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I am late today and my opinion maybe a bit unpopular( no chappals please). Apologies if I hurt you unintentionally 😒

I liked the episode and I liked Raavi's lines. Why is adjustment seen in such a negative light? I don't know about marriage from personal experience but every relation needs certain adjustment. Like Sara had commented few threads before, people don't come custom made. I have seen my parents marriage- happy, satisfying and full of love but they have adjusted and changed for each other too. Raavi is willing to become the wife Shiva wants. I think that one line gave us much insight into what Raavi thinks of too.

Raavi is not in love but her feelings have started budding- hence her getting affected by his actions. But Raavi also feels that Shiva doesn't love her or want her either. I have myself commented Dobi other many times but it isn't easy to hold on after all she went through. Honestly she is trying desperately to maintain status quo- because that is the only way this marriage can sustain. Forget hope she doesn't even dream Shiva falling for her. For her the question of her feelings doesn't arise because she cannot bear to accept her feelings to be ruthlessly forsaken again. We as an audience have seen Shiva fall for her but what exactly has he done to make her feel so- initial days of marriage he didn't care either; didn't even think she deserves to know that her husband didn't leave her with the goons and that she was not forsaken again after being forsaken by her groom on her wedding. He has said that she doesn't matter. He traded her off for kangans( granted with a lot of emotional value still kangans). He told her he is not affected by her coming or going. He falls in love, loses himself in her beauty but then the diary happens and he pushes her away. Again. I don't think she has much to go by to come to the conclusion that he likes her.

If I had written Raavi, I would have shown a deep seated fear of falling in love again. She will be afraid to hope, to love and to dream the beautiful relation she wanted previously. But Shiva was her only anchor- only thread joining childhood to entire life. She will help Shiva overcome his insecurities showing him he is the best for her and Shiva would be the one to help her overcome her fear of loving again.

I am not bashing Shiva guys. I love the character. I can connect to his insecurity too( went through a similar phase myself about looks height weight and trust me I know how insecurity feels). His pain and despair is not only for himself but also for Raavi- the woman he loves he cannot make her the happiest. His expressions his pain break my heart too.

And contrary to many here, I don't want a third angle( male or female ) or even the divorce. I may even accept a divorce scenario but not a third angle at this point. Raavi doesn't need to feel jealous at this point. She needs comfort and security too. And yes they can both separate. Suman can even find a new and more perfect bride for her son. It will be Raavi who will face the brunt of society- Raavi the girl rejected by two brothers in a span of some months; Raavi who already has an unmarried sister; who knows that she would be an added burden on her Maasapa. Would that jealousy be proof of her love to Shiva or would it feel like another act to safeguard her marriage for the sake of society?

Just an opinion guys. Sorry for the essay.

Originally posted by: Scarysea

I am late today and my opinion maybe a bit unpopular( no chappals please). Apologies if I hurt you unintentionally 😒

I liked the episode and I liked Raavi's lines. Why is adjustment seen in such a negative light? I don't know about marriage from personal experience but every relation needs certain adjustment. Like Sara had commented few threads before, people don't come custom made. I have seen my parents marriage- happy, satisfying and full of love but they have adjusted and changed for each other too. Raavi is willing to become the wife Shiva wants. I think that one line gave us much insight into what Raavi thinks of too.

Raavi is not in love but her feelings have started budding- hence her getting affected by his actions. But Raavi also feels that Shiva doesn't love her or want her either. I have myself commented Dobi other many times but it isn't easy to hold on after all she went through. Honestly she is trying desperately to maintain status quo- because that is the only way this marriage can sustain. Forget hope she doesn't even dream Shiva falling for her. For her the question of her feelings doesn't arise because she cannot bear to accept her feelings to be ruthlessly forsaken again. We as an audience have seen Shiva fall for her but what exactly has he done to make her feel so- initial days of marriage he didn't care either; didn't even think she deserves to know that her husband didn't leave her with the goons and that she was not forsaken again after being forsaken by her groom on her wedding. He has said that she doesn't matter. He traded her off for kangans( granted with a lot of emotional value still kangans). He told her he is not affected by her coming or going. He falls in love, loses himself in her beauty but then the diary happens and he pushes her away. Again. I don't think she has much to go by to come to the conclusion that he likes her.

If I had written Raavi, I would have shown a deep seated fear of falling in love again. She will be afraid to hope, to love and to dream the beautiful relation she wanted previously. But Shiva was her only anchor- only thread joining childhood to entire life. She will help Shiva overcome his insecurities showing him he is the best for her and Shiva would be the one to help her overcome her fear of loving again.

I am not bashing Shiva guys. I love the character. I can connect to his insecurity too( went through a similar phase myself about looks height weight and trust me I know how insecurity feels). His pain and despair is not only for himself but also for Raavi- the woman he loves he cannot make her the happiest. His expressions his pain break my heart too.

And contrary to many here, I don't want a third angle( male or female ) or even the divorce. I may even accept a divorce scenario but not a third angle at this point. Raavi doesn't need to feel jealous at this point. She needs comfort and security too. And yes they can both separate. Suman can even find a new and more perfect bride for her son. It will be Raavi who will face the brunt of society- Raavi the girl rejected by two brothers in a span of some months; Raavi who already has an unmarried sister; who knows that she would be an added burden on her Maasapa. Would that jealousy be proof of her love to Shiva or would it feel like another act to safeguard her marriage for the sake of society?

Just an opinion guys. Sorry for the essay.

no throwing chappals at her, okay?

🍩 worry, sara's gonna protect you bub 🥺

you've explained your point beautifully :))

@bold- aw, you remembered? 🥺❤️

I didn't really think anyone payed attention to my ✨2 cents✨

Originally posted by: sunsaathiyaa

no throwing chappals at her, okay?

🍩 worry, sara's gonna protect you bub 🥺

you've explained your point beautifully :))

@bold- aw, you remembered? 🥺❤️

I didn't really think anyone payed attention to my ✨2 cents✨

Awww I pay attention to all the 2cents Sara. It feels good to know so many point of views of the same scene. And your points are usually so on point dear that one can't help remember them

Originally posted by: Pixiepadhi

Omggg , you too? 🤣🤣🤣

Srk Kajol are something else mann❤️

The chemistry they had can never ever be recreated by any onscreen couple everrr.😍

Kajol in red saree, wet dance.sighhh!

Even I wanted them to be together in an AU Universe😍

Now when you have said that I realise I have always been a shipper 🤣🤣🤣

Mai to vivah dekhne ke baad shahid Amrita bhi shaadi karde chahti thi 🤣🤣

Hahaha same me a shamrita fan too ❤️ but now I like Amrita and her husband

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Originally posted by: Pixiepadhi

We are Pseudo intellectual aunties for twitter.

And IF wali didis for insta .

Kuch khass achhaa impression nahi hai humara🤣🤣🤣🤣

Ab ye naya aaya 😂😂😂

Humara maan na itna important hai 😎😂

Presenting Ma and Me after a long time:

My Ma arrived today at my place with her full swagger and is staying with me for a few months , which means we cumulatively dissect episodes in real time

Originally posted by: Scarysea

I am late today and my opinion maybe a bit unpopular( no chappals please). Apologies if I hurt you unintentionally 😒

I liked the episode and I liked Raavi's lines. Why is adjustment seen in such a negative light? I don't know about marriage from personal experience but every relation needs certain adjustment. Like Sara had commented few threads before, people don't come custom made. I have seen my parents marriage- happy, satisfying and full of love but they have adjusted and changed for each other too. Raavi is willing to become the wife Shiva wants. I think that one line gave us much insight into what Raavi thinks of too.

Raavi is not in love but her feelings have started budding- hence her getting affected by his actions. But Raavi also feels that Shiva doesn't love her or want her either. I have myself commented Dobi other many times but it isn't easy to hold on after all she went through. Honestly she is trying desperately to maintain status quo- because that is the only way this marriage can sustain. Forget hope she doesn't even dream Shiva falling for her. For her the question of her feelings doesn't arise because she cannot bear to accept her feelings to be ruthlessly forsaken again. We as an audience have seen Shiva fall for her but what exactly has he done to make her feel so- initial days of marriage he didn't care either; didn't even think she deserves to know that her husband didn't leave her with the goons and that she was not forsaken again after being forsaken by her groom on her wedding. He has said that she doesn't matter. He traded her off for kangans( granted with a lot of emotional value still kangans). He told her he is not affected by her coming or going. He falls in love, loses himself in her beauty but then the diary happens and he pushes her away. Again. I don't think she has much to go by to come to the conclusion that he likes her.

If I had written Raavi, I would have shown a deep seated fear of falling in love again. She will be afraid to hope, to love and to dream the beautiful relation she wanted previously. But Shiva was her only anchor- only thread joining childhood to entire life. She will help Shiva overcome his insecurities showing him he is the best for her and Shiva would be the one to help her overcome her fear of loving again.

I am not bashing Shiva guys. I love the character. I can connect to his insecurity too( went through a similar phase myself about looks height weight and trust me I know how insecurity feels). His pain and despair is not only for himself but also for Raavi- the woman he loves he cannot make her the happiest. His expressions his pain break my heart too.

And contrary to many here, I don't want a third angle( male or female ) or even the divorce. I may even accept a divorce scenario but not a third angle at this point. Raavi doesn't need to feel jealous at this point. She needs comfort and security too. And yes they can both separate. Suman can even find a new and more perfect bride for her son. It will be Raavi who will face the brunt of society- Raavi the girl rejected by two brothers in a span of some months; Raavi who already has an unmarried sister; who knows that she would be an added burden on her Maasapa. Would that jealousy be proof of her love to Shiva or would it feel like another act to safeguard her marriage for the sake of society?

Just an opinion guys. Sorry for the essay.

Chilki, lovely post!❤️

I too don’t want a 3rd angle or fir that matter even divorce, if worst comes worst I only want separation. If this was real life I would have supported divorce, since it’s fiction and the writers are showing illogical stuff, so all this relationship needs is a separation if that’s what needed for Raavi to realize that he loves her. I do not even want either of them to get injured or hurt but want definitely want them to talk, scream, fight until they hear each other out. I also agree with adjustments and compromise, without these 2 marriages cannot be successful and this us coming from my first hand experience. Raavi is not in love now but soon she will be.

Originally posted by: Transference

Presenting Ma and Me after a long time:

My Ma arrived today at my place with her full swagger and is staying with me for a few months , which means we cumulatively dissect episodes in real time

Hope there would be atleast bearable episodes. Would love to hear her views.

I have read u have told us what she thinks about the episode, she has been amazing.

Originally posted by: Scarysea

Awww I pay attention to all the 2cents Sara. It feels good to know so many point of views of the same scene. And your points are usually so on point dear that one can't help remember them

thank you so much bub 🥺❤️

you just made my day :))

my points are ✨on point✨

that's one of the best things anyone's ever said to me 🤪

*ships her guy to you so that he can learn ✨how to compliment✨*