atleast when not to be a part of other's mess. They focus on what is important to them and clear with conveying what they feel and what not.

True this. Deepika till now has kept her emotions out of her profession. now lets see how V guilt trips her and emotionally manipulates her. she is human after all so if she lets emotions interfere (not like falling for V but helping him in his drug issue for the sake of their past)

Dr. Ansari has actually seen the world. though he is junior doctor but he is actually older than the 3, stayed in poverty and slums so understand human nature more accurately than the others.

Abhay Sia thoughts aren't clear they more live in delusions and i truly believe inki dosti >> over love relationship

In case of Sia, she feels something off even when Abhay didnt came to celebrate their anniversary that feeling of losing him is in her mind and her insecurity we can see clearly but still believe its love and everytime Dr. Ansari giving reality check on her relationship she always try to defend nd just to prove what ansari said is wrong she wants abhay to prove it

In case of Abhay, if its not Sia abhay likes Sia but i do feel its like simple friend wala like its Sia who name their relation as love but i never saw much effort from Abhay as such i felt he treat her as friend than being a lover and even now he has feelings for Deepika but more than he love someone else his mind isn't cleared his just confused about his feelings