OK, personal storytime. Maybe this makes sense to you.
One of my friends from school time had started to date when she joined degree college. Her boyfriend was one of the nicest people I know. He was older than her, and one of the most mature people I knew. She would often tell me that they were blessed, everything was going fine, main bolti thi kaala teeka laga le š
For like 6 months everything was fine, they were even prompt enough to tell their families so aana jaana laga rehta tha. All in all, no trouble.
Now here's what happened. My friend and I reconnected after a couple of months, around the time they had been together for 11 months. She called and told me her ex had been trying to get in touch, dropping msgs and calling, even trying to befriend her on Social Media. That guy was a toxic POS, but her family did not know that. I told her block kar, ghar pe bata, aur apne bf ko bhi bata de that he's after you.
She refused to tell at home or to her boyfriend, fearing he would leave her. I told her he would not do that, coz he's not that type of guy. And I said ye bhaari padhega, tu handle nahi kar payegi, mat chuppa. She still did not listen to me.
A week later, she messages me at night that they are at a party and her boyfriend's ex is also there, being overly friendly. I told her to stop huffing and go stick to him. He was her man after all. The boyfriend's ex was his cousin's childhood friend, so they had grown up together.
About some ten days later, the boyfriend calls me (I was like a sister to him) and asked to meet. He thought my friend was cheating on him (not like physically, but he thought they are talking chup chup ke) because he figured out the ex is trying to get in touch. And voh alag level ka pagal ex, baat karne ke liye meri dost ke ghar aa gaya tha.
I told the boyfriend ki aisa kuch nahi hai, that guy is troubling her. So he said why did she not tell me? We have never hidden anything from each other, esp about exes, what's the reason to not tell me? I said please calm down and talk it out. He was obviously disturbed but decided to take my advice. I told my friend that please come clean.
Then my friend calls me crying. Turns out that misunderstanding turned into a full-fledged fight. And even his ex was brought up. Because they were planning some trip, my friend was also invited but that ex gf would be there.
Now it looked like they would be breaking up, because her boyfriend said ki "you have been hiding things from me, I am not choosing to hang out with her, in fact I am asking you to join us. If you would refuse, I would not go either." Both basically lost their minds, even the guy contacted me.
So finally I called them over at my house to help them talk it out and mediate. Turns out the ex gf had other intensions which the guy did not realise. Thankfully he listened to me. And I reprimanded my friend for her secrecy too. Finally she said everything, and kept on crying coz she was traumatised. The guy, realising how stupid this all had become, just hugged her and apologized constantly. He just told her one thing "I trust you but you have to show some trust in me too. Talk to me about everything".
My friend came clean to her family too. Her mother called me to confirm and I did. They cut ties with that POS ex.
I am cutting out on a lot of details coz u don't wanna hear everything but in the end, they made up, after nearly breaking up. And now they are engaged, living together abroad and most likely gonna tie the knot by the end of this year.
So like I said, MUs can be a b**ch š