Originally posted by: deeps07
Loved the clarity with which u write this..absolutely agree with u...
Yes..compromise is definitely a part of any relationship..especially when it comes to marriage..but it can only be fulfilling if there is love at the base.d..I feel love is always over rated ..as if the only thing that leads to a perfect life ..and perfect story. .but yes..love does have a very important irreplaceable position in life...I think I have written previously abt this which I always believed in...love is like the body of a vehicle..while compromising and caring are the wheels which drive it forward..
But the problem here is in daily soaps..compromises are shown as something forced or something which is done only when love is not there in that relationship...in real life,I believe there wouldn't be much compromise without love...and if someone is compromising without love, i call that relationship abusive/forced...as bad as being kept captive..because of no support from society or family there are people who go thru all the abuses..all in the name of marriage and compromise..but where is love there..it can only be termed as abusive marriage where the victim or the abusive doesn't choose a way out because of social restrictions.. ...
What u said abt Shiva pushing her around which could have in an alternate scenario physically injured her would have been the nail in the coffin for a women like me...in our country it is pathetic to think how normal it is considered with these sorts of slight physical abuse..pushing nudging..pinching..and there r also many who think slap is normal in a marriage..I remember when I watched the movie thappad, me and my husband had a slight argument regarding it..he was like that man was unreasonable and hence the divorce..I was like even if he was reasonable which led him to give her slap, divorce was the right thing she did..he has no right to hurt her physically no matter how wrong she is..we got further into argument where he started giving hypothetical scenarios...and I couldn't help and just told him the truth. .that if for once he touches me with the intention of hurting me..I would call police..no matter how much I love u..hurt me..I will call police...he was shocked and dnt knw..he stopped arguing there. .and after sometime he calmed down and then found the whole argument funny..🤪..Well I am including this personal story..because I know from.my friends that how many of them considers this sort of mini abuses as normal..itbis shocking.. disgusting ..and bollywood and telewood support this mentality by naming them passionate...they got it all wrong.. 😳