What should Sona do?

I think she has done wrong to leave the home. What should she do now is that go that house and gave a good repky to Ishwari. She should tell her everything how every time dev and sona had to separate because if her. They had left on the roads, have to live away many years because if her pathetic behavior. She is a manipulative mother and the worst mother. Now she is trying to take kids away. If dev cones in support of his, give him a big slap. May be that will get his brain back.

Then finally threaten to divorce dev and take kids away. This is easy, sona is financially independent, kids need their mother, in court she can easily explain what all ishwari have done. She can get custody of kids that way.

Tell dev to leave his mom and come live in a separate house if he does not want to live away. If he does not that means he is spineless husband and father who is chosing wrong and his pathetic mother over them.

Dev and Sona they both still love each other, they want to be with each other !

Every issues in a marriage “ divorce or walking out is not an option”

In Devakshi’s case they have 3 children together

They need both parents and possible grand parents too.

Once married and have children couple’s priorities for a while will change , Ayush is there now what Ishuwary is doing out of excitement she wants her grandson to be Dixit as fast as possible .

Sona could have asked her few questions and hugged and given assurances , love to Ayush than going and sitting with her father.

Ayush wouldn’t blame Dev or Sona for what happened

Ishuwarry is a part of Dev , that Sona knows

This “ divorce , walking out or blaming each other “ is not the way .

Devakshi must communicate or take a holiday together , talk or type messages revive their “ LOVE”

They both love each other , forgive short comings , communicate more .

Divorce should be the last resort when every thing else fails since it involves children

Dev can’t send his Maa out of the house or he won’t be happy without Maa & Sona

Sona still loves Dev and wants to he with him , communicate more , arguments are also fine

Sort out the issues not humans from life , life is unpredictable ... live peacefully in love ..parting ways should be last option when nothing else works out .

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This is my only opinion & views .

Originally posted by: Rosh4rose

Dev and Sona they both still love each other, they want to be with each other !

Every issues in a marriage “ divorce or walking out is not an option”

In Devakshi’s case they have 3 children together

They need both parents and possible grand parents too.

Once married and have children couple’s priorities for a while will change , Ayush is there now what Ishuwary is doing out of excitement she wants her grandson to be Dixit as fast as possible .

Sona could have asked her few questions and hugged and given assurances , love to Ayush than going and sitting with her father.

Ayush wouldn’t blame Dev or Sona for what happened

Ishuwarry is a part of Dev , that Sona knows

This “ divorce , walking out or blaming each other “ is not the way .

Devakshi must communicate or take a holiday together , talk or type messages revive their “ LOVE”

They both love each other , forgive short comings , communicate more .

Divorce should be the last resort when every thing else fails since it involves children

Dev can’t send his Maa out of the house or he won’t be happy without Maa & Sona

Sona still loves Dev and wants to he with him , communicate more , arguments are also fine

Sort out the issues not humans from life , life is unpredictable ... live peacefully in love ..parting ways should be last option when nothing else works out .

😅😅😅

This is my only opinion & views .

I respect ur views. I also believe that divorce should be the end option. But there is no denying that ishwari is a complete manipulative, dev is spineless when it comes to standing against ishwari disgusting pathetic behavior. She is his mom but he cannot turn blind eye to her wrong doings. Ishwari is not a mother to Ayush to change his name against parents permission. Sona is living in a toxic family where everything happens with ishwari will. If not then will resort to being bechari, sacrificial manipulation.

I am not saying to divorce but just threaten to see what happen abd take a strong stand.

it is just me but i would never ever stay with her kind of mother-in law. I would stay separate where she is no longer welcome. Husband can go visit her if he wants. Or relationship does not work at all. Because if a girl is leaving her family to be with someone. It is his responsibility that he made her his priority as well and not let his family belittle or snatch her rights.

Divorce isn't as easy as it seems. Firstly it's emotionally traumatic for kids no matter what the situation is. Then the parents will move on, it gets harder for kids. The situation isn't that easy to just walk away when kids are involved. Divorce and break up left, right and centre when there are no kids involved. It's especially important to see kids benefits above your own.

Secondly custody battle isn't that easy. It would be easy for shubh because he's under 5, custody will most likely go to mom, but with Ayush and Suhana it won't be easy, they will be asked and probably Dev and Sonakshi will get 50/50 custody. And this time around when kids will visit Dev at his house during his custody time, Sonakshi won't be there to monitor what Ishwari or Dev are telling them. It's very easy to write about divorce and custody it's extremely difficult in real life scenarios.

Also Sonakshi chose this living situation, if after returning back she would have stated that she want to live in a different house and only then she'll get back with him, then it would have made sense, now it's too complicated. What she needs is strong boundaries with Ishwari in that very house, and send Dev to therapy and get some couples counselling. She needs to be stern regarding her kids.

Also according to Welfare act of parents and senior citizens, 2007. 15% of Dev's income will go towards maintenance of his mother. He'll have to run two households, granted the other household can be taken care by Sona, still he will pull his weight and spend money there too, and since he's a businessman he has to maintain a certain standard of living too. A lot of things go into major legal decisions like this.

I definitely wanted her to stay back and give Ishwari a dose of her own medicine. Like what I wrote in the previous post, She should start calling Dev SHONA🤣

Well every one has the right to call their loved ones the name they want...dont they ??

Also she should continue calling her son Ayush. For MILS like Ishwari shouting /crying etc wont matter. You need to become them to give a dose of their own.😉

Never spoil your happiness or peace of mind for people like Ishwari. Its not worth. Educated young women should use their logic and intelligence , in a diplomatic manner to set things right in the family.

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

I definitely wanted her to stay back and give Ishwari a dose of her own medicine. Like what I wrote in the previous post, She should start calling Dev SHONA🤣

Well every one has the right to call their loved ones the name they want...dont they ??

Also she should continue calling her son Ayush. For MILS like Ishwari shouting /crying etc wont matter. You need to become them to give a dose of their own.😉

Never spoil your happiness or peace of mind for people like Ishwari. Its not worth. Educated young women should use their logic and intelligence , in a diplomatic manner to set things right in the family.

As much as i found sona calling dev Sona in front of Ishu maata hilarious😂😂. I don’t think dev is doing anything to get called bu such names.

One thing i realize is that ishworry devi changing name ceremony does not make any difference. Because it is only done ritually not legally. So why the hell dev tells him on the papers it would be ved Ayushmann but we will call him Ayush only. Why would he go and make legal papers in ved name??

Originally posted by: 07RB

I respect ur views. I also believe that divorce should be the end option. But there is no denying that ishwari is a complete manipulative, dev is spineless when it comes to standing against ishwari disgusting pathetic behavior. She is his mom but he cannot turn blind eye to her wrong doings. Ishwari is not a mother to Ayush to change his name against parents permission. Sona is living in a toxic family where everything happens with ishwari will. If not then will resort to being bechari, sacrificial manipulation.

I am not saying to divorce but just threaten to see what happen abd take a strong stand.

it is just me but i would never ever stay with her kind of mother-in law. I would stay separate where she is no longer welcome. Husband can go visit her if he wants. Or relationship does not work at all. Because if a girl is leaving her family to be with someone. It is his responsibility that he made her his priority as well and not let his family belittle or snatch her rights.

Threatening with any thing let it nr divorce or separation is not really right !

Sona should have gone to Ayush direct poor boy was crying should have given him comfort !

Since Sona went her father , Ishuwary had a “ golden opportunity” to manipulate the boy , so did she !

She should have questioned MIL without bothering Dev !

What the most he will do ? Fights that is better than keeping quiet .

Rest of the issues they are facing must discuss

have “communication “

Communication gap kills the couple relationships

The best thing for married couple is that move out and live their own but India situation diff not every couple move out .

Actually moving out and living alone is not really a solution either. Just log on to reddit and see how relationship subs, in laws sub and you'll realise toxicity doesn't go away by moving to a different place, it's usually a western (US) problems sub they already live in different houses still they have the very same issues. If toxicity is present, moving won't help, It's stays the same the person is still in your life. India has a population of 1.38 billion even half of the population decides to move out, where will they go, housing market, job market cannot sustain this amount. There's no place. The best thing is boundaries, being upfront. Secondly in india you have to maintain your parents too legally, everyone is not in any shape or form to give away 15% of their income to a household they don't even live in. Rather than this I advocate that everyone has their own living space in a joint house. Your own space like a entire mini apartment kind of thing. It will help in long run.

Originally posted by: 07RB

I think she has done wrong to leave the home. What should she do now is that go that house and gave a good repky to Ishwari. She should tell her everything how every time dev and sona had to separate because if her. They had left on the roads, have to live away many years because if her pathetic behavior. She is a manipulative mother and the worst mother. Now she is trying to take kids away. If dev cones in support of his, give him a big slap. May be that will get his brain back.

Then finally threaten to divorce dev and take kids away. This is easy, sona is financially independent, kids need their mother, in court she can easily explain what all ishwari have done. She can get custody of kids that way.

Tell dev to leave his mom and come live in a separate house if he does not want to live away. If he does not that means he is spineless husband and father who is chosing wrong and his pathetic mother over them.

The one thing she should have done is confront Ishwari. Why did she go straight to her father's house to cool off?? This way she is telling Ishwari that do what you want. I will just go to my father's house. She should have back and confronted her and told her that this is all not allowed. You cannot make decision about my child's life without asking me. That means my child are not safe in my own house in my absence so I am leaving with my kids. Then packed the kids and gone to her father's house for some days giving an ultimatum that unless you convince me that this will not be repeated again I am not coming back.

Because after this the kids and all the party involved need some time to cool down. Divorce and moving away is not an option unless and until the situation is very bad. There are 3 kids involved. Ayush has been through so much in the last few days this will just damage him more. I mean suhana will blame him and custody will bring out the truth which will not good for suhana as well. Ishwari needed to be a given a warning but with no reaction she is back to being the same with ved that she was with dev.

Originally posted by: WeRockTheWorld

I definitely wanted her to stay back and give Ishwari a dose of her own medicine. Like what I wrote in the previous post, She should start calling Dev SHONA🤣

Well every one has the right to call their loved ones the name they want...dont they ??

Also she should continue calling her son Ayush. For MILS like Ishwari shouting /crying etc wont matter. You need to become them to give a dose of their own.😉

Never spoil your happiness or peace of mind for people like Ishwari. Its not worth. Educated young women should use their logic and intelligence , in a diplomatic manner to set things right in the family.

Yes definitely. But she shd not allow dev change ayush name in school. She can give joot moot ka damki in privately, that she will leave him if things don't go according to her. And then dev is good at lying. He can tell his mother, admission already done n name cannot b changed there n she can call him whatever she wants at home. But sona can continue calling him in his real name.

But I want sona to show some angry at esh too. She cannot show she is fine with things. Thoda tho hungama chahiya. I don't know how she will show her angry. May b by thod pod or silent treatment or taunting her. But I want some reaction from sona so that children aware sona is not happy with esh. So that children hv some trust in mother that she will protect them. If they let go things likes this, don't you think children will hv insecurity.