Pandya Store|Episode Discussion #81|Kuch Toh Tha Tere Mere Darmiyaan - Page 7

Originally posted by: ItsmePriya

Asifiii❤️

Yes I will be fine soon🤗

Monthly cycles ka effect😒

Originally posted by: Transference

Would you please wait for my opposite list too. I will write all the bakwaas Shiva has done till date

Im giving you a head start on the list lol

Originally posted by: Transference

Would you please wait for my opposite list too. I will write all the bakwaas Shiva has done till date

can you please make a separate topic out of these? 🤡

I need it for keeping track of all the shit they throw at each other 🤣

both metaphorically & really 🤦‍♀️

I think it's a misunderstanding and epic heights.

Raavi is confused about her own feelings . After all what her friends say are how she used to think of shiva before, and now she has all these confusing thoughts.

Like she thought during her rain walk , he brings out the most in her : the best and her absolute worst,with an intensity she's not used to. The ups and downs this kind of intensity brings is not fun, trust me

Plus , with all her own confusion, and shivas own blow hot /blow cold reactions I can see why she'd be hesitant to introduce him. She can't predict how he'd react. It's a difficult position to be.

And I think in her own way Raavi is anxious and insecure too , with all the ways she's changing and her feelings, plus a vague insecurity that she's now want shiva wants either .

Shiva is projecting his own insecurities onto Raavi, and is letting it confuse his own alfresco confused brain. He's I'd say mixing others perspectives of them, and missing out on how raavi has been treating him .

Also yes shiva has been unexpectedly sweet to her and an absolute sweetheart at various moments. But ,if a husband of mine was that violent in public , proceeded to shove me and refused to listen ,insulted my choice (even as I maybe having feelings for him) in 100% do what raavi did. He did behave like a barbarian there

Originally posted by: sunsaathiyaa

can you please make a separate topic out of these? 🤡

I need it for keeping track of all the shit they throw at each other 🤣

both metaphorically & really 🤦‍♀️

I second this 🙋‍♀️

Also, please do so when you feel better, Take care ❤🤗🤗

Originally posted by: Madheart

I second this 🙋‍♀️

Also, please do so when you feel better, Take care ❤🤗🤗

Not able to tag 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Originally posted by: Emotionsinink

Hello. It's been a while 😂.

I'm honestly slightly disappointed but also in a huh this was interestingly done phase ,which is a weird thing to say.

I'm disappointed because I wanted Shiva and Raavi to be better , to get over their issues and move on. But I'm also curious , because it's oddly sorta realistic ? Forced marriages are unlikely to ever be as smooth as they show on Ekta kapoor shows. So all these bumps and fights are truer to life than most shows I've watched.

Not at all sure how I feel about having shiva display all the toxic masculine:how dare she have male friends she can talk and laugh with, that are not me attitude . There are tweens thinking this family friendly -sexy times + child safe version of kabir Singh shiva is sexy and a hero.

Ugh. No he's not.

That said , while I like the show overall, right now shiva, hell shivi fell like they're the definition of a toxic relationship. The break will be good for them

Raavi is still caught up in seeing shiva as a consolation prize she's settled for and has to adjust with, and not as just her husband and partner. But of the two, I think she's in a better headspace than shiva is.

I agree with every single thing you said👍🏼

Both need to communicate big time. It is completely fine to start in rocky waves since they both have been forced in this marriage

Sorry but this is my personal opinion His first impulse when he saw her hugging her male friends, the first thing in his mind was to protect her thinking they were eve teasing her. The character took a down turn in the last episode when he said to go back at the friends who she speaks in english with and hugs. Which I believe might have been his insecurity or Spur of the moment anger. Dont know! I really dont think he has the toxic masculinity of How dare you talk to other boys. He just felt low because they judged him. Just personal opinion I might be wrong🤪

About that What irks me most about her is that she wants the marriage to work but always looks down upon him. I dont think she wants the marriage to work because she feels one day Shiva could be the best husband she could ask for. I think she wants the marriage to work because that what society expects. I always question if she really accepts him as her equal half?

Originally posted by: mpks1

Avi, I think he said he doesn’t care what she does with her friends but definitely is affected when she doesn’t defend him or introduce him. He is of the opinion that she agrees with her friends.

Hmm... I see your point! I think perhaps I've always thought about it differently. If we put aside how she doesn't defend him (which is 1000% wrong in my opinion, no question about it) and just focus on introductions, here's a little defense for Raavi (because I see this behavior happening around me).

I've always thought formal introductions of partners should happen when the person is comfortable. My roommate didn't formally introduce me to her boyfriend until 3-4 visits, and she mentioned it was because she was frequently judged for having an Indian boyfriend (she is American by the way). So, she didn't want to introduce him formally because she feared I would judge her relationship immediately. After seeing glimpses of him 3-4 times, she hoped I wouldn't judge her, him, or their relationship. Her boyfriend has gotten very used to this and doesn't mind because he is in a comfortable state in his relationship and he knows my opinion would never change my roommate's outlook of their relationship.

On the opposite side, my college friend met someone online and chatted with him for 7-8 months before making things official. All throughout, me and another friend cautioned her about trusting internet strangers; however, we supported her when it seemed like this internet boy made her happy. After they made their relationship official, it took approximately 1 month for her to formally introduce us to him and him to us. It was a strange conversation to say in the least because he probably knew more about us than we did about him... However, my friend and I knew, at this point, that despite all we could say in terms of potential red flags (i.e., distance, her family not being entirely okay with the relationship, never meeting in person at all) in their relationship, we knew that she wouldn't change her mind in the slightest. And I always thought that was because she accepted him in every way possible, including his flaws.

Regardless, I don't blame him for being affected by her friends' words... they truly are damaging. However, considering the introductions I've had in the past, maybe Raavi thought an introduction at the moment wasn't the best, so she avoided having one. I can't say she is right or wrong in this matter because in one scene it seemed like she was getting ready to introduce Shiva to her friends, though in more of a party style, and in another scene (after he thrashed her friends) she was far from appreciative of who he was. I personally think if he accepted her, he wouldn't have gotten to the point of thrashing her friends, he would've simply gone up to her and repeated what those boys said, and he would've trusted that she would believe him over them.

However, this is a show, and both of them need time to grow and mature. So, I hope we get a scene in the future where something similar happens and everything plays out differently. Instead of getting blind with anger, Shiva just confronts Raavi and tells her the truth of what is being spoken... I think at that point, I would accept that Shiva has fully trusted and accepted Raavi... sorry for the semi-long post!

Originally posted by: Mayame27

I agree with every single thing you said👍🏼

Both need to communicate big time. It is completely fine to start in rocky waves since they both have been forced in this marriage

Sorry but this is my personal opinion His first impulse when he saw her hugging her male friends, the first thing in his mind was to protect her thinking they were eve teasing her. The character took a down turn in the last episode when he said to go back at the friends who she speaks in english with and hugs. Which I believe might have been his insecurity or Spur of the moment anger. Dont know! I really dont think he has the toxic masculinity of How dare you talk to other boys. He just felt low because they judged him. Just personal opinion I might be wrong🤪

About that What irks me most about her is that she wants the marriage to work but always looks down upon him. I dont think she wants the marriage to work because she feels one day Shiva could be the best husband she could ask for. I think she wants the marriage to work because that what society expects. I always question if she really accepts him as her equal half?

May I give you a virtual 🤗

You've just nailed it!

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