Originally posted by: AreYaar
@bold: Yes, he is not in the frame of mind to understand right now. Yeh apne time se hi samjhega jab samajhna hoga. Aise hote hain kuch log jinko jitna marzi samjha lo, they will only understand when they want to.....usse pehle nahin budge karega chattaan.
As I was saying some days back, it will likely come down to a moment when he will have to make a clear choice about who to trust - tab ho jaayegi sudden epiphany about what was so obvious all along and jo isko Imlie saamne se directly bolti rahi but he didn't listen/understand.
Some truths are too horrifying to process and it's a self-defense mechanism to try and stick to the portions you feel your mind can handle.....Adi seems to be going that route vis a vis this truth....he can still handle the "nanhi jaan" truth more than the truth of M having drugged, then raped him and the baby being a result of that rape.
As for izzat ki value....lol woh toh convenience ke hisaab se aati jaati rehti hai Aditya babu ke liye....kabhi inke liye naukri sab kuch hoti hai, kabhi inko naukri waapis nahin chahiye and he'd rather sit and be Imlie ka tutor, ab now he's like doesn't matter if people think I have two wives at home - bas aise hi chalaa lenge indefinitely đ¤
But ek theme consistent hai off late....Adi's tendency to want to give up in the face of any setback.....court case karna hi nahin chahta tha, then he didn't even want to make any effort to get his job back....then he didn't even make any effort to get Imlie's college reinstatement done.....bas yeh kidnapping ke liye kar liya effort but other than that his overall attitude is "jo ho gaya so ho gaya, ab kya farak padta hai"đ¤
If this is makers ka attempt at role reversal ki pehle Imlie always wanted to keep pulling her hand back when Adi was fighting for their relationship/wanting to reveal the truth of their marriage and now Adi is pulling back from showing that trust in Imlie or doing anything to really get her her haq, even then it's a poorly done parallel.....Imlie's phase of being hesitant to reveal the truth/supporting Adi in revealing the truth didn't involve such a direct lack of vishwaas.....us phase mein phir bhi vishwaas tha even if she disagreed with his stance of telling the truth to everyone cuz she felt they'll be hurt. Jabki whatever Adi is doing right now is making him look like he doesn't even care anymore if he's lost that vishwaas, bas kisi tarhaan chalaate raho kaise bhi regardlessđ. And the stakes are so much worse now with this rape baby angle....so yeah, if the makers think this is some role reversal, that's not flying either.
Interesting parallel AY. I did not see that at all till you pointed it outđ
But yes in a way tables have turned. Then it was Aditya's turn to fight in a solo battle for their relationship and now its imlie's turn. Imlie is selfless so her reason to step back was "others will get hurt", BBSB is selfish so his reason is "I will get hurt"đ
I think more than lack of vishwaas, this track is to show how BBSB is operating under denial and delusion to avoid dealing with the betrayal and now the unwanted baby. At this point its not that he doesn't know, its more like he doesn't want to acknowledge. He is in his cocoon and is happy to live on there as imlie is with him.
Copy pasting my take from the other thread:
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BBSB does know that Malini attempted to molest him in full consciousness and he does believe that Imlie has been saying the truth all the while. It was not easy for him to accept that and to say let the court decide Malini's fate.
Malini complicated the already complicated situation by playing the baby card. Now BBSB seems to have completely shut off his brain because he cannot handle the truth. That he was molested and that now there is a baby in picture is too much for him to bear. It is easier for him to delude himself that Malini is also a victim. It makes his new reality more palatable. And BBSB as always is taking the easier path.
The reason Anu and M were so easily able to manipulate him was because he was ready to be Manipulated
This was also again a point raised in court scene. Imlie was yelling at him that I literally showed you the video of didi attempting to molest you. What more should i do? How should i prove that didi is the culprit?
Unless BBSB is willing to see the truth, no proof will be useful. Nothing imlie does can open his eyes. You can't wake a person who is pretending to be asleep.
This is basically BBSB attempting to protect himself in a situation he cannot handle. His answer is to run away. To ignore and to pretend everything is all right.
He is happy to let imlie decide Malini and the baby's future because he cant handle it
He is sticking to his truth that he is imlie's husband. He cant accept Malini. Baki sab he will let imlie handle the way she sees fit
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Running away and pretending nothing is wrong seems to be his default response to traumatic incidents. This is inline with his reaction to forced marriage.
Right now i think the one way Aditya will finally confront didi is if she does something that will make imlie say I am packing my potli..byeđ
As long as Imlie is with him, bbsb will continue to feel protected and will not confront his problems or the source of the problems. He will continue to ignore Malini and all her machinations.
I think imlie leaving might trump being assaulted and the baby. And he will be forced to open his eyes. Didi is operating under world of delusion if she thinks Imlie leaving will smoothen things for herđ
Few hours imlie was kidnapped, BBSB thought AC might be responsibleđ Of course he managed to push it under "things not to think more about" once she is back.. because it doesn't matter when imlie is with himđ
PS: I am yet to watch this week's episodes.. this is my take after reading through the postsđ