What does the hand holding mean to Sai? - Page 2

Originally posted by: msin

Yes I agree the cafe incident has effected her deeply … she had kind of assumed that virat will keep his relationship with pakhi in an arm distance ..

But seeing him with pakhi has disturbed her …she is bringing it again and again because virat has not cleared it with her ..

Doesn't virat has already said multiple times he has moved on from pakhi pakhi is his past.even he said that hand holding was between friends.

But here Sai does not want to accept this.in her mind she has created a whole story of virat pakhi.she is not ready to accept anything else.

Originally posted by: ranijain

Actually it all started from Harinee's birthday. She overheard lot of things then, but Virat never came clean except for saying he is not fulfilling any commitment towards Pakhi. So mostly Sai believes everything that Pakhi said to Virat. On top of it came the stupid love story Virat told her during anniversary before Yoga instructor met them. So it just kept building.

Even when she told Samrat that Virat has always maintained his boundary (physically) coz she truly believed it. Then came the cafe meeting, and that made her question everything she knows about Virat. She respected him, but now she probably is conflicted. She could probably also think if its only one off incident that they met outside? Are there things she doesnt know.

But she eventually saw he came clean to Samrat (not knowing that he overheard her conversation with Shivani). So she gets its one off, but cant get over it coz in physical terms she and Virat have not gone beyond holding hands in past one year. However it was so easy for Virat to hold Pakhi's hands. So she probably feels what they had is probably nothing special for Virat.

@bold I agree. Not sure if she is thinking that way but she can be too. That is why I think she keeps asking him again and again.

@green Could be. I am not sure. It could just be that she didn’t expect he would do this or never imagined him doing it. Even in yesterday’s episode, it was like a wife would scold their husband asking if she was crying to you, don’t you have sense to stay in your limits, what was the need to even hold her hands 🤣.

She just assumed the worst. N I don't understand why .

Bec she said today "pakhi didi jaan boojh ke royi taaki aap unka haath pakde." . So doesn't she Know what the real deal is?

Originally posted by: vimeo

But isnt it so stupid? Wasn't it much easier earlier for Virat to carry on an affair with Pakhi when Samrat wasn't around! He had ample chances. But he didn't take any! But now as soon as he has returned will Virat go and risk having an affair with Pakhi and hurt his own brother whom Sai knows that he loves so much! Isn't it illogical! Impractical?!

In fact I have lived in a long distance marriage for nearly 2 years and I had even asked my husband why should I think that he didn't have any fling with anyone in this time? He clearly told me, it easy to have a fling but extremely difficult to face the consequences afterwards! So when u weigh it all, its not worth the effort! Same here with Virat. Its not worth the effort for him to have an affair with Pakhi now! And risk his everything! Shouldn't Sai think once in that direction?!

I think with Samrat in picture she thinks Virat will get insecure..Until now he was not insecure since Pakhi did not have her husband there... Now he will see them together on a daily basis..So he will fight his emotions on a daily basis...

She does not think he will have an affair..she thinks he is still in love with her and is not committed to her..Since she saw them talking at Harini's birthday party she believed they had a love story...a full fledged love story...Two lovers who wanted to marry to have a family...and had to separate because of circumstances, but feelings cannot go away because of circumstances...Also she had asked him if he is not committed to Pakhi because of her, she wanted to know if he still loves her...and he had evaded that questions...There is no clear answer to what they share and then they keep behaving normal around each other.... and targeting her together..

Originally posted by: vimeo

But isnt it so stupid? Wasn't it much easier earlier for Virat to carry on an affair with Pakhi when Samrat wasn't around! He had ample chances. But he didn't take any! But now as soon as he has returned will Virat go and risk having an affair with Pakhi and hurt his own brother whom Sai knows that he loves so much! Isn't it illogical! Impractical?!

In fact I have lived in a long distance marriage for nearly 2 years and I had even asked my husband why should I think that he didn't have any fling with anyone in this time? He clearly told me, it easy to have a fling but extremely difficult to face the consequences afterwards! So when u weigh it all, its not worth the effort! Same here with Virat. Its not worth the effort for him to have an affair with Pakhi now! And risk his everything! Shouldn't Sai think once in that direction?!

I agree with you are saying but I think her inexperience, very little exposure about relationships are all playing a part in it.

When people get some negative thoughts, when they get anxious about something, feel insecured, they won’t be able to looks at things logically. In Sai’s case, things has not been that simple too given the circumstances they got married in, the constant interference of Pakhi in their life and Virat’s habit of siding with Pakhi too.

To answer your question, what I feel is that Sai thinks that Pakhi is worried after Samrat had returned and that she doesn’t want to move on with Samrat. She has always seen Pakhi shower her love for Virat openly then it is obvious or Pakhi crying to Virat like that made sense to her. It is whatever she thought it to be. Pakhi did meet Virat for this reason to say that she can’t move on with Samrat and that he does something about it, to accept her, to end everything for them to start their life. So it is not about Virat having an affair but Virat meeting her and comforting her outside the house since Pakhi couldn’t hold herself back after Samrat returned.

Just that Sai never thought all the while that they could be like this too, where he would even hold her hands. It isn’t really affair that Sai is thinking, she is only disturbed that he had let the feelings buried within him surface this time. She always thought him to have stayed in his limits and that’s why she is bugged that Virat had comforted Pakhi this way when Pakhi cried to him. I have just replied to Ranijain, it is like her asking don’t you have sense, what’s the necessity to comfort her this way.

See my point is if he hasn't taken the chances that he had earlier, why now. He is supposed to love his bro Samrat so much. Why will he risk his relationship with Samrat for a whatever with Pakhi. He has even clarified in front of the family that its past and he has moved on. Sai feels that Virat loves Samrat and she wants him to hv a good relationship with him and she feels she is justified because of that in staying his transfer. She even saw Virat being so happy with Samrat. Now she thinks that Virat will risk showing his feelings and insecurities for Pakhi in front if Samrat. That's illogical! However where is logic at all in ghum! Its ghum!!!

Originally posted by: _charu_

She just assumed the worst. N I don't understand why .

Bec she said today "pakhi didi jaan boojh ke royi taaki aap unka haath pakde." . So doesn't she Know what the real deal is?

It is just that she has never thought about the physical aspects of their relationship. Last she has seen him like this when he applied ice on her hands and she was disturbed by it that day too. The topic got diverted to Aniket and her.

Exactly, so she kind of doubts that Pakhi is doing it all to seek his attention. She feels he has feelings for Pakhi but doesn’t let it surface since he respects their relationship, him married to Sai and Pakhi married to his brother. She has hardly ever seen him crossing his limits with Pakhi, She has confidence in him but the sight in the cafe made her believe that Pakhi would have cried and he just melted.

Originally posted by: vimeo

See my point is if he hasn't taken the chances that he had earlier, why now. He is supposed to love his bro Samrat so much. Why will he risk his relationship with Samrat for a whatever with Pakhi. He has even clarified in front of the family that its past and he has moved on. Sai feels that Virat loves Samrat and she wants him to hv a good relationship with him and she feels she is justified because of that in staying his transfer. She even saw Virat being so happy with Samrat. Now she thinks that Virat will risk showing his feelings and insecurities for Pakhi in front if Samrat. That's illogical! However where is logic at all in ghum! Its ghum!!!

No she does not think so...does not think he will have an affair with Pakhi...she just says, the feelings that were inside him..is coming out on forum..With Sam in picture, he will not be able to keep it in him, like Pakhi was unable to when him and Sai were together....She thinks he is angry because of that...he is not able to keep a check on his emotions... Thats why her dialogue I did not know you are so deep in this...now I realise it..

Originally posted by: laksh

It is just that she has never thought about the physical aspects of their relationship. Last she has seen him like this when he applied ice on her hands and she was disturbed by it that day too. The topic got diverted to Aniket and her.

Exactly, so she kind of doubts that Pakhi is doing it all to seek his attention. She feels he has feelings for Pakhi but doesn’t let it surface since he respects their relationship, him married to Sai and Pakhi married to his brother. She has hardly ever seen him crossing his limits with Pakhi, She has confidence in him but the sight in the cafe made her believe that Pakhi would have cried and he just melted.

So, It's a doubt right ? It's her assumption ? He can't clear her doubt by telling her pakhi wanted to elope with him can he ? 😆 Rest he said everything..that It's over between him and pakhi "long ago". He is preserving .pakhis image. Yes he manipulated the truth but can he really tell the complete truth to everyone? Samrat ko , family ko?

ps. I am not defending virat here ..

Originally posted by: laksh

It is just that she has never thought about the physical aspects of their relationship. Last she has seen him like this when he applied ice on her hands and she was disturbed by it that day too. The topic got diverted to Aniket and her.

Exactly, so she kind of doubts that Pakhi is doing it all to seek his attention. She feels he has feelings for Pakhi but doesn’t let it surface since he respects their relationship, him married to Sai and Pakhi married to his brother. She has hardly ever seen him crossing his limits with Pakhi, She has confidence in him but the sight in the cafe made her believe that Pakhi would have cried and he just melted.

She spelt it out for him word to word yesterday that pakhi did this intentionally so he will hold her hand and that he did. The last sentence she spoke had pain, disbelief that he is capable of doing it and the belief that he still cares for her!! When she spoke with so much agony that he cares for her, it is a clear giveaway that it affects her, she can’t tolerate it and extremely jealous as his wife. It is such a possessive cry that virat should have grabbed the opportunity to talk instead of being so angry. Anger comes when someone thinks only about themselves and the other person contradicts. Empathy comes when they see others perspective and understands the situation. Virat is lacking empathy now. He is self absorbed 😡