Shivangi Khedkar {Pallavi} AT #28 | Love Endures - Page 48

Haila! 1:15 AM. Kal raat milte hai.. hopefully i will at least land in AT 29 😊

Originally posted by: SONIA441

Arre yaar, I can't find the bookmarked post of the names of all the awesome Korean Series, you had given on the other thread... could you please give me some names firse😳😳

LOL no problem - this may be easier to bookmark - here's the link to my drama list lol, just sort it by top rated, that's what I would recommend and then you can pick what appeals to you the most based off the show summaries.

https://mydramalist.com/dramalist/8350929

Top recs are always:

• Weightlifting Fairy Kim Bok Joo (for light-hearted college romcom)
• Circle (sci-fi)
• Goblin (for cinematography + bromance)
• Signal (thriller)
• Mad Dog (heist/ensemble cast)
• Its Ok to Not Be Ok (for the acting)
• Fight My Way (adult friends to Lovers Rom-Com)
• Welcome to Waikiki (slapstick comedy - if you like the office, you'll like this)
• Kingdom Season 1 (zombies)

Originally posted by: tiara_remixfan

i liked her crepe/ satin (pre-wedding) look much better than the Kanjeeverams/ silk sarees (new/old mansion look). I like her red net saree though, she looks hawt!

@bold: extremely hot special during the staircase scene 🥵🥵

Originally posted by: Inese_20

According to me, what makes it easier to understand Raghav in the current scenario is the fact that the emotion he’s undergoing is a very usual one. We all have known this insecurity and fear too well at some point in our lives. But honestly how many of us have even witnessed a situation that Pallavi is in. A widow living with her in laws. The in-laws with whom she shares a cordial relationship and treat them as her own parents. Let’s not forget that she is an orphan by birth. That is bound to have an impact here. They are now her ex in-laws to us, but to her VD remains a father figure only. I had a tiff with my parents years ago, and it went so bad in my head that I didn’t speak to them for months. At that time I was sure I was never going to. But today I am as attached to them as I ever was. What made me snap out of my ignorance was seeing my father hurting due to my behaviour. I put all my complaints to rest then and there. I couldn’t see him like that. You don’t forget, maybe you don’t even forgive but you melt down. You can’t be bitter or harsh for too long, especially to your family, that too in the situations which are already too hard on them. Because at the end of the day you are a human with varying range of emotions. That is exactly what’s happening here!

Another thing is, we equate Pallavi with ourselves. I would have done this or that in her situation. But she is not us. Sabka apna apna tareeka, timimg hota hai deal krne ka.

Example- if a friend comes and tells me that I hurt them with my words, but according to me my words were well known facts which shouldn’t have hurt anybody under normal circumstances : what should be my counter response?

1) itna toh kuch hua bhi nhi. You are overreacting.

2) or I should stop and think maybe this person is very sensitive. Or maybe she is going through certain difficult circumstances that a trivial things feels like a huge deal to her. Or maybe it has something to do with her past experiences that my words were hurtful uske liye.

I prefer going (2) way. If someone comes and tells me they are hurt- so they are hurt. Period.

I don’t get to decide if they should or should not feel hurt. What’s not hurtful for me might be extremely painful for them. And vice versa.

So I see pallavi in this light only. If she’s telling me that she still feels attached and responsible towards her in-laws toh baat whin khatam. IMO, I don’t get to decide how she should or should not feel. There must be so many factors which have lead to this.

You explained everything Beautifully Parul🤗

My complaints are to cvs not for Pallavi.

Cvs failed to establish backstory for Pallavi and her love for Deshmukhs in general like they did with Raghav.

Cvs didn't show any flashbacks to support her love and care for Deshmukhs. Cvs failed to gain sympathy for her by not showing her hardships.

Originally posted by: Inese_20

According to me, what makes it easier to understand Raghav more in the current scenario is the fact that the emotion he’s undergoing is a very usual one. We all have known this insecurity and fear too well at some point in our lives. But honestly how many of us have even witnessed a situation that Pallavi is in. A widow living with her in laws. The in-laws with whom she shares a cordial relationship with and treat them as her own parents. Let’s not forget that she is an orphan by birth. That is bound to have an impact here. They are now her ex in-laws to us, but to her VD remains a father figure only. I had a tiff with my parents years ago, and it went so bad in my head that I didn’t speak to them for months. At that time I was sure I was never going to. But today I am as attached to them as I ever was. What made me snap out of my ignorance was seeing my father hurting due to my behaviour. I put all my complaints to rest then and there. I couldn’t see him like that. You don’t forget, maybe you don’t even forgive but you melt down. You can’t be bitter or harsh for too long, especially to your family, that too in the situations which are already too hard on them. Because at the end of the day you are a human with varying range of emotions. That is exactly what’s happening here!

Another thing is, we equate Pallavi with ourselves. I would have done this or that in her situation. But she is not us. Sabka apna apna tareeka, timimg hota hai deal krne ka.

Example- if a friend comes and tells me that I hurt them with my words, but according to me my words were well known facts which shouldn’t have hurt anybody under normal circumstances : what should be my counter response?

1) itna toh kuch hua bhi nhi. You are overreacting.

2) or I should stop and think maybe this person is very sensitive. Or maybe she is going through certain difficult circumstances that a trivial things feels like a huge deal to her. Or maybe it has something to do with her past experiences that my words were hurtful uske liye.

I prefer going (2) way. If someone comes and tells me they are hurt- so they are hurt. Period.

I don’t get to decide if they should or should not feel hurt. What’s not hurtful for me might be extremely painful for them. And vice versa.

So I see pallavi in this light only. If she’s telling me that she still feels attached and responsible towards her in-laws toh baat whin khatam. IMO, I don’t get to decide how she should or should not feel. There must be so many factors which have lead to this.

Bold: you are absolutely right!

I think that the majority of the people who are equating Pallavi with themselves do not realise that the situation is very unique and I don't think the majority are 1) orphaned

2) widowed on the wedding night

3) have their dead ex husband come back, have memory loss and on top of that remember only them from their past life

So I really do not think that passing the verdict that Pallavi is too dumb to still be caring for her ex in laws is valid because probably this said majority would've done the same out of good will because if we think of it, other than the throwing her out of the house incident, Pallavi has had mainly good memories from that house, and she is treating those who have wronged her (minus baba) the way they should be treated once she realised that they are wrong.

As you said there must be so many factors leading to her behaviour which we don't really know.

Also, idk if it's just me but I noticed that Raghav is more of a fan favourite (at least initially he was) than Pallavi is, so when they see him in pain and they see that it is related to Pallavi they simply put all the blame on her like she's the reason for his pain. Sure, there might be some instances that it is the case but other than that Pallavi has only brought light in his life.. she's the reason he got his mother back, got rid of his decade old guilt and actually brought meaning to his life. Remember pre marriage when Farhad used to say that Raghav doesn't laugh much but post marriage he has been truly enjoying his life and Pallavi is the reason and all this happened before their confession.

Originally posted by: unicornwriter

Initial wedding days sarees specially the orange one. I am done commenting on them.

At times i am fine with the net sarees but recently they've been alot. I want her to actually have a variety with nice soothing colors.

Yes that is true... they could alternate between different materials and colours. Maybe something more elegant like her saree today.

How are you feeling about the current track ? Even though I love Pallavi, I am finding it a bit difficult to digest the logistics lately. Her helping Mandar and this separation with Raghav is bit forced for me. Why should she give all kasam and all to Baba and that too to VD, found it so weird after her strongly opposing his behaviour. And why does she have to stay away from Raghav to look after Mandar ? I am still finding it unrealistic to see her strong attachment to D family. Other than Aayi & Kaka, I just can’t relate her attachment to anyone else there. Even after Aayi herself said that Mandar isn’t her responsibility anymore, why can’t she back off a bit and set her priorities right. I just saw a new BTS, looks like Mandar is again going to try suicide. Please can someone push that man down because I just can’t stand him anymore. What is his obsession with Pallavi? And how is Pallavi allowing him to take advantage of her so much ? I’m really upset with the writers in spoiling Pallavi’s character. I have been trying so hard to justify her character but some scenes have been very badly written. I have no idea what they are trying to show by pulling on such a separation. For god’s sake, they are husband and wife and who is stopping them from meeting each other ? I don’t understand why she needs to stay away from him and look after Mandar. And looks like this isn’t going to be resolved any time soon. Sorry for the long rant. Was thinking I shouldn’t but I have been struggling to watch it as I don’t want to leave the show halfway as well.

Originally posted by: Inese_20

According to me, what makes it easier to understand Raghav more in the current scenario is the fact that the emotion he’s undergoing is a very usual one. We all have known this insecurity and fear too well at some point in our lives. But honestly how many of us have even witnessed a situation that Pallavi is in. A widow living with her in laws. The in-laws with whom she shares a cordial relationship with and treat them as her own parents. Let’s not forget that she is an orphan by birth. That is bound to have an impact here. They are now her ex in-laws to us, but to her VD remains a father figure only. I had a tiff with my parents years ago, and it went so bad in my head that I didn’t speak to them for months. At that time I was sure I was never going to. But today I am as attached to them as I ever was. What made me snap out of my ignorance was seeing my father hurting due to my behaviour. I put all my complaints to rest then and there. I couldn’t see him like that. You don’t forget, maybe you don’t even forgive but you melt down. You can’t be bitter or harsh for too long, especially to your family, that too in the situations which are already too hard on them. Because at the end of the day you are a human with varying range of emotions. That is exactly what’s happening here!

Another thing is, we equate Pallavi with ourselves. I would have done this or that in her situation. But she is not us. Sabka apna apna tareeka, timimg hota hai deal krne ka.

Example- if a friend comes and tells me that I hurt them with my words, but according to me my words were well known facts which shouldn’t have hurt anybody under normal circumstances : what should be my counter response?

1) itna toh kuch hua bhi nhi. You are overreacting.

2) or I should stop and think maybe this person is very sensitive. Or maybe she is going through certain difficult circumstances that a trivial things feels like a huge deal to her. Or maybe it has something to do with her past experiences that my words were hurtful uske liye.

I prefer going (2) way. If someone comes and tells me they are hurt- so they are hurt. Period.

I don’t get to decide if they should or should not feel hurt. What’s not hurtful for me might be extremely painful for them. And vice versa.

So I see pallavi in this light only. If she’s telling me that she still feels attached and responsible towards her in-laws toh baat whin khatam. IMO, I don’t get to decide how she should or should not feel. There must be so many factors which have lead to this.

Wow Parul you are a really grounded person! Love what you have said here. I think so many of us girls can relate to Pallavi whether married, single or divorced. Even young or older.

I had a very turbulent relationship with my family for a very long time because of my choice of partner who was English. I was pretty much leading a double life. I didn’t want to give up on my family nor did I want to give up on my man. This really challenged me and tested me. During that time I was still the fun loving, bubbly person I always was and I didn’t give up on my values or beliefs. I was still loyal, giving and respectful to all my loved ones despite their treatment of me but I stood my ground on not caving in. My man eventually did and called it quits. I could go on and on about the trials and tribulations that I faced during that whole period but despite all of that my relationship with my family is now at its best.

There were two things I implemented since to help me overcome all the negativity I faced because of them, I now always put myself first and I also have very clear boundaries with family, friends etc, 3 strikes and you are out!!

Originally posted by: fria319

LOL no problem - this may be easier to bookmark - here's the link to my drama list lol, just sort it by top rated, that's what I would recommend and then you can pick what appeals to you the most based off the show summaries.

https://mydramalist.com/dramalist/8350929

Top recs are always:

• Weightlifting Fairy Kim Bok Joo (for light-hearted college romcom)
• Circle (sci-fi)
• Goblin (for cinematography + bromance)
• Signal (thriller)
• Mad Dog (heist/ensemble cast)
• Its Ok to Not Be Ok (for the acting)
• Fight My Way (adult friends to Lovers Rom-Com)
• Welcome to Waikiki (slapstick comedy - if you like the office, you'll like this)
• Kingdom Season 1 (zombies)

Yay! Thanks a lot Yaar🤗

Originally posted by: drnidsur

U are talking like raghav 😆

When Amma asked him to buy saree n the guy was she owns a sareee shop herself😆

Hume karna padega bcus I don't want that grey saree coming back

She has worn it too many times and uski wajah se I was hoping confession naa ho on that stupid saree🤣🤣

Don't even get me started on that grey saree😵

I'm so glad the confession happened in a pink saree and not that grey one! Pink is their romance colour I swear.. every romantic milestone in their relationship had a pink saree 🤣

At least now the frequency of repeating sarees is less... warna pehle toh we used to get the same saree every two days

It's unbelievable that women have more clothing types than I can even remember and yet Raghav has a better wardrobe than Pallavi... She's the FL for god's sake give her a better wardrobe