Kids of separated parents behave like Toshu only.. especially boys

Toshu is not very emotional stable actually none of the anuraj kids is..but toshu/Pakhi gets panic attacks just like Anu...

He was very disturbed when He got to know of Vanya and he was so vulnerable that he believed Vanraj fake story..

Few weeks backs when he had that big fight after Pakhi performance , he said "u left my mother" for sure he is vain person and embarrassed of Anu..but at the same time he has taken this pain most as Samar always saw Shah neglecting Anu so he anyways was not fond of him..

But Pakhi , Toshu took it too hard..

Vanraj has chosen himself over his family..and got married to love of his life (as per him)...So a grown up kid to see the other parent also to find friend from opposite gender when she has not been like this in 43 years... And see it in other light..see except for Anupama everyone can see Anuj is just different with her ...its not some old classmate meeting...So the kids act up whether age is 10 or 25 especially boys like Toshu who have so many insecurities ..

The title of this post "Kids of separated parents behave like Toshu only.. especially boys" seems stereotyped. Kids of non-divorced parents have also been seen behaving like this. Kids of separated parents have been seen well mannered and mature as well.

Originally posted by: weirdlynormal

Toshu is not very emotional stable actually none of the anuraj kids is..but toshu/Pakhi gets panic attacks just like Anu...

He was very disturbed when He got to know of Vanya and he was so vulnerable that he believed Vanraj fake story..

Few weeks backs when he had that big fight after Pakhi performance , he said "u left my mother" for sure he is vain person and embarrassed of Anu..but at the same time he has taken this pain most as Samar always saw Shah neglecting Anu so he anyways was not fond of him..

But Pakhi , Toshu took it too hard..

Vanraj has chosen himself over his family..and got married to love of his life (as per him)...So a grown up kid to see the other parent also to find friend from opposite gender when she has not been like this in 43 years... And see it in other light..see except for Anupama everyone can see Anuj is just different with her ...its not some old classmate meeting...So the kids act up whether age is 10 or 25 especially boys like Toshu who have so many insecurities ..

Huh. He doesn't care. He didn't even want to live there. He was ready to move to pent house but Kinjal didn't.

What he is doing is plain male ego like his dad.

And even if he has unresolved issues due to separation of his parents this is no way to talk to someone.

He is going to buy ur property for 5 crores, he has all the right to see the property. He wasn't going on a date with Anupamaa simply asked to see the entire property. He is not 5 to throw tantrums like this.

Can't justify his behavior

Originally posted by: Moongdal

Huh. He doesn't care. He didn't even want to live there. He was ready to move to pent house but Kinjal didn't.

What he is doing is plain male ego like his dad.

And even if he has unresolved issues due to separation of his parents this is no way to talk to someone.

He is going to buy ur property for 5 crores, he has all the right to see the property. He wasn't going on a date with Anupamaa simply asked to see the entire property. He is not 5 to throw tantrums like this.

Can't justify his behavior

This is much needed for further story, Now Paritosh has openly said all this and Anuj is no fool he knows why Paritosh is behaving like this like getting hyper. Opening saying don't interfere in our lives its so so open.

I am sorry here i will have to disagree with you.

Kids whose parents have been separated do have unresolved issues a lot of times.

But kids that are actually kids. I can no longer call toshu a kid now. Paritosh is not a child or boy now. He is a man. He is married and will start planning his family soon and if he still cannot move forward the unresolved issues that shouldnt have even affected him in the first place then he has no one but himself to blame.

He was not vulnerable when he found his father cheating on his mother. He wanted to escape the tough reality that his father is not and never was i love with his mother and that there is a possibility of divorce between his parents.

Paritosh needed to have an emotional attachment to BOTH his parents to be mentally unprepared for their divorce. Paritosh jas NEVER been shown as particularly close to anupama. Like father like son. He has spent almost entire life calling anupama names and telling her she is a loser and still getting work out of her as if she was a maid in the house and not his mother.

If paritosh hadnt said anything to kavya or vanraj when he found about then with what right is he telling his mother or anuj to maintain distance or whatever.

Any normal child would have reacted in the way samar did. He would have shouted at his father and started hating him because HE is the reason their family is breaking apart. Paritosh and pakhi simply wanted anupama to forget everything and get back together with vanraj and go back into the same old routine. Being taunted and abused and still working for everyone like a maid.

Soo children of separated parents? Why did they not think of shifting with their mothers when it was obvious that she has just survived cancer and needs all the help she can get?

Why was it easy to be upset that their mother is leaving but not actually do something about it?

Because they never were really bothered about their mother. They were bothered about their maid. A person will always be upset if a good househelp leaves the home. I know my mother still grieves over the fact that we had to shift and in our new home none of the maids work as well as our previous one did and it has been 3 yrs.

Even pakhi had no qualms introducing kavya as her stepmom to her friends. The girl who felt ashamed of introducing her mother was okay with introducing her stepmother.

For paritosh everything is about his twisted sense of entitlement over his mother. He like his father absolutely thinks that his mother is some kind of slave bonded to the family. He cannot fathom the idea of his mother leaving their house and being happily settled elsewhere when he cannot. Because in his eyes she was always inferior than him. I am 100% he would have had no problems with a friend that wasnt rich. A friend that came from a place of financial struggle. Someone he could have looked down upon and felt satisfied that he was better than both the friend and anupama. But here is the problem. He KNOWS he is no match to anuj which is why the intense reactions.

Toshu was fine with anupama and advait's friendship you see? Advait was actually involved in a few family matters too and it was only baa who said ki baharwale kuch na bole iss baare me.

Soo it is just toshu's need to keep reasserting in his mind that the first years of his life werent all a lie. That his mother is not inferior than him. That he cannot even match upto her. Hence the lashing out. I can only feel pity for him and the immense urge to slap the living sh*t out of him.

Separated parents ke bacche waqt se pehle age se zyada mature ho jate hai ! Maine toh aise he mature bacche dekhe hai separated parents ke !

Originally posted by: chenjulia110

I am sorry here i will have to disagree with you.

Kids whose parents have been separated do have unresolved issues a lot of times.

But kids that are actually kids. I can no longer call toshu a kid now. Paritosh is not a child or boy now. He is a man. He is married and will start planning his family soon and if he still cannot move forward the unresolved issues that shouldnt have even affected him in the first place then he has no one but himself to blame.

He was not vulnerable when he found his father cheating on his mother. He wanted to escape the tough reality that his father is not and never was i love with his mother and that there is a possibility of divorce between his parents.

Paritosh needed to have an emotional attachment to BOTH his parents to be mentally unprepared for their divorce. Paritosh jas NEVER been shown as particularly close to anupama. Like father like son. He has spent almost entire life calling anupama names and telling her she is a loser and still getting work out of her as if she was a maid in the house and not his mother.

If paritosh hadnt said anything to kavya or vanraj when he found about then with what right is he telling his mother or anuj to maintain distance or whatever.

Any normal child would have reacted in the way samar did. He would have shouted at his father and started hating him because HE is the reason their family is breaking apart. Paritosh and pakhi simply wanted anupama to forget everything and get back together with vanraj and go back into the same old routine. Being taunted and abused and still working for everyone like a maid.

Soo children of separated parents? Why did they not think of shifting with their mothers when it was obvious that she has just survived cancer and needs all the help she can get?

Why was it easy to be upset that their mother is leaving but not actually do something about it?

Because they never were really bothered about their mother. They were bothered about their maid. A person will always be upset if a good househelp leaves the home. I know my mother still grieves over the fact that we had to shift and in our new home none of the maids work as well as our previous one did and it has been 3 yrs.

Even pakhi had no qualms introducing kavya as her stepmom to her friends. The girl who felt ashamed of introducing her mother was okay with introducing her stepmother.

For paritosh everything is about his twisted sense of entitlement over his mother. He like his father absolutely thinks that his mother is some kind of slave bonded to the family. He cannot fathom the idea of his mother leaving their house and being happily settled elsewhere when he cannot. Because in his eyes she was always inferior than him. I am 100% he would have had no problems with a friend that wasnt rich. A friend that came from a place of financial struggle. Someone he could have looked down upon and felt satisfied that he was better than both the friend and anupama. But here is the problem. He KNOWS he is no match to anuj which is why the intense reactions.

Toshu was fine with anupama and advait's friendship you see? Advait was actually involved in a few family matters too and it was only baa who said ki baharwale kuch na bole iss baare me.

Soo it is just toshu's need to keep reasserting in his mind that the first years of his life werent all a lie. That his mother is not inferior than him. That he cannot even match upto her. Hence the lashing out. I can only feel pity for him and the immense urge to slap the living sh*t out of him.

so beautifully summed up.

Paritosh is improved version of Vanraj. Monkey see Monkey do is apt for him. When V yelled that he never showed disrespect to his parents he was forgetting that despite Baa being a witch Bapuji never chided her in public...he never humiliated her.

The two shaping influences on P2 are the father and grandmother on Samar it his mother and grandfather. They emulate Vanraj as though he is a super human.

Now the toxicity is compounded by the fact that Kinjal's mom is using him as a puppet to manipulate the family.

He is a thorough MCP who is okay with his father's affair but raises questions over his mom's friendship.

It was the selfish Vanya that went to make a sales pitch to Anuj and are hoping to exploit the friendship. They had no quals to talk shop even on the Janmashtami day.

Rakhee Dave is no match for Anuj . As I always say she is the archtypical villain.

4 idiots are there already 2 more have to join in and the circus will evoke angry responses from viewers like us.

The response of Paritosh is not stemming from a dysfunctional family but stems from his own warped sense of right and wrong.

Originally posted by: moonwearer

so beautifully summed up.

Paritosh is improved version of Vanraj. Monkey see Monkey do is apt for him. When V yelled that he never showed disrespect to his parents he was forgetting that despite Baa being a witch Bapuji never chided her in public...he never humiliated her.

The two shaping influences on P2 are the father and grandmother on Samar it his mother and grandfather. They emulate Vanraj as though he is a super human.

Now the toxicity is compounded by the fact that Kinjal's mom is using him as a puppet to manipulate the family.

He is a thorough MCP who is okay with his father's affair but raises questions over his mom's friendship.

It was the selfish Vanya that went to make a sales pitch to Anuj and are hoping to exploit the friendship. They had no quals to talk shop even on the Janmashtami day.

Rakhee Dave is no match for Anuj . As I always say she is the archtypical villain.

4 idiots are there already 2 more have to join in and the circus will evoke angry responses from viewers like us.

The response of Paritosh is not stemming from a dysfunctional family but stems from his own warped sense of right and wrong.

Exactly my point!!!

I would have sympathised with paritosh a lot more if he was a 10yr old and not 25+ yr old man.

A 10 yr old would have without a doubt reacted in this way. Because of his fear of losing his mother now too. With the idea in his head being that he has already lost his father to the other woman and now he cant lose his mother too. A child that young isnt old or mature enough to understand who was at fault and that everyone including his mother needs a companion in their life with whom they can share the joys and sorrows of life.

Paritosh however is MARRIED and should more than samar or pakhi know exactly why it is good for anupama to have a companion in her life.

I have seen lots of adult grown up children taking initiative of getting their single parent married to someone else soo they can be happy and secure in life too.

Paritosh doesnt even look like an improvised version of vanraj to me.

The only difference between vanraj and paritosh is that vanraj felt this entitlement to his wife and paritosh feels it towards his mother.

The misogyny among them both isnt even subtle anymore.

I had earlier hated when rakhi had told paritosh that he married her daughter only because she is the sole heiress of the dave classes. But now it looks true

Paritosh married kinjal not out of love for her individuality but because she is the perfect trophy wife and not to mention super rich and much more than what he could have hoped for.

And now his status as the "best" in the shah family is being challenged by anuj.

And there starts the problems in itself.

Paritosh couldnt say a thing about vanraj and kavya even when they were both the REASON why rakhi had broken the engagement off

Paritosh is the typical misogynistic chauvinist bully just like his father. He keeps trying to dominate the ones that he feels are inferior to her like his mother and the moment she is progressing in her life it is unacceptable to him.

Like they say that people want you to be achievers and succeed but only until your success doesnt overtake theirs.

It is easy for a MCP to dominate whoever they presume to be weak in the equation. While Anupama has let go of her deceitful husband she is blinded by her filial ties to her parents in law and children.

It was easy for kinjal to take a stance of family over husband and mom. In her perception she is right. She is accustomed to decision making and being a single child she also has had her father's support and affluence that is empowering.

In Anupamas case the indoctrination of her mother. The conditioning that made her leave her self respect in her maika made her docile and timid all these years.

The bhaang on Holi which prompted her to speak her heart was her first out burst.

Babayaga again hurt her in the resort calling her an outsider. Now however she finds it difficult to let go of her control over Anupama. When she can dress up goaded by Kavya she is unable to even wholeheartedly appreciate anupama looks good on the reunion night.

Most of the shahs whether through bred or becoming one seek to coax her to do things contrary to her will though reasons may vary.

The day she is able to say No and live by it will be the day she is liberated in the true sense.

Originally posted by: weirdlynormal

Toshu is not very emotional stable actually none of the anuraj kids is..but toshu/Pakhi gets panic attacks just like Anu...

He was very disturbed when He got to know of Vanya and he was so vulnerable that he believed Vanraj fake story..

Few weeks backs when he had that big fight after Pakhi performance , he said "u left my mother" for sure he is vain person and embarrassed of Anu..but at the same time he has taken this pain most as Samar always saw Shah neglecting Anu so he anyways was not fond of him..

But Pakhi , Toshu took it too hard..

Vanraj has chosen himself over his family..and got married to love of his life (as per him)...So a grown up kid to see the other parent also to find friend from opposite gender when she has not been like this in 43 years... And see it in other light..see except for Anupama everyone can see Anuj is just different with her ...its not some old classmate meeting...So the kids act up whether age is 10 or 25 especially boys like Toshu who have so many insecurities ..

I agree with on on some points but I would like to differ about his intentions. Toshu is nothing but a man child who wants everything as per his own convenience and if he doesn't get it he throws a fit.

He may have taken it really hard about the divorce of his parents but here the way he reacted I am sure he was more hurt because how dare his mother chose to be happy, how dare she tried to be something more than his mother, how dare she behaved like a normal woman and not mahaanta ki murat. At that moment he was provoked by rakhi dave's taunts. He felt it is his insult that his mother is befriending some man. He had nothing to do with heartbreak he faced because of his parents failed marriage.

He was pure selfish at that moment.