Originally posted by: fria319
Bc as much as we love Pallavi & appreciate & can understand her, she's still an ITV female lead. ITV female leads rarely apologize. This is faulty and now ITV trope-y writing. Remember when she missed awards night etc etc., and she couldn't actually say "I'm sorry" it was more like a "maybe I paid attention to them more than you" (i'm paraphrasing here).
The people who already dislike her, and the people who watch more for Raghav than anything else, those kind of dialogues will never be good enough and that's exactly why she gets bashed. We, here in Pallavi's AT, can defend her all we want & can theorize & create headcanons for everything she does, but we can't sit and ignore the "pass" she gets by the writers for not owning up to her share of the mistakes/wrong decisions she's made, the way adults often do.
However, I'm going to place this blame solely on the writers. They not only never give Pallavi enough self-reflection scenes, they also don't have her owning up to the mistakes she's made. The two combined are why audience members often disconnect with her. [ Tho I was also told that she used to get bashed for her monologue scenes so maybe there's just no winning with her bashers...smh.. that was before I joined the forum]. In general i can understand some of the disconnect at times, I've been in the same boat in the past. It's the bashing I can't tolerate.
I will say, on the opposite side, that Raghav doesn't often or ever need a sorry from Pallavi. Her mistakes are often because of the circumstances she's placed in, not out of deceit or malice. Raghav often times makes the mistake on purpose - often times out of deceit, and before they fell in love, for malice - thus his need to apologize is more apparent.